It's the weirdest question.. I know. And I had to post it anonymous because I feel ashamed of what happend today. I have a temper and I always had and my man is the opposite. He is calm and a perfect gentleman. Lately I have done some things NOW I know I shouldn't have. I rarely think about the consequences of my actions. He tried to reason with me, sit down and communicate. I was kinda moody and I yelled that everything is his fault. I throwed hands too. I guess I pushed him too much and I crossed a limit because he got mad mad and I ended up being spanked for having that attitude and also for breaking things in the past and face slapping him once. So there I was ! Over his knee. Shocked and in pain. I asked him to stop because that was ridiculous. After all I am his girlfriend, not his child. He started to hit harder and harder and he told me that everything will stop if I calm down and promise him I will discuss calmly over dinner, his treat. I said NO and I acted up again. Big mistake. God , he spanked me so hard but it was not long before I was crying real tears and begging him to stop because I was willing to talk. This time he didn't stop. He kept on hitting me for a while. I was in pain and that didn't matter for him. Tried to escape. Didn't work. By that point, I stopped struggling and I was waiting for it to be over. When it was finally over, I got up and I noticed he had tears in his eyes too. I locked myself in the bedroom and didn't get out since then. I am well aware that I was at fault. I can see everything much more clear now and for sure I have some issues but still can't believe he did this to me.. Now I am thinking about our relationship. If it's totally broken or it's worth saving it.
Did you ever spanked your S. O /girlfriend? As a form of discipline?
There's a level of arrogance that comes with physically hurting other people and blaming it on emotions. In those cases a heavy slap across the face would be called for way before the spanking would occur. Everyone should know this basic rule. Keep your hands to yourself. And if they don't know that rule, know this. Hit me and you're going to get hit back. Simple.
Sort of. It was always done in a silly way. Like 👉YOU👈 have been a bad girl. Then I literally put her over my knee and spanked her. We were both giggling the whole time. So it wasn't a real punishment.
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It's actually more common than you think in long term relationships and marriages. It happens to me and I know a few others. Non consent is not right. However, my guy said when I smacked his face and or shoved him, he didn't consent to it either. I think twice before I give him a shove when I'm mad... or at least I know what will happen. He doesn't do it otherwise.
It's not weird. If you both agree on it as a form of punishment/control, it's quite satisfying and can be a link to other links too.
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We never agreed on something like that. Hell, I didn't even knew of his new /old side. It wasn't satisfying to be honest. I felt pain and that was all about it.
Well, you should tell him about it. There are ways of adapting to spanking, combining it with various arousal techniques. The most common thing is to introduce spanking in combination with vibrator, but this requires a lot of attention from your top.
I want to believe this was a single time occurance & he will never do something like that ever again. Clearly I will not introduce him to this new world because pain is not the answer and I had enough of it today... for a lifetime. Lol!
You have been abused. You acted inappropriately too but two wrongs don't make a right. I don't know if the relationship can be saved. I am not sure it should.
I would only do that as "punishment" if I knew it turned her on and that was the point. For legit punishment? No wth. I'd never lay a hand on my girlfriend.
No. Thats awesome. Your man isn't a weak piece of shit. You deserved it. Marry that man if he will have you.
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How is that awesome? I slapped him once, ONCE and the spanking I received was way too painful and uncalled for. Yeah.. I know. I shouldn't throw hands in the first place. That was my mistake. Weird but he still wants to marry me.
Applying this kind of punishment ( in real life) to another human being without consent it's a felony. I could put his ass in jail straight away but I still love him. I couldn't hurt him that way.
