What to do when a guys interest and effort has slowed?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this guy for a few months now. He says he likes me and enjoys my company and having me around. We get along super well and have intense sexual chemistry (we’ve been intimate but not had sex yet) but he doesn’t seem to be pursuing as much as he was when we first started seeing each other. He will go days without calling or messaging me to the point where I always end up reaching out to him. It’s been a few weeks since he initiated any communication first and it’s starting to bug me. How can I get him to start making more of an effort again?

[Changiis07]

Yeah no!! If he goes days with no call and no texts you are wasting your time. You want someone who wants you as much as you do. Who puts effort everyday. It needs to be mutual so you have to do the same effort as they do. Match what they do. But don't waste your time with this one. Maybe he is talking to other woman or does not want a relationship. You need to set boundaries

[spartan55]

Are you still making an effort and showing interest? Better yet, have you done anything in that regard? Or are you just expecting him to make all the effort?

[Leavesbound]

If he's older he may have an issue with E. D. and be hesitant. Find out but ask gently. His ego may be fragile.

[FilmGuy93]

Tell him. Just say it flat out. Don't get accusatory, don't put a bunch of extra stuff into it, just tell him that you would feel like he desired you more if he took more initiative

[In_Trance]

I think you're stuck in your own head and your interested slowed. You project it on him to feel better about yourself and the situation.

[1stranger]

Changiis07 is right.