Why is he acting like this?

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This guy, I’ve been speaking to for 4 months but we haven’t met but was going to. So we planned a date and he was being a bit off after so I realised (my mistake, and I regret it) I lashed out at him and said I don’t wanna see him cause it feels like he doesn’t wanna see me. So the he’s like “how don't I wanna see u when I’ve given u a date?” So we just argued and I regretted and said to him I still wanna see him and he was like u just gonna keep changing ur mind? And before I can answer in the morning he removed me off his Snapchat. I then messaged him on Instagram asking why he did that and he was like “look at the way u acting yesterday saying u don’t wanna see me wtf.” So I tried to explain and said I overreacted. He wasn’t having it. So I left it and gave him 2 weeks space. I then texted him again “hey how’s you?” He responded very fast with “good thanks you?” And then I replied and it’s been 4 days now he hasn’t even opened my message but still follows me on insta and watches my story. I posted a guy on my insta too and he was watching that immediately. And he would if removed me off snap if he didn’t want anything to do with me.

Buffboy2000 · Accepted Answer

So, you made a date with him, and right afterwards he started acting all squirrely, well, that would have been a red flag to me as well.
First off, if you are really interested in a guy you really should wait four months to meet him in the first place. The problem is, social media tends to inflate your expectations of someone, the longer you wait to meet in person the more perfect the become. The more perfect they become, the more disappointing they are in reality, when you finally realize that they are just a normal person who has faults. Or worse, the faults that they see in you! So, you meet someone online, you think that this might be the right person for you, meet them in person right away (Wait no more than two weeks,) then decide if you are wasting your time with them.
If they act squirrely, that usually means that they have something to hide. You have been talking to the guy for four months, I would assume that you have started to get to know his behaviors and mannerisms. You arrange to go out on a date, and suddenly he gets unusually quiet, that would have be thinking that something was up. Or even worse, he would be a no show on the date.
Lastly, being so quick to block you on social media, after one little spat, tells me that this is not the right person for you. Disagreements and fights are going to happen, it is a fact of life, if he is so quick to end things with you because of one argument, then he is not the right guy for you. Everybody has a bad day, you have to be forgiving of someone for having one. You just made arrangements to have a first date, you both are going to be nervous, misunderstandings are going to happen.
Just my two cents...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Try to reverse it and think how you'd feel and what you'd think if you were him. You realized you overreacted, which is good, but learn from that for future guys. I know that feeling you had I think as I have had it as well with women, but you don't "lash out" because as you see, it has the opposite effect of what you want. Next time maybe just politely "confront" them, just confirm their interest in the date.

If I were you, if still wanting to date him, just say something like "Hi. I just wanted to apologize again for my overreacting. If you're still interested at all, I would still like to go on that date with you?" - That's it. Keep it short and direct like this, and, it leaves the ball in his court (he might need to think about it a bit, so if he doesn't respond immediately, don't panic). Now if he decides he still doesn't want it, then just let it go. But, he could still like you enough for social media. It doesn't necessarily "mean" anything.

kyleelyn199723 · Accepted Answer

He probably didn’t realize you were going to be so dramatic early on before you even attempted to go on a date. Men do not like Whiny, problematic, and dramatic girls. They like girls that keep it cool. That lash out was probably a huge turn off to him and probably gave him a sense of what he would have been dealing with if he got further involved with you

Jazquee · Accepted Answer

Is he the same age? Seems like he is fairly immature  Or he never wanted to meet you and was just killing bordom does he live in same town

Jouth · Answer

I mean honestly he seems like he doesn't want to deal with the drama and he may have concluded that you're someone who caused drama. That would be my take on it. I hope you hear from him soon so this can be resolved so you can either get closer to him or move on.

Avicenna · Answer

Sounds like he is immature and wasn't really serious. That was anyhow way too long to be messaging each other without meeting up.

spartan55 · Answer

Maybe you realized there are actual consequences for acting like a crazy chick.

havingfun101 · Answer

Relationships are drama. Smash and dash, boys!

Jollyranger94 · Answer

did you let him fk you

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