How does it feel to be friend zoned?

Question

ok so when a guy really likes a girl how does it feel when u get fiend zoned and how do u guys avoid it?

einAmerikaner · Accepted Answer

Now to answer your question. I was friend-zoned by my high school crush for 4 years until I just realized I was only hurting myself and putting her in a bad position. It made me more mature because I was refining myself over time to be the perfect guy. Unfortunately I never got to put it to the test with her. During the time where I was friend-zoned, it was horrible. I would literally cry myself to sleep some nights knowing it will never be (This is so embarrassing to admit). I would spend my days like normal though, it was a big deal throughout the day. At night I would just think nonstop and read messages. I was such a cheesy cornball to her. I hated myself for it. Now that I'm older and a little more mature, I've met plenty of girls and have put myself in the friendzone on purpose (yes on purpose). I did it because I realized that some girls are awesome to be friends with. I would rather be really cool with her than be that guy who just doesn't get it. I'm a really funny dude so I can easily cover up my emotion with witty jokes just as easily as I can flirt with witty friendly jokes. I think the feeling of being friendzoned differs only on the maturity of the guy (or intellegence). You and I have so much to learn. Good Luck!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Guy's avoid it by being sexual so girls think of us as suitors or potential (sex) partners. As long as there's always a sexual component to the relationship that is present then it's (supposed to be) difficult to wind up as 'just friends' or 'like a brother.' Women only think of people a certain way by giving them roles. By being sexual we avoid the 'brother' role. Ideally we become difficult to categorize altogether.

It feels terrible, not just as rejection, but because it's desexing us. We're no longer a guy, we're this genderless creature called a 'just a friend.' You seem to value us in almost every way, yet you simply don't acknowledge our sexuality and interest. We're less like males with desires and more like pets that follow you around.

LucyBZ · Accepted Answer

Spoiler alert: The friend zone doesn't exist.

People are not obliged to be romantically interested in someone just because they're nice to them.
Guys if you're wondering why you're 'always friendzoned' you just haven't found someone who reciprocates the same feeling you feel, and there's nothing wrong with that and there's also nothing wrong with that person not feeling romantic feelings for you, and anyway, in lots of cases friendships last longer than relationships!

But yeah remember: the friend zone does not exists, no one is obliged and they just don't like you like that.

pancakesaremylife · Accepted Answer

Well I am not a guy, but I asked out a guy about a year ago for the first time and got friend zoned. Honestly we wouldn't have been a good pair in the end, and while it felt like shit, after one time it's not such a scary idea to do it again. It feels like, man am I just not attractive enough? But then you realize that it just wasn't meant to be, and that other people will like and ask you out. It's not that bad in the end to me at least. Is better than never saying anything.

Nilamor · Accepted Answer

It sucks. I was once friendzoned for two years, got the guy, it didn't work out and now we are back to being friends. Good thing I don't like him anymore. It sucked being in the friendzoneed and I got out because one of those rare occasions where the guy realizes what he's missing out on. But I mean for me it didn't work out so I guess I wasted 2 years. -.-

CHARismatic110 · Accepted Answer

The only real way to avoid it is to not put yourself out there in the first place. Being friend zoned is not a good feeling. You muster up the courage to put yourself out there only to be let down. And while some people can deal with it, some can't. If the feelings are too strong then sticking around to be someone's friend can be torture.

thewanderingme · Accepted Answer

I had a huge crush on a guy friend in high school who told me I was like a little sister randomly one day. that felt pretty shitty. probably worse than being friend-zoned because at least a friend can become more.

Anonymous · Answer

It can feel like a few things 1st that you're not good enough to be more than a friend, whether it be physical, emotional, or financially, and that hurts... a lot. 2nd although you may not be good enough to be more than a friend you can hear the girl you want talk about all these other men who are essentially better than you in her eyes... which hurts even more. 3rd you have a friend who is a member of the opposite sex who usually ( though not always) don't help your foreveralone status. 4th eventually a confrontation might happen with you and her "man" but in the end the female may choose the man who they are with romantically over you so it is counter-productive to be friend zoned. 5th but rare occasion the female might actually be jealous of another woman who the "friend" is involved with because taking her "friend" away from her even though he is happier and sabotage their happy relationship in order to save her "friendship" with him.

*note I have only been involved with the 1st, 2nd, and 5th examples, the 3rd and 4th are from other people who have told me.

CootiesInfection · Answer

i don't fall for girls as easily as i used to. even now im falling for a girl and i rarely say i love her unless she needs a pick me up. personally i've had the friend zone dance with enough women to know the moment i don't want them anymore, thats when they'll want me. so i just stop respecting them when that happens. i don't respect someone who uses men's attraction to them period. but when you change your mind about whether you're attracted to them when they start to revoke all the things about your relationship that you took for granted... and take back their heart to give to someone else... well thats just selfish, lower than low. i stopped blaming myself for girls like that, and started blaming them. and it was a great decision.

sp33d · Answer

Should I try to avoid it? What if I want to be friends with her, too?

If a guy seriously wants to get further with a girl and gets "zoned" out - it's usually his fault, but it also might happen that she doesn't want a relationship or worse, can't say it out loud so that would make it her fault.

The most annoying thing about it is the girl enjoys the attention, but also can't, you know, tell him directly, because that would ruin all the fun. Puppet shows are fun for manipulative people.

If this puppet show is going to happen it's up to the guy to quick in the head to realize and walk away. If she doesn't want a relationship, that's all she wrote. There are plenty of girls in the world, though, no need to get discouraged.

IronDr4gon · Answer

For me, It used to be devastating. The thing is, you eventually grow up and realize it does not matter. Getting friend zoned now just means i dodged a bullet in one way or another.

The thing that pisses men off, and this is what women need to realize, is when you friend zone us, we expect you to you know... actually be a friend.

This is usually not the case. Instead we become an emotional tampon, or a taxi, or both, but the fact is women are fair weathered friends in this situation.

Guys, the best way to avoid the friend zone is to walk away the minute you get put in it.

hunteroftheKrouse · Answer

Imagine being cut in 3 places with a rusty dull butter knife then having 5 pieces of hot iron pierce your eyes and into the cuts, reaching your heart ripping it out with all of its nerves still attached and then is cut into very thin slices by the butter knife

kheserthorpe · Answer

"I like you as an entertaining helper object, just not as a man. As great as you are your body repels me and the though of doing pleasureable things with you is gross"

MrTexan37 · Answer

You can't avoid it if she dont like you she dont like you and you'll forever be her friend but here's what really sucks about being friend zoned its that you werent given a chance to show her/him who you are and how you can be towards them being friend zoned basicly means you were not physically attractive to them thats why you werent considerd for dating thats the ugly truth!!

CreepyOldMan · Answer

I emphatically believe in getting friend zoned. Every girl friend I've had has begun squarely in the friend zone.

I defy the conventional wisdom and call it a load of bollocks.

Besides, why would I want to spend time with anyone but a friend? Call me old fashioned if you will, but I still believe in the friend part of girlfriend. I don't mean a friend with benefits, but a real friend. Someone I actually like spending time with.

DaveyYourFavey · Answer

I believe that you should stop being friends with a crush when they have told you they don't like you back. Otherwise its torturous.

Also you should never stay friends with someone you have dated or an ex. Recipe for disaster... trust me

Anonymous · Answer

its a horrible feeling; its like you got your heart ripped out and stepped on! it hits you like a depressive wave throughout your whole body when she tells you," you're like a brother to me!"

personally, i would advise you to cut off ties with the lady. because sooner or later, she is going to find a boyfriend, and she will leave you because she doesn't want to jeopardize the relationship with her boyfriend. i had that happen to me with a friend of mine. she completely dipped on me from out of no where. im suspecting she did that because she didn't want to risk cheating on her boyfriend. i knew she liked me, she would tell me everyday.

if the friend ship is really valuable though... eh... sticky situation...
if more positive than negative is coming out of the relationship, then i guess, keep the friendship. you better hope she doesn't leave you though, or else its going to hurt.

The_Technomancer · Answer

If a girl friend zones me I'll just move on since it isn't worth it if they don't see me the same way as I would see them. But if the guys shows a ton of affection but continues to get rejected it'd hurt a lot.

Klaatu51 · Answer

it\s nice because it means someone values you as a friend ;-)

Ryosanada · Answer

Sucks ass. It makes you feel like you're not good enough.

Jcruz512 · Answer

Most guys that get friend zoned are guys that just aren't physically attractive to that girl. You just have to be that girls type usually for it to work. The feeling sucks because usually you're very nice to the girl for intentions of more than friendship but friendship is all she is willing to give due to the fact that you might not physically be her type. Frustrating to say that least.

Dakota_The_Rota · Answer

It sucks throwing yourself out there and the girl says, "But, I don't want to ruin our friendship!", which didn't matter because the friendship was over the moment we said we liked each other.

Weirdguy24 · Answer

Doesn't feel very nice, it sucks the greatest of sucks. You can't really avoid it. Questions get thrown around in your head, whispering thoughts of being not good enough, being invisible, and the more you push the harder it hits back.

NateInAk · Answer

Leaves a sucking chest wound where once their dwelled a heart. After that heals, at least you've got a friend.

SirAntonio · Answer

The feeling might not be so enjoyable if you really liked that person. However, I enjoy having female friends very much.

linkywinky · Answer

I've set up a nice little tent with a warm campfire here so it's not so bad, it's cozy.

Solaayy · Answer

Well im a girl and I've been friend zoned. Its embarrassing lol

Marinepilot · Answer

It blows !! Whenever a woman tries this. I say "fuck you very much @ and leave and never. , ever look back. Usually the come back, I use them and drop them.

mrrapperguy · Answer

Have you ever been told to your face that you're not good enough? cause that kinda sums it up

Anonymous · Answer

When you get friend-zoned, the girl is basically saying "we get along great, but I'm not attracted to you."  So, obviously it feels like shit.

Varsitykid · Answer

hasn't  happened but when I friend zone girls, they either look sad or cry 😕

Paulinho93 · Answer

The one thing I have learned about women and being friendzoned by them is that the moment you realise you don't need them and stop chasing. Stop giving them the attention they crave, that's when the tables turn and they want you all of a sudden

SaltandVinegar · Answer

It makes you wonder what you are missing or if something is wrong with you. It also makes you second guess what you look like (for a short time)

StickStickity13 · Answer

If she wants to put me in this zone that's alright. I'll just find some other girl. It's pointless to keep trying knowing you will never succeed

chrisbigman · Answer

I really hate being friend zoned, especially with a girl that I really like. I'm not even sure how to avoid it. Either they do it or not.

Anonymous · Answer

I like how all the girls are saying "it feels horrible to be "friendzoned"". Now they know how it feels when they do it to us. And yes, it feels horrible. It's like, really?

BjarniBeast · Answer

If you're confident and well presented, you shouldn't ever get yourself in the friend zone. Every girl I'm friends with I have put in the friend zone, never the other way.

Anonymous · Answer

I am being friend zoned by a guy even though he finds me attractive. Someone explain that one to me.

bubbletrouble · Answer

Saying a guy isn't fuckable crushes their souls but  shit happens.

pakrulz · Answer

I instantly get friend zoned, I don't know how to avoid it and have never tried to.

zero33 · Answer

It feels like total shit. I'd rather break off the friendship than stay forever in the friend zone unless I viewed said female as a friend only too.

Anonymous · Answer

It should be considered torture. It is a vile and evil thing.

Anonymous · Answer

happens way more often than I care to express but at best she can be an acquaintance. That usually marks the end of hanging out or real cconversation.

MCslade · Answer

Friend zoning is like a man anting a cake but you hand him a lettuce head.

Anonymous · Answer

It feels like you are just not good enough despite your efforts to be attentive and look nice.

aamy811 · Answer

Like nothing because the friendzone doesn't exist

savvyridley · Answer

Things happen for a reason

Internationalplayboy · Answer

I wouldn't know I've never been friendzoned

Glamgirl76 · Answer

Well it's pretty weird for a little bit

Anonymous · Answer

It alright cuz I still look at da booty tho!

Anonymous · Answer

It makes you feel sexually frustrated.

Mgirl14 · Answer

It feels horrible

Anonymous · Answer

haahahahahahahaha only a girl could ask that...

Anonymous · Answer

Strangely erotic.

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