Why don’t men care as much when they’re objectified, whereas women care a lot more? Do you agree with my reasoning below?

[Anonymous]

I’m not exactly sure, but maybe it’s due to the fact that men like competing and have done it for the existence of humankind.


So, men are open to judgement, betterment, improvement, etc.


Women aren’t as experienced or accustomed to this, so any form of judgement will be seen as negative by them.


Women, a lot of their value revolves around their physical appearance.


Whether perceived or actual value, this has been the case for awhile.


Men? Not so much physical appearance, but value derived from TOTALITY, meaning, if a man cannot attract a woman with his looks, he can attract them with skill, or if not with skill then with resources, or with charm, etc.


Or a combo of all the above.


For women, it’s solely appearance.

[Miristheiss]

I don't know we just aren't.

Men are visual... women not as much.
Most guys can totally desire a woman sexual just be seeing her body/form.
Women may think a guy is attractive but she won't be willing to have sex based on just seeing him.

Men crave to see women nude.
Women go on and on about how they hate dick pictures.
I bet most men would love women sending pics of breasts and vulvas.

Men and women are just different. We have different wiring in the brain. We have testosterone women have estrogen. We are different.

Men are the chasers... the pursuers. Women always have men "SEEING" them... becoming interested and they approach women to meet them and to start something going.

Usually it is women always fending off men, being approached by men, selecting to accept the attention the few she is interested in while warding off all of the proposals and advancements of the ones she doesn't like.
She is usually on the receiving end of the attention. Men are the ones GIVING the attention and they have to get used to rejection.

Women are the ones who may get tired of the endless attention and want periods to where she is left along.
It is rare for a man to just have female attention all the time... endless women always approaching him, bombarding him with attention and proposals for dates and compliments. That rarely happens... so I bet many guys would feel flattered and enjoy some attention and objectification from women.

I'd say it also has a lot to do with perspective. As I pointed out above it doesn't happen a lot with men so they'd probably welcome it. I'll use women as an example. Girl A she is gorgeous and has a super sexy figure. Guys notice her all the time, they are always staring, always approaching her, flirting, coming on to her, asking her out. She knows she can get a date any time she wants. She just accepts when a particular guy interests her. The rest probably get on her nerves it happens so much. She probably wants to be left alone a lot of the time. Girl B is plain, a tad big, not as pretty. She rarely get approached and asked out. She would probably want more men to notice her. "Beating men away with a stick"... is probably a problem she wish she had more. They are both women but per their perspective... one is probably tired of male attention and wishes she would only get it when she is in the mood for it while the other probably envies the attention and wishes she had it. Perspective.

Lastly, men do not care (for the most part) if women just lusted after our bodies but didn't care about "US". Most women want to be wanted but they want to be loved and to be special to a man. Knowing that the guy couldn't care less about her and doesn't even care what her name is but that he just wants to touch her and screw her and to "HAVE" her body and then to leave and never speak to her or care about her at all is a turn off. She wants him to care about HER and also find her irresistible and beautiful... she doesn't want someone who couldn't care less about her that just wants sex from a hot body he saw.

[jshm2]

Nah, you're completely wrong.

Women don't care as much when they're objectified. They will wear a bikini to the beach but not walk around in lingerie at home. However, how they look and choose to look is not to be taken as an indication of their intelligence.

[England4eva]

I think it’s has a lot to do with reproduction. A woman in her early twenties/symmetrical face and perfect hip to waist ratio is usually considered extremely attractive overall. Of course, women can be desirable at any age and men’s tastes vary. But looking at biology these factors are predominantly her peak. The primary quality will always be biologically related for the vast majority, but of course can differ from man to man.

A man however, is biologically sought after for his protective skills/management skills and strength overall. Once again it goes back to a biological thing. This is why so much stress in my opinion is put on women’s faces and figures. So maybe on a subconscious level this is why women are pressured to care so much about appearance, and it’s not as socially influenced as some think? Feel free to disagree or agree anyone 🙂

[LimboOfTheDink]

Hah! I don't have a clue why women seem to care more about being objectified; good question. But if you consider that women and men are both rational human beings, not just smart animals, then you may come up with some less absurd explanation than this one.

[OlderAndWiser]

For many people, men are valued on numerous criteria, and failing on one scale doesn't mean that were fail on the others. Many people judge women solely on their attractiveness and if a woman fails on that scale, she is more of a "failure."

[exitseven]

I do not think that a woman's value rests entirely on her physical appearance. I met a girl that was only average in the looks department. She was quirky and funny and a really good athlete. After I got to know her better I began to fall in love with her.

[Lionman95]

I think guys are caring about it they just don't show it.
I don't know about you what when I had a some problems that I considered sexism or objectification towards men I was told to grow some balls and stop crying about it.

[FilmGuy93]

I think a lot of that happens because men simply don't experience as much objectification. It's tough for us guys to wrap our minds around, but the amount that 14-19 year old girls get hit on is pretty horrifying.

[loveslongnails]

Isn't it much simpler? Men are horndogs for the most part and don't care at all if you just want to use them for sex or look at them as meat!

[Avicenna]

Sounds accurate to me.

[Dargil]

Objectify me all you want.

[Staximus]

Some girl just asked this yesterday, pally