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Why do guys stop putting in effort after a while? (Page 3)
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You should meet my ex wife... the epitome of " letting yourself go " !! In addition , her worsening attitude meant I binned her , and took on single parenthood. Does apply to everyone , not just men. I also did all the chores , she did absolutely F all , she was a burden , an all round ( literally ) pain in the ass !
Because women don't put in the effort the guy did.
He's the one who had to put in all the effort for the chase, all the money, and the woman thinks she doesn't have to reciprocate, so we learn they aren't really worth all the effort after a while.
Lol, maybe he thinks she ruined it, or the juice isn't worth squeeze. Women can't help themselves at times from being a pain in the ass. It can cause us to get tired and tune you out. That's why it's common to see guys really getting the ball rolling in their favor once they break up with some bitch.
Your question is vague. What exactly do you mean by effort? Is it appearance? Planning fun and romantic dates? Contributing to household chores? Or something else?
Maybe they take the relationship for granted. Someone like me has to put in perpetual effort due to lacking in the looks department. Some guys have the looks + the dont give a shit attitude and dont appreciate the girls their with because of the abundance mentality the may or may not possess.
But you need to specify...
This question is your answer = because the woman blames the man as the source of the issue - not denying his involvement - but did you ever ask yourself what you might do to motivate men to stop putting in effort? I don't see a effort to analyze the problem mutually as a result of both sides, only judge the man for things not going to your preference, then wondering why there's issues.
Because it's not sustainable. It takes a lot of work and money to put your best foot forward all the time. Seeing as how women let shit go just as fast as men, it's tough to make an argument that men should continue putting in effort for little to no reciprocation.
Cause it’s a lot of work to constantly entertain girls or woo them. Eventually we need that from her too cause usually it’s from us at first
Guts like new things to happen. once the new fades away it becomes boring and we stop putting effort. Try telling a guy "hey lets do something new" he will get up then give the effort you call
Because girls amp up the demands at the same time their p*ssy is becoming routine and their moves boring as access becomes increasingly conditional substituting starvation as motivation rather than desire. In other words, increasing costs with diminishing returns and frustration over supply issues.
Mutual interest and mutual effort drive a relationship. Onesides ends quickly.
Not all men.
I have always maintained myself, primarily through martial arts.
Most of my life there was no woman for whom to do it.
Because to usually attract women, men have to put in high effort and maintaining that level of effort gets tiresome after a while.
Too many women allow them to without consequences so they think they can.
and what "consequences" do you refer to? That's the type attitude-that she is now in charge instead of mutual-that makes a guy quit putting in effort. When Bullshit > Reward (and Reward has a steep decline in effectiveness with time) then effort ceases due to the unfavorable trade rates. Simple economics. You can vetch about economic laws but they hold solid. Now you can address either side of the formula to address the imbalance-either decrease the bullshit or increase the reward. Since (as pointed out) Reward is a declining asset you'd be advised to decrease the bullshit
If a guy isn’t matching her effort, she would pull back on her effort as well as her time and attention. That’s the consequences. If he’s interested and invested, he’ll respond by putting in more effort. If he disappears then he wasn’t as into her as a potential partner should be. Women shouldn’t have to tolerate slack effort from him if she’s giving more. She has every right to withdraw in any way she chooses.
Very true Mz. doubt she wants to hear the truth.
The question was why do GUYS quit putting in as much effort-not why women do. Women quit making efforts when they get comfortable they have "landed" him and revert to the "entitled" attitude so fashionable among the high maintenance types
It’s also a huge problem among men. Don’t try to pretend it’s not.
Again, irrelevant to the question. It sounds like you are reflexively lashing at men rather than addressing the call of the question.
Men quit putting in effort after a while partially because they become complacent. Others just get lazy. And some just stop because they know they can…since women allow them to without consequences.
Firstly it takes 2 to tango. Guys do this when they want to, match energies or relax, women do this too..
I had a girl tell me to shave my beard off but she couldnt remove her armpit and bikini region hair coz she can't change for a man. Do you see the hippocricy? "A man who shaves his beard for pussy deserves neither the beard nor the pussy"
y'all get away with it because if someone says anything you throw the biggest tantrum ever, flip out like a mad woman and spew things like:
"oh you watch it hoes, you dont value me, you only care about my looks and think coz you can act this way you'll getaway with it"
If you dont want a slacker, dont yourself slack at all..
Granted women are beautiful.. more then men are lol
Than****
Clearly you can’t read because I’ve already stated I’m putting in the work
Not everything's about you.. do you always play the victim card?
Clearly you have a slob for a guy.. fix him or dump him
Go cry
Enjoy being the butt in your relationship..
I think everyone gets complacent and too comfortable over time if they don't take time to make sure they are intentional.
Same reason women do I would think.
You get comfortable.
As you age you become less vain and it seems less important.
Because depending on the guy who isn't self-disciplined, has a skewed perception, or is immature, it will be lackluster in their efforts to hold a relationship.
What the heck? Why are the expecting he to do all efforts? If you see the guy has stopped you can "rewire his brain" or teach him how you like things. Like if you want him to give you a gift every annyversary give him 1 that will maybe make him think he could do same in return.
Because I do all the effort
Dont looks like that since you are blaming him that he ruin relationships. Dont blame them just walk away of someone dont see your efforts. Blaming them just make you seem like you do nothing
That’s why I blame him bc he does nothing
Then whats stopping you from doing thesame? You sound more clingy and insecure than an actual true love. That's why you can't last even a second without him
I totally agree
I DO ALL THE EFFORT. 😂 wow
Some find someone better others find out a girls got a boyfriend and even if she’s flirting it’s not worth it. Could be a million reasons why
You always have to find inventive ways to activate his hunter instinct.