"Do they stop trying after they get the girl?"
Yes, very much so. Not all men of course, but most.
When a guy is interested in a girl, his "goal" is to get with the girl
Guys realize that conversation is a key aspect to getting a girl's heart, so when they are in the courting phase, they use conversations as a means to "achieve his goal."
When he has "achieved" this, deep conversation isn't a means to an end anymore. So a lot stop with this.
Don't however, blame the guy for just "using" this to get to you. A lot of guys simply just don't realize that conversation like this will be important to the girl at any stage in the relationship.
The best thing for you to do, is to talk to him about him in a positive way. In general, when girls are upset a lot of them tend to bring it up in a accusatory way, like "you never talk to me anymore!" etc, because this will only put the guy in a defensive mode.
You can say something like "We used to have these deep conversations, but it doesn't happen that often anymore. I really enjoy them, and I'd like it if we could have them like we used to"; while smiling.
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if I found a nice girl, and is willing to try just as hard as me. no I wouldn't stop trying. but I have stop trying to pull women, and approaching them. I think could be spending more time on focusing doing better things with my energy.
there shouldn't be a problem with a girl approaching me. it really comes down to the guy you meet. how good your relationship will be.
Yes. Guys were taken care of most of their young life by mommy. They did whatever they needed to do to scrape by. Most don't outgrow that. Like Mom, you have to train him to do his "chores" like a child. Want conversation, you have to trade praise or sexual favors or listening to him prattle on about his favorite sports team. Etc. Guys don't sit around thinking about how to make other people happy unless there is a direct reward to them. That's more of how their brains are wired. Women go neurotic trying to do everything the right way to make everyone happy, that's how our stupid brains are wired.
You can't blame guys -- not putting in any effort when you can get away with it is really the life!
Real men never stop trying to impress his women. If anything the relationship should be getting stronger if there's a true connection between you two. When they stop trying kick them to the curb because he might not really be into you it might be want is he getting from you or gaining from you. Think about it.
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It depends on the guy, some do stop and that's the big mistake. A relationship is very hard work and incredibly difficult to maintain, Patience is also key on boths sides. If this guy isn't trying, he needs a bit of a wake-up slap.
I never stop trying
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