What should I do? I feel guilty everyday?

[Anonymous]

My male friend kissed me 4 times, at different times. i didn't like it and scolded him, but he still forced me. I refused but his strength was very strong. he is married I feel very guilty I always tell him to remember your wife more. why did he do that? I always feel guilty for his wife I don't want his wife to mistake me for it. now i am keeping my distance and changing my attitude towards him. But until now when I always remember that, I always cry... what should i do?

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he's my team leader, so I can't get away from him. I work in a place where the workers are almost all men. I'm someone who doesn't really care about things, my guy friends often hold my hand, I don't care about that. moreover I have a lot of work. I don't have negative thoughts to someone, because I think it's normal. because I saw others like that too. but they don't overdo it.

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and either he starts touching my thighs or smells my hands. I asked him why? but he just asked me what lotion I put on or what perfume I put on. he always said I smell good, and said when he saw me all the stress was gone and he always feels happy, I feel happy if there are people who feel comforted because of me, because I am the person who is always active so that the atmosphere doesn't look stiff.

[ilikefrogsalot]

You need to tell his wife and possibly get a restraining order against him. He forced you to kiss him multiple times, that's not consensual. That's sexual assault and sexual harassment. Please don't keep this to yourself. If he's willing to assault a female friend, imagine what else he is doing or will be doing to other women. He's a danger to the women around him. Don't feel guilty for his disgusting behavior.

[Asker]

If his wife was here I would report it, but he and I have different languages ​​so it's hard to say anything😔😔😔 I'm someone who has minimal experience with romance and I didn't have too many friends with guys back then. so I don't know how to behave. and it was my first kiss, I'm afraid. and at that time I changed the conversation with him so that I quickly forgot about it. but now I am traumatized and don't want to be friends with married men. I was afraid that this would happen to me again

[Asker]

I love my current job, so I don't want this incident to have a bad impact on my job. because he is the leader of my team. and the rules in my company are very strict, I don't want things to get worse. So now I'm really strict with a lot of things, and I totally avoid him. if he talked and did things outside of work, I would ignore him. no matter he's angry, because I am not a woman who seizes other people's husbands

[Asker]

and now he's changed, and apologized to me. I once told him you have to love your wife, you shouldn't like me. I am a woman, if I know my husband loves someone else I will be very hurt

[ilikefrogsalot]

I know he hasn't changed. Men (criminals) like that don't change. But if you don't want to report him, that's your decision.

[Siren777]

Break contact with him and you can always avoid him. If he can force a kiss then he will try to get away with more next time. Be cautious and report him.

[Asker]

I've been avoiding him every day, and he's been apologizing to me. and everything is back to normal. he didn't do anything like that anymore

[Danny_dan92]

The fact that he did it 4 different times means you clearly had no issue with it the first time.


If you genuinely saw a problem with it, you would have cut ties and walked away from him after the first time

[Iron_Man]

Report him to the wife instantly when you wake up in the morning

[karennn]

Cut ties with him. Avoid him. Cancel him outta your life. He's unfaithful to his wife and honestly you deserve better.

You don't need his negative energy.

[In_Trance]

So gtf away from him!!