Why is he acting like this?

[Anonymous]

So, me and my fiancée wedding day is approaching really fast. As him and I were finalizing the decision of our wedding, "he said do you really want (my friends name) in the wedding?" I said yea, of course she's my best friend! Then he started complaining about how he didn't like her because she was the only one out of my friends that wasn't married or in a relationship. It was funny to me because only two of his friends are single, but I wasn't complaining. But I would admit that I noticed that he never liked her. Whenever she came over, he would always find some excuse to leave, and she treated him with respect and not overstepping boundaries. But with my other friends? He treats them like gold. Why is that?

[Carolus]

You about to get married why go digging around on little issues? Are opinions here gonna affect or stop wedding plans? There some things you just let go and they resolve themselves with time if you smart enough.


Since you asked for it this are the two probable reasons.


1. He is insecure you are too attached / too close to your friend than him which might interfere with your decision making or the marriage I. e. her being the third wheel of this marriage, her being a bad influence or


2. He likes or is in love with her. It’s a natural phenomenon and common for some men to subconsciously become aggressive against a woman who is close to his fiancée / wife if romantically attracted to her which might include her sister or her mother and will avoid any close interaction due to that conflict.


Whichever being the reason, you just need to be smart about this, as you get married you need to detach from your friend and balance issues. Avoid taking about your marriage with her, create some space, concentrate on him, you will be a married woman and she’s not. Showing him you respect his opinions despite how ridiculous you may deem them to be goes a long way, do otherwise because you are “right” and it all goes down.

[Asker]

You're saying that he might like her?

[Carolus]

It’s a probability, stop it, curiosity killed the cat, right now concentrate on the wedding and being the person and wife he wants, nothing can be 100% in life we strive to make it better by being positive.

[Summeroflove]

I can’t stand when someone has double standards. I couldn’t be in a relationship with a woman like that. In fact loose interest.


But. Look. You’re going to have your disagreements. I wouldn’t say this is something that should ruin the marriage before it even starts. Bring your concerns up to him.