I started wearing makeup in my early 20s and ever since, guys who used to ignore me suddenly started showing interest. One guy would repeatedly glance over at me and then step out of the queue he was standing in to smile/stare at me. He'd then proceed to tilt his head and smile at me while I sat down drinking coffee and ditch his friends to just stand behind me. Another guy would constantly try leaning forward to glance at me, he'd then rest his head on his hand and smile at me and quickly look away when caught. Another day, he'd walk back and forth infront of me and flash his eyebrows at me each time, another time, he'd wait for me ahead of a trail just so that he could smile/wink at me while I walked past. One of my guy friends started puckering his lips at me (making a kissy face) and I was just shocked.
I used to initially take some of these as compliments until I got older and realised that these men were just crossing the line and objectifying me for months without ever intending to speak to me. I'm an introvert, I dress modestly most the time and wear makeup. On the contrary, my friends who wear really short clothes and go out clubbing don't face any of this at all- they get treated normally even by the guys who do this to me.
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Just a theory. Your gal pals dressed all flashy are probably projecting some confidence and therefore intimidating (and therefore deterring) these beta males you’re describing who want to glance and smile and leave little breadcrumbs of interest, but lack the confidence to make a move. They are all hoping you do the work for them.
Those guys who have the kind of confidence and willingness to talk to a girl (particularly ones dressed up like you’re describing) are less likely to hit up an introvert like your saying you are. I think you’re unintentionally narrowing your available male demographic. I’ll guess Your probably pretty and feminine so enough woman for them to be interested in but introverted enough to not be attracting the more bold & confident men.
So don't wear makeup if all of that attention is too much.
If accidents are caused by cars, avoid driving. I wear makeup because it makes me confident, and although I like compliments, in no way does makeup demonstrate that men can do things like this for months without intending to talk. I find it amusing that you try to pick fault in me when I do not invite attention. I literally just said girls who actually wear more revealing clothes get less attention
So why are men obligated or intend to talk to you? Because they look at you? That's stupid. What's stopping you from talking to them?
I wasn't finding fault in you either. Stop playing the victim pink anon. You act like guys can't look at you... 😂 😂 😂
Huh? When did I say men were obligated to talk to me? I'm talking only about men who specifically do this to me. If you don't realise that waiting for someone ahead of a trail just to smile/ wink at them until they pass you, puckering your lips and making a kissy face at your friend, walking back and forth infront of someone, flashing your eyebrows at them and doing this for months without approaching them is creepy, then you need help. You just haven't experienced anything similar to understand. Besides, I have tried speaking to them, they just stutter and don't respond well.
Most women wear makeup so that's not even the issue, I just know that I look better with makeup on and that's why I wear it. I'm literally just asking why men do this to women who dress modestly and not at women who wear short revealing clothes.
Because they are stupid and immature? Not too tough to figure that one out.
Yeah I don't have enough experience to understand... thats it... I love when someone 25 years younger than me thinks they know everything...
I was merely saying you just experienced something to this to understand. Literally no-one has experienced everything- neither myself nor you- why so offended and salty at a basic comment LOL?
Besides, for someone in their 50s, what are you doing commenting on dating instead of spending time with your wife and grandkids? You seem to have been very active on here for years, and ask and respond to questions like GaG is your full time job.
You are attracting shy and/or introverted guys.