Why do men care so much about looks?

Question

Two guys I know who are dating girls have gotten married this year.

It seems these guys marries the girls to help with their visa issues.

One girl was in an open relationship before they got married.

The other girl is living in another city, house sharing with two other guys!

The only reason I can see these guys jumped at the opportunity to marry is because both girls are significantly better looking than them.

K-I-S-S · Accepted Answer

Depends on what level.

If you think about getting rejected while asking out, better do it with a really hot woman. If the personality is bad you could always let them know on a date that you two do not match well.

Physical attraction is the first thing that catches the eye on most cases. Leading to investigate further and to see if the personality is good too.

Everybody would pick the same personality but in a hotter body. If given the chance, not to trade up but if two opportunities are present.

It wouldn't be a concious choice either, you just like one more. But you know otherone is great too, but you just don't feel the sexual tension.

Looks are not everything though, just a great plus. And can help get the ball rolling so to speak.

Plenty of great people who weren't so lucky with looks, doesn't make them worse. It's not exactly fair, but that's life.

The_Maphio · Accepted Answer

Because before knowing a woman, their looks is the only thing that attracts us.
If anything, women learned to care about looks a lot because they more or less instictively understood that this is the case. Women have been using forms of makeup and personal decoration, generally how to be attractive even before fire was discovered.
Looks are our main source of attraction towards the other gender, the other aspects of them come out through dating. Sometimes the rest of a woman personality is not even needed as we might be looking for a hookup, so that's also a reason.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

A guy told me that a marriage based on looks will not last, and I have a cousin with three very good looking aunts and uncles and all three of them divorced despite good looks and high income and my cousin is by far the prettiest person in my family and she is divorced, my other cousin is very good looking and is half divorced (divorced but still living together) and my other cousin was very wealthy and charming and also divorced, my other cousin was also very fit and thin - skinnier than a Victoria secret model - and rich too - and a wonderful cook - she has had at least 3 divorce scares during her 9 year marriage, at one point her and her husband had lived in separate homes for almost 2 years and were fighting over custody issues, they later reconciled. They also yell at each other and hit each other.

nella965 · Accepted Answer

I will give you one word of advice. Men who look for trophy wives are not decent men / husbands. Same thing for gold diggers. Gold diggers do not tend to be decent women. Such relationships do not tend to end up being fulfilling marriages. Both tend to end up cheating on each other.

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

Let’s not pretend that looks doesn’t play a factor on planet earth. Looks matter to both men and women. We can probably lie to our minds but we cannot lie to our hearts. Our body knows when we find someone physical attractive because it’ll react instantly. I won’t get into details because if you know than you know. If you don’t know then you don’t.

hela1110 · Answer

The beauty standards have reached a high level nowdays since plastic surgeries has developed and the tones of industries which are producing make-up...
Skin care routines too and so on...
That's why many girls now are showing up on social media representing the best part of their lives filming themselves in their best situation so when a men follow these girls and are witnessing a high number of girls who r so pretty wisg also to have a good looking one... Plus looks r important , it's enjoyable and motivating to spend time with a beautiful person even girls r caring too much about their looks to attract the maximum number of boys they would pick the hottest one or let's say the best one...
It's a normal thing I guess

oxoxo-lover · Answer

Sadly. Many men in their younger years tend to be shallow and never go past a woman's looks. If they were wiser these men would have more standards other then looks. Hence why most women are in the privileged position because they don't have to do much just sit there and look pretty. But what they don't understand is that physical appearance is not going to sustain a relationship.

hellacray · Answer

It's not that men care so much about looks. It's that a lot of women really let themselves go.

Plus with so much people saying how special women are and that a woman is the prize. Then you got people saying dumb crap like you're beautiful the way you are and fat is healthy... I don't blame women for not trying.

Looks is part of the package. And men don't really care if you look like a model. Men care if you look decent.

I've seen tons of couples where both of them looked pretty average. So looks plays a part but it's not really the only thing that matters.

RingOfFire · Answer

"Why do men care so much about looks?"

Nature.

Millions of years of evolution eliminate the "why" in questions like this. Nature may always have a "why," but we may or may not know what it is. It just is.

Men are obsessed with the visual and women are obsessed with adorning themselves.

And we are not the only species in which this is true. Other animals have similar male/female traits. And sometimes, especially in some species of birds, it is the other way around. The male wears the fancy feathers and the female is attracted to it.

But for humans, men are heavily influenced by a woman's looks and women are heavily interested in making themselves look good for attention. That's why the womens' clothing, cosmetics, plastic surgery, jewelry etc. industry is about 20 times the size of the men's.

It's all about nature and evolution.

Unbeatable · Answer

A typical woman cares just as much about looks as men.

The difference is that a woman is strategic about how she expresses her cares.

A typical woman will tolerate an ugly partner because it means he has to compensate by being more dedicated.

But dont mistake it, when it comes to wanting a man to impregnate her, looks matter more than personality. Success and looks matter beyond any thing to a woman in that finds herself in that situation.

Men dont need security from women. Thus looks are the only thing that matters. Even height is irrelevant to men because height is a security feature, that men dont desire. If he does care, it s more for an intellectual or status reason; he might have the foresight that a tall mother = a taller son. Or that a taller woman = a more rare and widely valued partner.

In general men dont mind about looks or size like women do.

msc545 · Answer

Two reasons we care about looks:

1. We have a more intense sexual response to women who are attractive.

2. Other men admire us more and we gain status when the woman we are with is very attractive, and we lose status when she is not. This has been experimentally confirmed many times.

3. Women gain status and popularity amongst their peers when the man they are with is perceived as wealthy, is tall, and is good-looking, and lose status when one or more of these things is missing.

ladsin · Answer

Men are more visually stimulated than women. Biologically speaking this is because looks oftentimes confer information on fertility. Women are more interested I things like status and wealth because they infer an ability to read progeny and provide for herself while she’s indisposed.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

There is a lot of desperation. But you gotta read beneath the surface, if you want anything worthwhile. A pretty face is no guarantee that she isn't a total loser. I've met plenty of women who had a nice face and body, but nothing good going on inside. I've met some very nice souls living in very broken shells. And then I've met toads who were disgusting inside and out. Rare is the gem who has all the good soul and looks.

FlySwimmer · Answer

I personally would never date a girl just for her looks, but they sorta are needed for my standards (I am sorry I just am not attracted to girls who are not pretty) I feel like guys like a girl to look good for obvious reasons, but I feel like a guy that marries a girl just because she looks good is sorta dumb ngl bec he has to spend his whole life with her. Sorry if you don’t think looks should be a factor at all, I just get very happy when I am with a girl I find pretty and is nice)

CherryStripes · Answer

Because women are trophies for men. If you got a pretty hot wife, men would fist you and compliment you saying good job and ask how did you get that? Making the guy feel like the alpha among his gang. Also MEN ARE VISUAL

Dontaaa · Answer

We care about looks because physical attraction matters in dating and it always will.

If there is no physical attraction then the date is going to inevitably flop.

Looks matter, they'll always matter.

It doesn't mean you're shallow to care about looks.

What makes a person shallow in that regard is if they care about looks and nothing else.

rievious · Answer

This is a dumb question. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who is hideous BUT looks aren't everything. If your friends got married to a great woman than good for them. However I guarantee you that if they married only for looks then they won't last and your buddies will regret it. Then some one younger will see their mistake and learn from them that marrying for looks is a stupid decision.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

I think these guys are more likely to be golddiggers rather than marrying these girl for looks since they want a vica. Lol so these guys dont seem to be decent guys

Hanrej · Answer

Well... Speaking from my own experiance... What else is there?

I mean, The things I care about and might want help with is very rare to find in women at all. If the plumbing breaks, if the car got problems, if the house needs fixing there simply arn't all that many women who know what to do.

There's the money aspect I suppose but I'm good so long as she caries her own and... Well, then there's the looks aspect left.

Toast792 · Answer

A lot of women care too much about looks too. It's typically a personality thing. Caring about looks/having preferences makes sense to an extent. But some people are a bit crazy about it..

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

They really don't. I've had my face covered in dirt and sweat with my hair sticking to my face in my dirty work uniform and still managed to be sexually harassed before

mistixs · Answer

I think it's probably largely biological, because there's the same problem in the gay male community (which is why gay men are more likely to struggle with body image).

IveGotNoName · Answer

Well isn't it obvious? Who would date someone they didn't find attractive? That's both illogical and unfair to the person you're with

lonestar_01 · Answer

Both men and women want looks that fit the magazines of what they think is good looking. Even if you're different good-looking, people will still treat you with some contempt. Human nature

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