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Why do guys stop putting in effort after a while? (Page 2)
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You always have to find inventive ways to activate his hunter instinct.
For some it's complacency, comfortable where they are, don't feel the need. For some it's tiresome, why do they always NEED to be making an effort. Why do they NEED to make an effort when it's NOT being reciprocated.
Sometimes You Answer Your Own Questions. Effort goes both ways. It could be a reaction to the effort not being put in on your part as well and also that is a sign of losing interest.
Because for us we can go years never being given a date so you learn to not care. Everything everyone does is to turn on others and they all fear about if an aspect of them is a potential turnoff. When u realizes that then you can live without worrying about appearance and hygiene
I don’t think you understood the question
Im retarded so excuuuuse me. Please I'm sorry
It sounds like you aren't willing to accept the idea that you also need to put more " effort" into your relationship. Look how you immediately told that retarded fellow that you "don't think he understood the question..." My first impression... I think that he (the"tard" 😂) seems to have a better understanding of how things work than yourself...
@SamE86 i dont think you understud ansver. Its hard to explain, and even harder in second language. In shourt effort ends because there isn't ansver to effort putted in.
Common, how many times you will put effort in just recieve half assed or barelly warm ansver?
@SamE86 and you can’t read the question either ok
A couple of narcissistic bitches lol
Same reason why women do... complacency.
It's not a gender issue, it's a character issue.
Uh, because they found someone that they like better than you. You know, the same reason why the average female has rejected/dumped legions of guys in her life.
bc they think that after they’ve gotten the person they were trying to impress, its pointless to continue trying to impress them
If their trying to impress more than likely its not who they are. Same goes for women.
They get comfortable with what you allow them to get away with
No, mostly girls who don't make any effort after being comfortable.
From what I can tell of my married friends, because their wives become complacent and cease their sex lives. So they stop giving a damn as a result.
Women have unrealistic expectations that they themselves could never live up to. It's hard to maintain something so abnormal
Some guys like the chase and once they are in a relationship with that person they get bored and want the next shiny object they see.
Comfort factor.
My though is that they don't have to try any longer to make an impression.
The same question can be asked of women.
Sometimes it's due to the lack of effort from the female
But that’s not the case in this instance
Maybe it is exactly what is going on in your situation... It's just a thought, but the effort that you put into creating this post might have been better used on discussing the matter with your partner...
That's easy. Women are a losing proposition. Like a slot machine times it'll payoff. But over a long enough period of time you lose.
It begins when you first meet them. Generally unless you're HOT they won't even look at you unless you approach them. Then you're supposed to keep entertaining them. Eventually you might have their interest. But as the asker states " why do guys STOP putting in effort". See in her mind it's been equal. And she is some prize to be won.
I can't speak for every guy. But when I used to approach women. I would do it to a point. If she wasn't carrying her wake. I would pull up stakes and move on. Because it's NOT a relationship. If only she is benefitting.
Ok but I am putting in effort so?
Does he think that? I mean you may feel that way doesn't mean he does.
Also most women say guys know how when women develop feelings can can relax a bit. They can afford to take her for granted. Because she isn't going to want to split from him at this point. It's not personal. Or I'll put it this way it's no more personal than all the guys you women reject till you find the right guy. Ot's just part of the dance. It only offends you because you don't see it from our viewpoint.
Does that help you?
No you aren't. Did you even bother to read the definition of the word EFFORT. I hope that your dude finds someone that isn't such a little bitch. You need to quit dissing people just because you are in denial. I give you an F for effort. Lol
That was directed at the "ASSker"
If the girl isn't making any effort or is cheating then it's over.
It works both ways. Girls give up and get "comfortable" just as much as guys do
You act as though I’m the one that cheated in my last 3 relationships.
I like how every woman has an automatic upvote lol. You’re the reason men don’t care. Every woman gets an automatic upvote while men get ignored unless they say something you don’t like then their assholes and you have to shut them down for misogyny. Gtfo and take your misandry with you.
Ok keep crying
Good question 🙋🏻♀️
Because they think you’d always stand there, but they forget that you’re no a tree
It's not only men but women do it too. Age and life gets in the way and people just stop caring after a period of time especially a long period.
Stop placing blame for cheating. It's immature. Just say you wanted to suck the other guy's dick and keep it moving.
Nobody is cheating though
Your question / post suggests that it's the next step; that or you leaving, but most women choose to cheat first.
Cause you get what you give if you keep rejecting a guy sooner or later he's gonna think your really not interested in him and give up and stop chasing you
A lot of guys resent and get frustrated or get tired of having to take the lead all the time
It's so sad :( Us guys should put in the right effort to keep our ladies around.
Because they don't care about their partner, and you have no reason to stay with them if you think they aren't putting any effort into you anymore.
sometimes it's NOT worth the effort... too much energy and no return.
That makes too much sense lol. It takes 2...
I could easily ask that same question to you ladies.
But The Wise Phoenix even at age 50 hits the gym 5 days a week and takes care of his complexion and appearance like Patrick Bateman from American Psycho.
They got you so they don’t think they need do anymore.
@Maria99_ Yup. A lot of girls have done this to me and then... I just leave 😂 Complacency is a kiss of death in the long run.
Because women stop being who they pretended to be when we were dating.
Exactly
Anon... yes, this is probably the biggest reason. Women are amazing actors until they get a ring. After the wedding the internal switch goes from "nice" to "cunt".
@KrakenAttackin I’m sorry to hear. But maybe men should use their head instead of ring seduced by women with sex, there are still genuine women out there who will take care of their husbands after marriage and kids.
@Moimaris Yup, someway somehow all wrong is a man's fault. This is what makes us lose emotion.
@ronaldo75 I dont blame men. Sorry. I think women should appreciate men more but somehow a lot of women are selfish. I think because of feminism. But we will always need men even though women deny it. My advice for men is to think before being seduced
@Moimaris You're 100% correct. It is an effort that both sides need to make. Men should absolutely respect women and make her feel special. Women should try and do the same and know its give and take. Do you live in the USA? Here dating is very difficult right now.
@Moimaris Ok I see you are in The Netherlands. How is the situation in The Netherlands between men and women?
@ronaldo75 Thank you. Yes I live in the Netherlands. Dating is hard because most men are looking for one night stands or are divorced. Im 29 and hoping to find a serious relationship with respect, love and warmth but it is hard.
@Moimaris Wait, most men are divorced? You meet men in their 30s or older? I know a lot of men only look for sex but I didn't think so many men in a European country would be divorced lol.
@ronaldo75 More than 80% of divorces are initiated by women because they get everything.
@Moimaris Maybe women shouldn't be such brutal and deceptive cunts?
In early stages of relationships men have to project way more charisma than he actually has. Most women want a nearly perfect guy. . After a time guys can't maintain that much without hampering their own life , job
Anyone does. Guy or female. It's not the gender it's the person and life circumstances.
While that is not true for every man in a relationship, this happens because of the chase to get the woman in love under you is over. They know once thye have tried to woo her and get her emotionally connected, it's hard for her to leave
Keeping up with that stuff is exhausting. Especially if the girl expects new and exciting things all the time.
It comes from being frustrated and jaded. Actually, it's the similar reason to why women stop putting in effort.
Current Tik Tok trend:
Before marriage photo: Size 6 hottie
After marriage and children photo: Fat, buzz cut feminist.
Two way street Brittney.
Maybe its because of the part of the country i'm in but I have seen a disturbing amount of attractive guys with this on their arms (dafuq is wrong with gen z?)
Body shaming isn’t cool
Because if they kept puttning in effort or even escalate the effort they're be worn out and unable to put in effort.
Counterquestion, why don't women put in effort at all?
I have been putting in all the effort can you not read?
Because we dont care. If the girl is meh we just ain't gonna put in effort. Get it?
Because women stop putting in effort after getting a hint of commitment.
They get comfortable when a girl stops being a challenge. You have to keep their head in the game to avoid being taken for granted.
I don't think relationships should be considered a "challenge".
Same reason why girls stop putting in effort after a while.
But I haven’t. Next time answer the actual question
Wow. If your attitude on here is any indication of how you talk to your boyfriend. Then no wonder he said "nothing" when you asked him what was wrong!!!
Except im not talking about you. Why are you so defensive? If you like to talk about men, why can't i talk about women? you don't like it if anyone backfires your own logic
The reward is no longer worth the sustained effort.
I assume it's for the same reasons women stop trying to be good in bed.
its a two way street. When you nitpick, and just make us feel like shit...
aww did I trigger a female..
Just with girls like you! who would like to make efforts for someone like you who keep complaining about men? At least not me
He's just not into you.
Because we put in most of our effort when we are courting you and we don't have much left.
Nag the guy to death. He’ll stop crying.
And will be totally turned off from sex also.
Hell stop trying*
Multiple reasons.
Loss of interest.
Constant nagging.
And making us feel like shit.
What? You dont think you have gotten fat or stopped cooking dinner as well? you think to high of yourself
Actually I’ve lost weight and done more
Lazyitus sydrome mainly
Girls are every bit as guilty about this.
cause they think they don't have to anymore
because we decide that girl is not worth the effort. This bullshit gets pretty boring after a while.
Same reason girls barely put any effort at all.
Not even to start it.
Said by a woman who classically get hot for the wedding and then let themselves go in the most grotesque fashion possible.
Not all men are the same so
Too much security and comfort
So how do I make him try again?
Because right now I feel single and neglected
Try less yourself
It’s call a depressing
I will never stop putting in an effort
Probably because you cease being worth the effort.
But how
Asker, probably because your cunty side comes out after awhile.
I don’t really have one tho
Looking at your responses, you really do.
With a capital C!
Funny...
Asker is not able to see it.
You guys stop giving them attention he will.