Why would a guy ask you “how much do you like me “?

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Aguysopinion4799 · Accepted Answer

When he wants to measure the difference of levels between love that you have for each other, can often happen in insecure people but also manipulative relationships.

These examples of insecure characters and manipulative characters are

Insecure - These people are frequently finding it difficult to tell how much their partner appreciates and loves them and finds it difficult to verify what is true or false, possibly because they devaluate themselves to a point they can't understand someone else liking them or because they have severe insecurities that they can't stand seeing their partner interact with other guys and get scared what happened.

Manipulative - These are individuals who use the question of how much do you love me as a way of getting their partners to do things for them that their partner would typically not be comfortable doing, but they get pushed into doing it by a type of guilt method where whenever they say they don't really feel comfortable doing that thing, the individual asks them, you love me don't you? How much do you love me? What would you be willing to do for me? Is this really that bad if we are together? And tricks them into it.

Personally, I have asked someone how much a person liked me before for the purpose of finding out a concrete honest answer of if we were on the same page, that was the only reason, I had no other reason, I just wanted us both to be on the same page and I currently didn't know what one they were on but they knew I was on a certain page, I just had to find out how they felt, turned out they were reading a different book :D

Anon621 · Accepted Answer

I think it could be different things. He could want reassurance. He could also want to know where he stands and if he stands a chance with you with this direct approach. Or possibly he could be asking because when potentially wants something else where let's say if you answer "I like you a lot" and then he could give a reply such as "does that mean we can have sex?" Or perhaps "if you like me that much will you be my girlfriend?"

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

They ask that question besides having trust issues, and possibly not fully trusting your words, but want to know what is the intention of you pursuing them for the relationship. Many people say they love or like a person. But what does that really mean? A lot of people say things they don't understand. He wants to know how serious do you mean by the word "like" because it can be fleeting. Everything has levels. The person wants to make sure they are emotionally connecting with the right kind of person, otherwise, it' becomes a mistake to expect anything more. How much, means exactly as the phrase says like with math. The "worth" of the word "like" according to you, because he will judge based on that and your actions. It's basically saying: How far will you go just to be with that person? That's the true test.

crazyish · Accepted Answer

I think this is a hard question to answer and it's only going to tell him if you like him a lot or not. It's too broad to gain anything from. Personally I would wonder what someone likes about me and what they don't like. He's probably asking to get some sort of reassurances which means he's insecure. I believe he wants to know what degree, if any, of feelings you have for him. To see if it's more than just the superficial level of liking someone considering you can like your friends and whatnot. He lacks experience in figuring and finding these things out from girls and to me, doesn't know the right questions to ask. Sometimes you have to be blunt and just ask him what he's really trying to ask.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I hate those type of questions, I have had them asked of me and I really really try not asking them of others.

they are incredibly leading and often have some annoying hidden agenda or something that bites you.

its almost damned if you do damned if you don’t type of question,

it’s a leading one and just think about how you plan to answer it.

1stranger · Answer

Hmm.. why? He doesn't want to hear the answer to this question directly. He may have asked this question because he want to hear/see more affective words/actions. For exp., I can't express the value of some feelings in words or numbers. Or.. If you look into my eyes, you will understand..

Browneye57 · Answer

There's no hidden meaning there honey. It's a straight-up question.
I know you think guys have some hidden meaning in what they say, like women do, but they just don't. It's a very basic difference between men and women.

I would also guess from this that you have not properly conveyed your feelings for him. If you really love and want him, make sure he knows that. Otherwise he will just think you're not really interested or into him. Don't play games with this - you'll lose big-time.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

That goes 2 ways. If he’s happy looking at you joking after sex jokingly saying “How much fo you like me?”
The other could be they don’t think they can trust you. They think you don’t care about them.
One more could be they want to know if you are worth it.

Chris_u006 · Answer

It's not only about beeing insecure, it sure could be one possible explanation.
Could also be a reach towards equality, to some people It's important to be on the same level as another humanbeeing to be able to function with one another.
The exact same question can be thrown in any direction and caught by anyone and get a bunch of different answers, the truth is though it doesn't have one easy answer, it can have several.
Easiest way to find out would be to just ask.

Firerubies · Answer

Probably to gauge how much you like them. Like do you like them as a friend or lover? If you like them as a friend it would be rude if he started making hits on you. If you like them as a lover he’d probably start trying to have a relationship with you.

Sensmind · Answer

I would say it is just reassurance mode - "I like you - You like me, don't you?" - We all do it especially at early stages of a relationship

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Maybe he's not sure that you like him or he is worried about whether you like him or not he could be puzzled about things, he could be insecure about things?

DJB72 · Answer

Insecurity perhaps. I've asked similar questions when I was trying to work out how I felt about someone. Then there's been a couple of times a girl asked me too.

kkirk4442 · Answer

Because he's a little inept at talking to women, and he wants to know if you like him.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

He's insecure, it's fine early on, but if you have to keep reassuring him, it's a problem.

AzzaBlue · Answer

Maybe he has had a previously relationship where his feelings weren't reciprocated. Therefore maybe he wants to be sure where he stands with you.

ConnorJHutton531 · Answer

Either he’s insecure or he’s trying to sound sweet (... I guess 😕.) Looks pretty insecure to me.

_Troian_ · Answer

Well.. not my way, it sounds stupid to ask it. It's better to discover it yourself, he seems not so experienced when it comes to talking with woman.

DWornock · Answer

He wants assurance or he wants to know. Men are not like you, they don't say one thing and mean another. Only women do that.

Anonymous · Answer

Because he has self doubt maybe you are not showing him much care

1amcurious · Answer

Just a romantic question, I believe. Also it feels good to get pampered back with the answers.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

He's trying to see how much you like him its self explanatory

Shy_Steve · Answer

He is trying work out how much you like him because it sounds like he really likes you.

fred_durst · Answer

because he wouldn't know if he didn't ask , he is not mind reader

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why a girl would ask you “how much do you like me "

princeofromance · Answer

He is really into you, and wants to get a read if you share those same feelings.

ALewis30 · Answer

Maybe he's curious about how attracted you are to him

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

He wants to know how much you like him🤷🏼‍♀️

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

It seems like this is a leading question,🤔✌️

exitseven · Answer

He is a little insecure with the relationship.

WesBrewer · Answer

He wants to know if you like him, most likely.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

The same reason a girl would

Dayman343 · Answer

He wants to find out how much you like him 😂

In_Trance · Answer

Because he wants to know how much you like him

jerdanro · Answer

Because they like you.

Asianguy123 · Answer

he wants to know that how much you like him?

Calgarydirty69 · Answer

get over yourself, you don't ask that

dudeinohio · Answer

maybe he likes you?

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I don’t know

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

why do you think

David_Bayer · Answer

He wants reassurance

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