He isn’t ready for a relationship but he is making future plans with me?

[Anonymous]

Hey!

So I’ve been speaking to a guy for 3 months and at the beginning he was looking for a relationship, however he told me that his headspace has changed. He had a rubbish breakup with his first relationship last year, and I think he’s scared of committing so early on as he is moving 8 hours away in a few months.

He’s be straight up from the beginning which I appreciate but I’m wondering if you can offer any advice. He says his headspace could change, but he doesn’t want me to wait around for him, however he has been messaging me wanting to make plans for 5 months time to go on a road trip and also trying to make plans for the next couple months.

Can anyone offer any advice with what he could be thinking, or if anyone has been in a similar situation. Thanks :)

[IAmJewell]

He could be “future faking” or using the “not ready for a relationship” as an excuse to just keep things light and easy going. It’s easier to navigate situations without the feeling of being ‘pressured’. But I was told and man usually takes about 3 months or less to know what they want.

[Pterodon]

He’s full of shit. He’s keeping you hanging around so he can use you from time to time. Stop being the donkey chasing a dangling carrot