What hurts more, the friend zone, or walking away?

[Anonymous]

What if you have a really great friend, a real and true friend who actually cares about you. What if you really like them, but for whatever reason, you can't be with them. Do you stay, knowing you may have to see them with someone else, or do you cut them out of your life to save yourself that pain, knowing how hard or will be to lose them as a friend?

Which would you rather do?

Stay in the friend zone

Say goodbye and lose a friend

[ryanrhino]

A true friend is a friend through and through. It's up to my friend to keep me in his/her life.

If we care about each other, that's a different kind of love. There will always be a connection, and I'll be sad when it fades, but it will always be there, just like a romantic lover. This is what makes life beautiful because it becomes more complex. Try pasting the petals back on a flower - you can't, because it's so complex and beautiful.

Do you have memories from your childhood friends that you haven't seen in a while and feel that lingering small pain that you should have kept in contact with them, even if only once a month or year, even?

There have been several female friends of mine that I've stayed a far away friend for them, but it's simply because the connection faded and their attention went to their romances.

Doing the right thing is what I'm all about...well, most of the time. I want to be that man that my female friend says always stood by her and is proud to introduce me to her husband. He may be a little cautious of me, at first, but he'll have nothing to fear because all I want is for my friend to be happy and he makes her happy. How simple is that? Not very, but it's the right thing to do.

I did vote A.

[playa_pan]

say good bye & leave

That's what I've done with 3 different girls from my univ... still friends with one girl from univ

However, I met a girl and instantly had bit of chem... now, the first girl I was hitting on is taking to me again...but she's still with her 'boyfriend'

[bobbyjean]

I say that I sorta agree with Rabbitheart, and with Quadro. be glad you have a good friend to turn to when it all goes to sh*t. you can look at it as you can either keep or lose two friends (if she/he is with someone and if your friends with both of them), if you leave then you lose them both.

I like to say its easier to keep a friend then a lover. friends are much much easier to talk to, I think.

if that makes any sense at all?

[wkwan81]

I would stick by them, as those "feelings of like" for a person can fade if we learn to make ourselves move on and accept they will always "only" be a friend and nothing more. Plus, I would be happy for them to finally find someone they can be happy with.

[XRabbitHeartX]

I will be in the middle. I won't stick around like a huge friend and be there all the time. I'll prefer to stay between the acquittance and friend zone. Cutting a person out can be effective I suppose if you really feel like you can't take it.

[Quadrophonic84]

With this one woman, she's just so incredibly awesome, I'm fine with the friend zone. I always wanted her for myself but she met a guy at grad school and they're married. And you know what? He's a great guy and I consider him my friend as well. I feel lucky to know them.

But most of the time, yes, I just sort of fade away out of their lives.

[Anonymous]

Currently i am friend zoned hard, she knows i like her. but that isn't mutual it seems. i tried talking a break from talking to her she got upset and sad and told me she cried because i was ignoring her and that was hurting her because i am her best friend...

so i stayed her friend but i get depressed and sad randomly a lot of times and when ever she asks me whats wrong i just make up a reason for my sadness.

we talk everyday. i want to make this hurting stop but i can't do it without hurting her. i care more about her then i care about my self it feels like it would hurt less if i just said goodbye

but i am still her friend in the friend zone

[misterbill71]

I've been in the friend zone more times than I care to admit to and sometimes for years. In that time I've learned that as painful as it is to walk away, its much more painful to stay. that's been my experience anyway... so I voted B.

[darlanoy0510]

I would stay friend with that person. Eventually my feeling for him going to die down and just friendship is going to be left. So no point in losing a great friend.

[Anonymous]

A: Stay in the friend zone

probably better for the long run

[Anonymous]

Stay away for at least one year then try to go back and talk, it maybe won't be the same but is the better way, in my experiences, stay in the friendzone is just a daily kick right to the balls