Why is he acting so cold all of a sudden?

[Victoria7869]

So this guy and me have been talking for a few weeks now we both told eachother that we like each other and everything was going great he would tease me and talk to me often at work and we would text back and forth but past few days he’s been acting cold not mean he’s nice to me still and he smiles at me here and there we also talk not as much as we used to but I’m so confused why’s he acting like this I asked him why he’s being cold and he denied it I don't know what to do

[DaveJord]

Have you gone on any dates?

If you only been talking and flirting, and he has not asked you out then that's a RED FLAG, right there!!!

Oh, you are like 22 years old, so I will assume he is 22 as well. So, you see men of his age have been raised in a time period, where men have been heavily emasculated by society. So, he does not know how to act like a man, because he has been taught all the traditional things men are supposed to do are bad. And that women do not really like it when men act like men. So, you might have to step and be the man and ask him out yourself.

All I know is that when chat with a woman for more than a week or two and I have asked her out and she acts so about meeting then I cut to off. I am not mean to her, but I am less interested in jokey, flirty shit with a woman that is not showing any interest in dating me. And if she wanted to date me then she should of said so when I asked her out.

If he has not asked you out then there is a reason why, like he is not interested in you, or he might be seeing someone else, or he is just a weak as baby that hasn't found his balls yet. If you want something to happen here then put out some initiative and ask him out or blow him off.

[Victoria7869]

You’re so right he’s also 22 it’s just him acting hot and cold is confusing me he still seems very much interested it’s just so weird to see a guy act like that he also seems a bit intimidated by something I can’t tell what exactly

[DaveJord]

Yeah I don't know what to tell you. But as a guy, when women go hot and cold on me... it's a turn off! 👎

I guess I am curious as to why they do it. Bit honestly I just lose interest.

[spartan55]

You are likely imagining it. Just keep talking to him.

[Victoria7869]

I think ur right 😭wtf is wrong with me

[spartan55]

Don't worry, just keep talking to him like nothing has changed.

[Victoria7869]

I will thank you so much ☺️

[spartan55]

If he said nothing was up, then believe him. Guys have other things on their minds sometimes.

[Victoria7869]

I think I just misunderstood but he was just acting so cold over text and in person and denied it so I don't know what that means

[spartan55]

You can't really determine tone over text. It's best to text as little as possible and keep it face to face or phone calls.

[Victoria7869]

Thank u 💕☺️

[spartan55]

You are welcome, let me know if you need help with anything else.

[Victoria7869]

You’re so sweet thank you why can’t every guy be like you 😭😭💕

[spartan55]

I appreciate that, thank you.

[Starbers99]

He's either losing interest or it's gone past the 'harmless' flirting stage and he's realised that he might have to let you down because either he has gone off you or have to admit he's got a girlfriend. I would back off and let him come to you to see where the land lays. Whatever you do, do not ask him out. If you back off and he starts it again, this is a red flag - I would not trust him. Keep it friendly and professional from now on unless you have a proper conversation about what this is.

[Victoria7869]

He’s single and admit that he really likes me but he’s still interested it’s just he seems nervous about something I can’t figure out why

[Starbers99]

Maybe he's not as experienced and is scared to take it to the next level? If you're sure he likes you and is single then there's no harm in talking privately one on one (not a date but a pre-date talk) where he is likely to share what is on his mind.

[Victoria7869]

I tried this man keeps denying acting any different like his texts have dropped so much and they’re so one worded and cold and even in person he’s very nice and wants to talk etc but he’s really confused or scared of something do u think I should just not say or do anything for a few days like leave him alone or what would u do

[Starbers99]

I would leave him alone and create some distance. It's unfair to tell you that he likes you and then act like this. If he's still nice and talkative in person but not texts, it's like he's trying to hide something or someone or you from a certain someone. Either way, I would keep it short, friendly and professional in person and not reach out over text. If he had any genuine feelings for you, they will come out naturally but if he's playing games, in a relationship he's not willing to leave or not as interested as he's making out, it will just fade away. It's awful when it's happening and you like them but you don't know what's coming next, letting go of this guy leaves it open for you to meet someone who is better for you and won't treat you like this. It can only happen to you if you let it - don't let him treat you this way, if it does go anywhere.. it will set a precedent on how he can expect you to react when he misbehaves and you don't want someone disrespecting you in this way in a relationship.

[Victoria7869]

Thank you so much for your kind words I really appreciate it and ur right I should leave him be thank u again 💕💕💕

[Starbers99]

You're welcome - and now I shall take my own advice 😊

[lalaloveee]

He's losing interest in you. There could be more than one reason.

[Victoria7869]

That’s what I thought too but he keeps randomly touching me and smiling for no reason and just teasing me like what’s all that

[Guy13]

He is not aware or not sure of the next step. Why has he not said, "hey let's get together outside of work and date?"

[Akam93]

I agree with you of course. :)

[Victoria7869]

We spoke about hanging out and he hasn’t really made an effort yet for that he did say he will hangout with me but I don't know what’s his problem

[Guy13]

I do not mean to be irritating but when he asks you out, things go well, and you two get settled in... why don't you let him know that "hangout" is slightly disrespectful to a woman as "she's got small waist, butt, and breast." Go hangout your guy friends.

[Victoria7869]

Ur right

[Victoria7869]

He acts so affectionate and sweet still randomly smiling and touch me but his texts are so cold and one worded lately

[Guy13]

He knows he failed to close deal in timely manner. It seems like he is an avoider. I have a hard time with those types.

[Avicenna]

You need to ask him where you stand

[Victoria7869]

I did and he says he likes me and we will go out soon and acts cold all of a sudden but continues to act flirty I’m so confused

[AmeerX]

Believe in the power of Love