Do guys ever stop seeing looks as more important than everything else?

[Anonymous]

I noticed that guys my age usually think very highly of looks.
Most of them don't really care whether a girl is smart, talented, fun, kind, chatismatic, mature, wealthy, their type personality wise... The only 2 things that matter is if she has a hot body and a nice face.
The same applies to themselves, a lot of guys think they can't get girls because they're ugly or skinny/fat but you quickly notice that they're not smart, they're not fun to spend time with, they don't have any relevant hobbies, they're immature, they're don't have enough money to provide for a cool date, they're not romantic, they're often mean and bigoted...
A lot of my male friends date the craziest (lowkey abusive shit, makes them steal from their family, forbids them from seeing their friends, emotional neglectful) and most boring girls I've seen just because they're pretty or hot and were into them which is very frustrating. Another thing that I find frustrating is being doubtful towards any guy's interests towards me because I know they're pretty much only after my looks and would probably leave me for someone with bigger boobs if they had the chance.
Don't even try to convince me it's not true. Might not be the case for EVERY guy but that's the case for 95% of them.
I just wanna know, is that a phase that guys go through and once they mature enough they grow out of it (like girls about being the introvert uninteresting average looking girl in highschool and being noticed by a prince charming) or do I have to look for that 5%?
Also, if it's a phase, WHEN do they grow out of it?

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Also forgot to mention but before any misunderstandings I'm not saying looks are not important too. It's just that I can count on one hand guys in my age range I know that consider looks pretty much the only important factor in whether or not a girl is a potential date and wouldn't overlook important stuff like if she's genuinely a decent person, if they really have anything in common, etc.

[FreeMan6354]

If the only thing about a woman a guy is attracted to is her looks he won't be interested in having an actual relationship with her. Yes, he'll be interested in having sex with her once or a few times, but after that he'll have no interest in her at all. If a guy is going to want to be in a real relationship with a girl she's got to have qualities he's attracted to other than just looks.

Don't get me wrong, a lot of guys still do think looks matter (and can be kind of vain). Being physically/sexually attracted to my girlfriend is pretty important to me (which I am, by the way). However, she's got to have more than just looks for a guy to be interested in being with her beyond having sex a few times.

Also, if your boyfriend (or husband) wasn't physically attracted to you but thought you had a lot of other great qualities would that not bother you? When I ask that question to most women they tell me they'd have an issue if they didn't think their husband/boyfriend was physically attracted to them.

[Anonymous]

Most women have no idea what's been going on in the dating market for the last 50 years... even though their choices and desires have been part of what shaped it. When you consider looks, you need to also consider the deeper aspect of what it represents which is genetic health and viability.

But ultimately, the men that were able to look deeper, who were nice, and who may have been more serious relationship minded were never the ones women found attractive and it's the same to this day. With the explosion of the internet and men sharing what's going on, those nice guys that would have still tried for a relationship have now been walking away and deciding to remain single. The other guys that are still in the market are only looking for casual stuff. Therefore if you go for older men, you will either find they have just walked away altogether, or only looking for sex.

You should also consider that when the 'free sex' movement arose, much of the things that men may have looked to a woman for beyond her looks became diminished. Therefore they either walk, or just look for sex... and when they only look for sex looks is the primary focus.

[TheSpaceGnome]

1. Looks always matter.

2. Wealth never matters (and since you mentioned the guy paying for dates, I feel the need to point out that wealth never matters for EITHER gender, and expecting a guy to pay for dates is absurd).

3. She needs to be smart, kind, loving, monogamous, and share my hobbies and interests and goals, and not want any kids, and not be a gold digger. But if she is all of that, and I don't find her sexually attractive, it will never be anything more than just friends, because while compatibility is required to get along well, compatibility AND sexual attraction is required to date/marry.

4. Being dumb and boring isn't a phase, interesting people are interesting from the start.

[DavidRaul]

Well you just hang around wrong boys. I said boys specifically cause they are boys not men. Men would usually judge you on the basis of you mental attractiveness ranther than physical appearance. Hang around a better set of people

[Tyrael]

This is an extremely narrow minded view of both men and women, and I'm sure in time your opinion will change as you get more experience.

[penteractgaming]

I feel like people that prioritize looks over personality haven't been in too many long lasting relationships because its almost always going to be a difference in personality that ends things.

[Luckycharms12]

Personally personality most important