Why do guys stop putting in effort after a while?

Question

So disappointing. You ruin your own relationships.

Pasiton5 · Accepted Answer

Yes women are more active in a relationship I mean planning holiday meals birthday posted women are just more involved, dudes well they see their time as provider protector and that's more than enough for animal post me my PlayStation 8 controller thank you when and what's for dinner, honey, as to why they do putting in effort is up for debate, women need to be satisfied emotionally more than sexually, and it's a lifetime affair with women they must be simulated in various ways dudes they look at it as we got the kids were got a home we are married and I got a job 9 to 5s and we are coasting to death, life is good we set and pass me the PlayStation20 controller, as long as a man have what he needs to take care of provide for his family that's it life on cruise control and it's sex once in a while cause I'm his mind set she's happy so far as he's concern mission accomplished and from that point in is what must change, because a woman is wired differently she cares about kids home and dude cruising but she needs to be satisfied emotionally still always not be neglected or not shown any emotion and thus is what guys doing fully understand that emotionally in a marriage or relationship you can't just relax think this are fine and not continue to show affection pain attention involved with your wife or girl, why she cheats stay away act out women instead of leaving it to you guy to figure it out on his own tell him be more vocal box your dissatisfaction only by taking together can both of you cruise to the end together happy

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Reality is, it's easy to get lazy at anything that is familiar for any human. We always need new stimulation and fresh challenges, so it's good to do that together.

you reminded me to keep putting in effort to keep her smiling. We've been doing new adventures, so hopefully that helps and lots of newness. I did that this evening for her to do something different, dinner at new place... was really good Italian. I also have been working on fixing my core, trying a new technique.. keep in shape. Look for new places to go. Were redecorating.

I'll chock it up to short term memory, laziness syndrome, getting comfortable, human genetics, male psychology. I know myself and other guy... at least one that are fine with the old stuff and same routine and stuff. I wear same clothes forever as ex.. It may be women need more stimulation than men to feel "alive"? Or is it not m/f but some personality types?

What is the definition of "effort"? Like effort to look, smell, sound good.. keep in shape? Effort to keep things interesting? to change? The reasons people give up can be many.

JustAnj · Accepted Answer

A lot could be going on with him in himself that might be making him feel less valuable. People in general tend to reflect how they are feeling and only can project the best part of who they are when they feel thier best. This could be due to feeling like he could be at a better job, he could be doing more, he is feeling not good enough to himself, feeling unable to give. It can be a lot of reasons.

Maybe talk to him see how he is feeling about his life and we're it's going and where he is at now. Tell him you noticed he has seemed more distant and you want to understand if there is anyway you can support him. That's the best thing you can do. We all have our moments and it can take time to grow from those things that keep us from being our best selves.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Yep they take her for granted.
It's human nature, and both genders do it, but some guys seem to fall back into their comfort level and laziness of before they were in a relationship. Too bad. There is a balance, and happy medium, between letting it all hang out and not giving a damn and being stubborn and defiant, and putting in enough effort to still remind your partner that they still matter to you.

Anonymous · Answer

What? This is ironic because I was going to ask the same redundant, rhetorical question about girls myself lol.. At least your question is valid for your age. At my age I already know the answer to this. Its because the challenge isn't there, COMPLACENCY.
Truth is MOST PEOPLE, despite gender (or genderless?) don't do more than what's necessary. All of us are self-serving beings. Its our nature. To do what feels best to us even if its bad for us. But there are two sides to this answer/question. There's the partner who goes out of their way of character to impress and sell you on a particular trait or feature to lure in a mate. I like to call it "PEACOCKING" (the original catfish). I'll give you a personal example. I start talking to a girl from a dating app and first impression, she looks pretty innocent and sweet. Based on her profile bio she sounds the part as well. I was in search of a non-rachet at the time to try something new and different. Well upon talking to her I quickly realized that she was a dirty debutant of debauchery. I liked it and was spun in her web where I thought I was the spider lol. Well she was down for whatever I could think up and more that I couldn't or at least didn't think at the time. But no innocence there. In the beginning she sold me on her filthy fun abilities, had no problem paying for shit I couldn't afford, bought me shit just because and even gave me money towards my rent simply to help me out because she had the money to give. Great right? Keeper right? Well it comes down to one night we decided to have random car sex some place around here that's just a good place to park and poke. Afterwards she asked me something along the lines of what am I looking for and slipped in an underhanded ultimatum of making her my official girlfriend. She only prioritizes commitments. Well since I wasn't in the market to make shit official with another ratchet, I politely told her I don't like titles and will only ruin something good. Eventually my dick agreed to these demands and we were "official" for a very, undetermined amount of time before going back to a toxic version of where we started. friends with benefits. Her profile advertised "seeking: long-term relationship" but just wanted the "D". She gave me the best fellatio I've ever experienced. Oral so good its ruined porn for me because she's better in my head.
My point is, we've been messing around since December to now. She went from going above and beyond girlfriend duties to seal the deal to (present day) she doesn't do anything remotely impressing whatsoever. The head is mediocre but pales in comparison. I tend to be the initiator every time, she never dresses to impress or ever wants to really do shit like before. Now we're not together but we live together she doesn't even shower before bed or shave her coochie anymore which is definitely the standard and the exception

Aethereal · Answer

I once read a story about a husband who did nice things for his wife, but she eventually stopped appreciating it and instead came to expect it, and took all that for granted. It's possible you got so used to some of the things he does do that you now take it for granted and want more. But I don't know the details of the relationship.

You see a similar issue with work: if you work really hard, and overachieve, you just get more work given to you, with little or no extra reward. That is extremely demoralizing.

A relationship needs to be reciprocal, and no one should take the other's actions for granted and stop appreciating them. More importantly, never up the ante once you get used to certain things e. g. He cleaned the apartment alone a few times so now he should always do it (or do it more often), he made you breakfast in bed while you were sick and now you expect breakfast in bed all the time, etc.

We are taught to "level up" our expectations in life when we reach certain points e. g. stop renting and buy a house when you have a higher income, etc. Evolving expectations are useful in general life. But I think applying them to a relationship is as dangerous as lowering your initial expectations of your partner.

MrOracle · Answer

The excitement of a new relationship is never going to be completely sustainable. That "honeymoon phase" is nice, but it ends, and after that, things are no longer "new" and not as exciting. That's true of both men and women. At that point, you have to actually WORK on it. But not everyone does, and not everyone puts the same importance on everything.

For example, you might have a guy who does the dishes because it's important to him that the kitchen is clean - but maybe he leaves his socks on the floor, or he leaves tools and parts out in the garage. Maybe the girl used to wear dresses all the time and look feminine, but now, 9 months into a relationship, she wears nothing but pants. Neither is the end of the world, but over time, things like that can annoy you, and you have to work at communicating and being accepting of the other person's faults.

Too many people get into relationships expecting a Disney fairy tale, "happily ever after" situation (which does not exist and never has), and when things start getting even a little tough, they want to give up and check out. That's one of the reasons men are so much less interested in serious relationships today: women are the ones who leave the relationship over 80% of the time, and it's often over minor issues.

wtf636 · Answer

Men do do this, but I would also argue, most women do not put in effort from the very beginning of a relationship, and those are the women that men usually stop putting effort into. It gets old to constantly be the one giving and never receiving.

We have to ask you out, find a place to go, pick you up, pay for everything, keep that going until you become our girlfriend, and then even further to get you to become our wife. Then add kids, and we have to do it for them too. Women expect a lot of "effort" from men constantly. You are so used to it, you don't even realize you do it.

But what effort do women put in? Just looking nice... What do you do for your man? Do you show him that you care about him? Do you cook something for him without him asking? Do you give him massages? Do you plan stuff to do for both of you? Do you put in the effort you are looking to receive basically? A lot of women expect men to do everything for them with basically only sex in return. Which is standard, not effort.

And then, after all that, when the man is finally comfortable enough with you and confident that you love him, he might feel like he can let up a bit. That maybe he doesn't have to do all this anymore, then we aren't trying or putting in "effort". anymore. All our fault, move on to the next, rinse and repeat.

Nik1hil · Answer

It's one of the biggest problem in male psychology..
For males sex with same women every next time provides less and less pleasure.. So they put less and less effort...

For women it's opposite..

So you need to keep a men hooked on you.
Start by hand jobs in dating..
Sex after marriage.
Start Blowjobs after 2 years of marriage! So his enthusiasm renews..
Anal after 5 years of marriage.

Then there is- pick something new every month..

Roleplays!
- nurse- patient
- doctor - patient.
- Air hostess.
- sorority girl.
- school girl.
- dirty nun..
-Dominatrix

Cosplay-- become the female characters he like from movies or TV show.
- Hermione granger.
- Cinderella
- snow white.
- power Ranger ( female)
- Cat-girl

Pick his fucked up desires.. That you don't find repulsive..
- Beastiality, Necrophilia, incest, rape fetish Put them in Roleplay.. (everyone has fucked up desires...

It doesn't matters what you do..

YOUR GOAL : DO NOT LET THAT GRAPH OF "PLEASURE FOR HIM FROM SEX WITH YOU" DOWNTREND.

as long as you keep him sexually excited.. You can manipulate him into placing efforts into relationships..

Omario2049 · Answer

Oh wow. So we're just gonna pretend this is exclusively a male issue? It's typically low motivation and unambitious men who fall to this circumstance. I stay in shape for several reason
1. Stay healthy and fit to avoid sickness
2. Have energy to keep up with my kids, both current and future
3. Dick women down into oblivion.
4. Look great.
5. Maximize my attractiveness to the opposite sex.
Etc.
I personally frown upon men who let themselves go as I believe it's a lack of drive, purpose and ambition. When a man makes getting A woman his goal and purpose, he'll just get complacent as soon as he believes he got his desire. Same if it's a house, car or kids or whatever. It's the same thing for women. Which is why married people tend to have that complacency look about them more often. The women are fat and messy and so is the man. They've both given up on life. I try not to judge people like that however I don't want that at all for my self. What particularly irritates me is when I see a mismatch, she's fat and he's fit or he's fat and she's fit. Usually women are less tolerant of this, the man MUST be a great provider for her to be ok with this.

kmg9150 · Answer

Efforts only put forth when one has the desire to do so. Motivational reasons have altered or disappeared..

Maybe we are not meant to have monogamist sexual relationships. If you take the belief of sleeping with another person is bad, would that still create the workings of becoming bored with the one your only supposed to be with... Think of it like a friendship, you dont only have one friend. there's different reasons for being friends with each one, if you only hung around them you would get bored and want space, dont mean they ain't your friend anymore... What wrong with allowing other people to feel the same about a great lover from one to the next. Sex and intimacy is not some sacred act that should be viewed as it does, its tools of manipulation when not done for reproductive purpose. If thats the case then why is all of a sudden so important to share with one person when "committed"? Tacos are not more meaningful because Im the only one eating them. Selfish to want to keep someone all to themselves, using marriage to declare legal "ownership" of another. The world is changing.

John8298 · Answer

I did this too and you need to just let the guy know. We get comfortable and stop changing, most of you women don't like when we stop changing for you. There are two ways around this, be worth constantly changing our lives and personalities up for or ask us why we are so comfortable. Most of the time we'll answer with something nice like, "I like how we are right now, I am comfortable with you, I am happy like this" If you come out the gate with "you aren't treating me good enough, you don't try anymore" You just made us think that being happy is not okay. Be nice and make requests and don't make us feel attacked. You will be rewarded.

InfobotLives · Answer

I think that this can happen to girls as well as guys but I would not be surprised if guys are more prone to becoming lazy as they start to treat a partner like a substitute mother. The reason for either sex becoming lazy in a relationship is usually when everything becomes too comfortable, they become too secure and they just stop trying. It's a bit like how you might treat a physical possession with the utmost cats when it's new but when it's ten years old you become more neglectful.

There is no real surprise solution to fixing this, it's as simple as putting in effort and not taking things for granted. If one of you stops doing that then you need a reminder. Don't keep being the one to make everything happen. Talk about the situation, ask for change.

ohshee · Answer

Because usually they're girlfriend allows it to happen those guys are freaking lazy anyway but the moment you see it happening you need to step up and say hey I want to go out this Friday night you need to have a job because we need money to go out if you allow him to get away with something he's going to take advantage of it that's not all guys that's probably about 6 out of 10 and then but then they will have an excuse and then you'll be the bad guy for bringing it up because it's been going on for a long time and to be honest look at it like this they're just proven to you who they really are when something happens or needs to happen so if you are and you do have a choice

EmbraceThePain · Answer

I think this can apply to everyone in the world when it comes to them already accomplishing their goals. For example, when you succeed or accomplish something, it’s unlikely that you will continue to work as hard as you did before you accomplished that thing. Now, you still may work hard, but I doubt it will be the same as before. The same thing can be applied to relationships. In the beginning, the parties involved will spruce themselves up, overthink certain things, and be careful over everything they say because they want to keep a good impression over the other party. Now, as you get more comfortable with the person, you stop worrying about them hearing your fart, seeing you without makeup, saying that dress actually doesn’t look good on you, etc. Perhaps putting in effort after accomplishing a goal, identical to before accomplishing it, is unsustainable and impossible.

Anonymous · Answer

It can be many things: their feelings for someone may have changed, they may feel like their partner is not putting effort themselves, etc.

While it can be disappointing, just remember that there is always a honeymoon phase. Everything is sugar and rainbows until that phase ends; it may last for a week or for others it can last forever.

If you have been together for a long time, you should expect things to slow down. So long as they are keeping loyal and are open to treat you (and are being treated, you know, sharing is caring) then the lack of effort should never be an issue.

Effably · Answer

I'd like to assume it is not your fault here but you failed to describe it at all. Did not clarify the before, after or what you do yourself. No mention of the present, state of the relationship and so on.

What I am saying is you put no effort into the question. If that is indicative of your usual approach to things the problem might be you.

As for why guys stop, you really need to be realistic. Part of it is just that we start assuming a 50/50 split on effort.
Part is that a stable relationship requires meaningful effort but should not require mandatory effort. Having a rough month? Effort might drop. Something special happening? Might try extra to show you care.
As for your specific situation I have no idea because you did not describe anything about it.

skel47 · Answer

This can be due to a lot of factors, but first if all your comment isn't particuarly a question sounds more like a projection. I'd say people often try 10x harder at the start of a relationship so your expectations of the relationship might be higher then what theyre actually used to doing. I often actually have the opposite, i put in effort but my partners dont because of the availability of other potential partners, and just aren't trying to be the best them. Long story short, both sides do this and its common. Try to have dates more often and emphasize treating them the same way you want to be treated.

ronaldo75 · Answer

Because many women stop being worth the effort and the chase after a while. Too many women appear to be the amazing beings in the beginning after a while all your flaws and bullshit start to appear to the point us men you're not what we expected. It's happened to me and every guy I know more than once.

Y'all lie and talk yourselves up to be more than what you are, we men do all this work to try and impress you and in the end we discover you're basic, ordinary and not particular special. It's a huge let down.

Question_091 · Answer

I will say that the same effort put into getting to know someone when dating should be the same as when in a relationship or marriage, it should never diminish. However, this has to be communicated to men, because we tend to lay back when we think we got our woman, so we'll good, but in actuality, we could lose her without knowing it because we loss sight of the goal.

Men in relationships may not realize this sometimes, so this has to expressed by the SO in a way, to remind men how we got our woman in the first place.

In addition, if a man is expected to put in effort in the relationship, the woman should be expected to put in the required amount as well.

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

Not every guy understands the purpose of hygiene, fitness and good looks. It is beyond getting a girl. It glorifies God. It blesses your world. With or without my girl, these things are core for me, so after our marriage it will still be part of my life.

Adam1978 · Answer

Sounds like you are a nagging. It's the perfect recipe for killing a guys efforts. Your blind for his efforts and counting everything you do even things he doesn't care at all. If only the effort you see count. So should only the effort you do he acknowledge count. Otherwise you have bad measurements. You should not need to track his every move and count every action. Relationship should be friction free and you are a friction maker not some trying to make it a smooth experience for both parties.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

We, or at least some of us, enjoy new challenges. Doing the same thing day after day to maintain a relationship gets mundane and we lose interest. We get complacent and stop putting in effort because it's not apparent that we need to. There's no "fire" to put out, or start, it's just what it was the day before, and the day before that, for weeks on end.

Relationships work best when you aren't trying to make something dynamic fit into a static box.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

It's always been the opposite for me. I try way harder towards the relationship and dating then the women I've talked to my entire life, no joke. I'm always disappointed in the end from her efforts. This is usually what loses my interest is when she isn't trying hard enough being lazy.

dezzman98 · Answer

It may not be that they aren't putting in effort anymore as much as you're so used to the effort they put in that you don't see it anymore. Say a man always opens the door for a woman, after a few years it's going to be normal for the man to do that and isn't seen as effort anymore in people's eyes

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

Not that I’ve ever dated, but they usually find a better, more interesting, more exciting, prettier girl, or they just get sick of you because you start trusting them too much and confiding in them more than you should, then when you realize you probably shouldn’t have told him all that, it’s too late because the messages have already been sent, and he just stops texting you which is the nicest way of saying “leave me alone and take your problems to someone else.”

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Learn to love, understand your man. Learn to communicate with him.
On your end, be that sexy woman he wants, not the nagging, clingy, bitchy frustrated "girlfriend" he doesn't want to talk, hear from.
Give you both some time off from this...1-2 months. If he isn't making plans, calling. You have your answer. This is prob. not what you want to hear... same like you don't want to hear most of the honest opinion from here.

Anon621 · Answer

I'm not sure personally I think regardless of gender some people will just stop putting in effort for whatever reason. For me personally as someone that identifies as a guy it's a part of my values to put effort into a relationship because I have learned from situations in the past where I did not put effort in and the relationship unsurprisingly ended not too long afterwards but I suppose the relationship can end even if you put effort in.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

Ok at the start of a relationship everyone goes in on their best behaviour it's how it works. But that takes up a lot of energy. Now sooner or later you have to get to know the real person. Probably isn't lack of effort it's you've just got expectations that it will be the same as the start for ever. I'm afraid it won't. But I'd imagine you're doing things a bit different from. the first couple of dates too.

Riebeck · Answer

Because we have to put on a facade just for you to start liking us. If we're not a happy loon who can't stop smiling and telling stories for just an hour, you immediately lose interest. After we finally have our hooks in you, that's when we can finally be ourselves.

scott04sa22 · Answer

The reason why I stopped looking because any girl who meets me she always goes to someone else after me then she quickly settles down with him / her. A few months ago I met this woman who was looking for anal sex and she was single and wasn't looking for any types of relationships then after we were finished. I haven't heard back from her until recently I reached out to her then she told me the news that she's in a relationship with a girl and her girlfriend who when I was alone with her she told me she's trying to propose to the girl who I fucked her ass. I tried telling people about my curse but they think it's bologna which it's really not and I don't believe in coincidences

JSmuve · Answer

Because the effort they did put in was never sustainable. They get comfortable or the woman stops appreciating the effort and takes it for granted. Just like how women put in effort into their appearance but after he says I do, she puts on 30 pounds in the wrong spots and walks around in grungy sweatpants.

sawno · Answer

Because most end up putting extra effort in to win girls over, its a road to disaster because your setting unrealistic expectations you will eventually not be able to keep up. Just be yourself, thats something you can keep up forever.

crazy8000 · Answer

Can be multiple reasons

What you put in you get out.
What the other one put in the other one get out.
Attitude.
Priority.
Health/mental issues.
The other one is toxic as person.
Toxic relationship.
Mismatch.
Dysfunction in relationship like sex/communication.
To high standards.
Unrealistic standards.
Delusional standards.
To low standards.
One way relationship.

Very common both ways no matter gender.

aqua0101 · Answer

Most of the time it happens , when they start taking you for granted. Your partner thinks you're always going to be there and put up with their bad behavior.

ToastyOats · Answer

Its because their balls are empty. People think im crazy or gay or whatever but I've had several relationships where I withheld my seed for the whole time and never suffered this loss of energy and motivation you describe. Not that it helped because the women I was with were whores but hey, thats why.

Moimaris · Answer

Men and women both have to put effort in. But they also need to know how they can meet each other’s needs. I don’t have a boyfriend and much experience but I would do anything for a man. I have much love and caring to give. Unfortunately men are seduced by non genuine women with sex. And because I don’t show al my cards in the beginning I’m called lazy to let the men do all the work first. I also think this generation needs to know what unconditional love is

Twisted666 · Answer

Dating is like putting on a act. Honestly. You shut up and try to make your person like you. Then after you accomplish that. You try even harder for them to love you. But once thats over, people become confident and comfortable thinking that love is enough to keep them around for awhile without the same constant act.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Relationships are a 2 way street. If the woman stops trying.. so does the guy!

serious · Answer

I doubt there can be concrete answer for this. There can be many reasons and some of them maybe like not being physically attracted to their partners anymore, falling out of love, losing interest etc etc.

raw_is_war99 · Answer

I think guys who want to stay in shape to get pussy are bound to let themselves go once he has a girlfriend or a wife. Guys who want to be in shape for themselves and not care about getting attention and more female prospects are usually the one's who want that health mantra even until their 70s and 80s.

nathanp97 · Answer

Because they aren't getting the same effort back. It isn't worth putting in all the work if your partner comes to expect it and doesn't do the same for u in return.

JackSmy · Answer

I'm a guy, and I don't understand it!! If I am liking her, yeah, I am focusing on her, and chatting, and making dates, and wanting to be with her, and get to know more about her!!!

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

I dont stop putting effort into a relationship when I am in one because then I am not doing my part to be apart of that relationship. If I were to stop putting in effort that would mean I dont care about the relationship or the woman anymore and maybe I need to end the relationship.

FatherJack · Answer

You should meet my ex wife... the epitome of " letting yourself go " !! In addition , her worsening attitude meant I binned her , and took on single parenthood. Does apply to everyone , not just men. I also did all the chores , she did absolutely F all , she was a burden , an all round ( literally ) pain in the ass !

Anonymous · Answer

Because women don't put in the effort the guy did.

He's the one who had to put in all the effort for the chase, all the money, and the woman thinks she doesn't have to reciprocate, so we learn they aren't really worth all the effort after a while.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol, maybe he thinks she ruined it, or the juice isn't worth squeeze. Women can't help themselves at times from being a pain in the ass. It can cause us to get tired and tune you out. That's why it's common to see guys really getting the ball rolling in their favor once they break up with some bitch.

Anonymous · Answer

Your question is vague. What exactly do you mean by effort? Is it appearance? Planning fun and romantic dates? Contributing to household chores? Or something else?

Maybe they take the relationship for granted. Someone like me has to put in perpetual effort due to lacking in the looks department. Some guys have the looks + the dont give a shit attitude and dont appreciate the girls their with because of the abundance mentality the may or may not possess.

But you need to specify...

tuvwxyz · Answer

This question is your answer = because the woman blames the man as the source of the issue - not denying his involvement - but did you ever ask yourself what you might do to motivate men to stop putting in effort? I don't see a effort to analyze the problem mutually as a result of both sides, only judge the man for things not going to your preference, then wondering why there's issues.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Because it's not sustainable. It takes a lot of work and money to put your best foot forward all the time. Seeing as how women let shit go just as fast as men, it's tough to make an argument that men should continue putting in effort for little to no reciprocation.

TripleAce · Answer

Cause it’s a lot of work to constantly entertain girls or woo them. Eventually we need that from her too cause usually it’s from us at first

Anonymous · Answer

Because the whole point is to get to that stage. Guys do the things expected of them and jump through the hoops, but once they get the girl that’s when you get to settle into the relationship and *actually enjoy* it, without all the rigamarole.

ARealHonestHuman · Answer

Guts like new things to happen. once the new fades away it becomes boring and we stop putting effort. Try telling a guy "hey lets do something new" he will get up then give the effort you call

Anonymous · Answer

Because girls amp up the demands at the same time their p*ssy is becoming routine and their moves boring as access becomes increasingly conditional substituting starvation as motivation rather than desire. In other words, increasing costs with diminishing returns and frustration over supply issues.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Mutual interest and mutual effort drive a relationship. Onesides ends quickly.

cth96190 · Answer

Not all men. I have always maintained myself, primarily through martial arts. Most of my life there was no woman for whom to do it.

Celtero · Answer

Because to usually attract women, men have to put in high effort and maintaining that level of effort gets tiresome after a while.

MzAsh · Answer

Too many women allow them to without consequences so they think they can.

red_knight · Answer

Firstly it takes 2 to tango. Guys do this when they want to, match energies or relax, women do this too..

I had a girl tell me to shave my beard off but she couldnt remove her armpit and bikini region hair coz she can't change for a man. Do you see the hippocricy? "A man who shaves his beard for pussy deserves neither the beard nor the pussy"

y'all get away with it because if someone says anything you throw the biggest tantrum ever, flip out like a mad woman and spew things like:

"oh you watch it hoes, you dont value me, you only care about my looks and think coz you can act this way you'll getaway with it"

If you dont want a slacker, dont yourself slack at all..

Why do guys stop putting in effort after a while?

Granted women are beautiful.. more then men are lol

Mikeysoda · Answer

I think everyone gets complacent and too comfortable over time if they don't take time to make sure they are intentional.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Same reason women do I would think. You get comfortable. As you age you become less vain and it seems less important.

JakeS00 · Answer

Because depending on the guy who isn't self-disciplined, has a skewed perception, or is immature, it will be lackluster in their efforts to hold a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

What the heck? Why are the expecting he to do all efforts? If you see the guy has stopped you can "rewire his brain" or teach him how you like things. Like if you want him to give you a gift every annyversary give him 1 that will maybe make him think he could do same in return.

williamHD · Answer

Some find someone better others find out a girls got a boyfriend and even if she’s flirting it’s not worth it. Could be a million reasons why

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