Right, it's hard to unravel the negatives from any positives, because the negatives are so huge - it's bad for one's health, it smells toxic and the odour can linger sometimes depending on when and how often a person smokes; and it's not great being around anyone when they have an addiction to something that their body or mind ends up telling them they 'need.' Dependency on anything gets in the way.
However... yes, as far as 'vibes' go, I think all those three men you chose look pretty damn sexy in those photos. The smoking, alone, is not of course what makes them sexy. There's more to it than just that. (I know the first two characters, love the actors, but wouldn't want to be with those specific characters, per se), but frankly the third guy is someone I'd really want to know. Wow. He has great taste in clothing, furniture, and hairstyles. (The only thing is his beard is too long, in my opinion. I like stubble, not full beards.) This guy has classic, refined tastes, ignores trends, and knows how to live (I'm certain he eats well too), on his own terms. There is no way I'm not being drawn to him.
I grew up with two parents who smoked, so I was always around it, and I found it annoying mostly. It was another thing I rejected as a teenager and beyond for quite a few years, for the reasons I mentioned above.
But here's the thing about smoking - nicotine is kind of fantastic. It pings the brain, big time, as long as one doesn't have it enough for it to become habitual. Nicotine withdrawal, just like other withdrawals, even coffee, etc., is all negative. It gets the body into a dependent loop of needing it just to be functional. But occasional nicotine sparks the brain, and when people smoke, they get happy[er.]
It's probably a combination of things - taking a break from whatever one was doing (both in geography and focus), plus the enjoyable tactile nature of it (society's moving away from the tactile, in this ever-increasing digital/escapist world), plus the deep breaths, plus the nicotine high/stimulant effect, which all add up to people feeling good. I hate the smell of the smoke. But I always notice how it puts a person in a [briefly] instantly better mood. Thoughts come to a mind that felt flat or lethargic or bored, before. Ideas happen; good conversation happens. And stressed people relax suddenly. It's an instant mood changer. That's what I do like about it. I've had many boyfriends who smoked, and often I was just tolerating it (because they all had ~ pack/day habits and that ain't good; most people don't have the self-control I do where it can be an occasional thing), but yes, there is still an element that I will always recognize, as it being this frowned-upon thing (for legit reasons) but that is still defiant, self-indulgent, and visceral. I have thought, sometimes, guys looked sexy in that moment. And guys have said the same thing to me.
Alright, that makes sense. Third guy is John Stamos (Uncle Jesse from Full House). I’m not a smoker myself though most men in my family are smokers, especially the Italian side. All they do is smoke, drink tons of coffee and eat. I get all that. It’s nearly impossible to not consider the negative side of things, especially for something like smoking. Thankfully, I’m not a smoker. I do enjoy the casual cigarette once or twice a year but that’s about it. That said, for some reason I feel like characters in movies get a whole new layer added to them when they are smokers. I always say to myself, “well when did they start smoking? How did it start? Was it just to look cool and tough in front of other kids, or was there another reason?”
I think it's physically indulgent. And in some contexts (the ones we're talking about), it can accompany a time of being reflective. You know in the way that a glass of whisky is, vs. drinking beer or even wine? I don't drink dark liquors, I don't like the taste of them, but I've noticed when men sip on a high-quality whisky or bourbon for instance, the conversation can get very interesting. Two people, a cigarette each, and a cocktail each... I love the conversations that come out of that.
The other day I was talking to my husband about the band name 'Cigarettes After Sex.' I said, "That's a good name, eh" and he agreed. (I also asked, "I wonder if they still exist and still call themselves that." He said yes on both.) Then I said, "Wait, is it singular or plural cigarette (s)"? We both instantly figured out, "Oh it's plural." Why? I figure because one cigarette means one person smoking. It's something he enjoys whenever/after he has sex. Which makes it a separate experience. But two cigarettes (although it could mean more than one smoke for one person), probably means both people each have one. It's just all about pleasure. Moving from one pleasure to another.
Speaking of which, remember Larry? We heard through the grape vine at the time that he (who was a very health-conscious guy in almost all respects; he was really slim and into running, for one thing) liked to have a cigarette after sex. His wife [tolerated it, I guess; maybe even joined him, idk] but she was a hairdresser, and she told one of her clients, who told her twin sister, who was one of the three of us that worked for him. We could not get that very intimate image of him out of our heads, smoking in bed. It was some great gossip at the time. But I personally was happy for him when I heard it. It surprised me, because of the health-conscious aspect, but I basically thought, "Good for him."
At some point later on, I became the only employee and there was a nice comfort level between us. He talked about the possibility of bringing me along on buying trips, which I was excited about. Then one day... I had a dream that we went in the back room and he pushed me up against the wall and kissed me. It was fantastic. It felt like it came out of nowhere when I dreamed it. But I guess I was slowly becoming attracted to him. And now that I think about it, the two things may have been connected. Having that intimate detail of his sex life, I guess put the image in my head, like a seed, which started a chain reaction, or progression, perhaps. I liked knowing that he threw caution to the wind, or maybe spit into the wind, once in a while.
Oh and I am absolutely stunned that is John Stamos! I never watched Full House, way too family goodie goodie for me, but wow, he looks super interesting now. I like him this way much more.
Doesn't matter man or woman, cigarette smoke is an unattractive smell. I also wouldn't want to date a man who smokes because it's bad for health in so many ways, including lowering libido and immunity. Meaning less sex and he'll be sick more often. I don't see people who smoke as cool. My coworkers are so weak-minded they have to go on numerous smoke breaks throughout the day to cope with the "stress" of mopping the floor, baking some bread, and telling some snotty people to have a nice day. The addiction side of it is kind of pathetic.
Personally it doesn’t matter. I know a lot of girls find it unattractive because they don’t like the smell or find any types of drug/addictive substance users unattractive. Others find it attractive because it adds to their vibe or they give. With the girls I’ve met that do you find it attractive they usually find the action of smoking attractive and not the addiction. On the other hand some girls find the addiction tractive it really depends. The majority however seem to either strongly dislike it or strongly like it. The way some women have been raised plays a part in it too because sometimes being told that smoking is bad from a young age and growing up to find people Who are the opposite of their parents expectations attractive. Or again the exact opposite parents telling them that smoking is bad for other people highly enforcing that smoking is unattractive they will go along with that and not think Any different. Others simply don’t care, I don’t find it attractive or have a problem with it
It depends on what they smoke. Cause cigars and cigarettes 🚬 smell disgusting. While weed has a hint of nature smell to it that can fade in time. Just not the diesel and skunk 🦨 smell.
I had to switch to a vape cause of the smell and not bother my neighbors.
Kind of both lol I am the type that finds it kinda sexy (most badboys in movies are smokers for a reason) but at the same time it's a bad habit, bad smell. I'd prefer a non-smoker boyfriend but most of the time I'm into the opposite :D
I think guys are the same :D We just have to find a middle ground I guess. My mom did. My dad has always been the rebel type but he was never a bad person and somehow he got caught by mom :D
Eh I really don't like it. My current boyfriend started to only smoke when he was out drinking with friends. He said during that time that drinking only made him want to smoke, but he smokes more now without drinking. I did not mind it before while he only drinks but not now recently when he smokes all the time now. I don't mind smoking a cigar occasionally because I do it too sometimes. I just don't like cigarette smokers.
He's not someone I want to ever be around. I can smell smoke on people who've only been around people who smoke. It's disgusting and they are drug addicts.
What are they smoking? If it’s weed I’ll tag along but if it’s a cigar or cigarette then I personally don’t find it attractive. And weed is something I do low key.
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