Are rapists aware of how much they hurt their victims?

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It’s crazy I shouldn’t have to be so nervous around men. My introduction to sex and first memory of it shouldn’t be waking up in pain wondering what’s going on just to realize a second later that my boyfriend was raping me. I planned on how I wanted to lose my virginity for years and he stole that from me and didn’t even give me the opportunity to know it was going to happen before it happened. To make it worse he didn’t wear a condominium and finished inside me.

Now I know that guys don’t care about their virginity and think it would be “so totally awesome” to be “raped” by a woman and a lot of guys have said mean things to me saying it’s my fault if he rapes another girl because I didn’t go to the police so I’m really wondering do men who rape even know what they’re doing to their victims?

knightrider2005 · Accepted Answer

Yeah rape is something no one should ever experience. Sex should be forced. My first time was when i was 16 years old. i mowed the yard for this woman who was around 32 years old. When I got done she ask me to come in to have a glass of Ice tea. But when she was refilling my glass she spilt the tea all over my tank top and shorts. She offered to wash them and dry them so i took every thing off and had a towel on. I was on the couch with her and she ask me to fill her glass I got up but my towel caught and came off and she said oh my ! I tried to get my towel but she said sit down. I must have got hard! She saw me getting hard and she said my my my! You have a nice one! She rub my thigh and her hands started to rub my balls! She ask me does that hut and I said no! She said I can make you feel really good and she rub my hard cock and spread my thigh and got down and sucked my hard cock. She kept telling me there's nothing wrong with it and she said i wanted to taste you and I cum in her mouth and she swallowed my load! Then she kept rubbing me and i got hard again and she took off her robe and she had her bathing suit on! She removed her bottoms and too k my hand and had me feel her wet pussy! She was soaking wet! Then she told me to lick her and I did and she taste wet and salty! She moaned and then had me get on top and help me slide my hard cock in her and she fucked me until i cum in her! I thought i was going to get in trouble. But she said it was ok if she let me!

kstout6 · Accepted Answer

In short, yes, many of them do feel guilty about it, once they have admitted to themselves that they did something horrible. The key is admitting that they did rape. Once they have admitted about it, it is because they feel guilt, and they reason with themselves and come with the realization that they did something messed up. The fact is that rape is so messed up, that people who have raped forcefully ignore the ramifications of trauma it causes. Many who do rape, do it to someone who doesn't know better or to a person in an altered state, so the victims do not suffer any type of trauma. Sometimes the victims never know they were raped, and live the rest of their lives okay, sometimes, they do realize they were, but really do not suffer the same type of trauma as those that were very much aware and very much feeling it.

In your case, I don't think he understands because he is self-centered. They think about themselves and not for those they hurt.

That all being said, men have come to accept that they have raped, and it was very wrong. There is a tremendous amount of shame for those that rape. This shame is very counter-productive, because it causes them to go into hiding from the truth and makes it harder to rehabilitate them. It is however, rehabilitatable, very rehabilitatable in most people.

15_Debo · Accepted Answer

they are probably sociopath and don't feel any remorse or such emotions
they only think of themselves and their satisfactions
and their thinking of sex is more wild like doing it roughly and hurting women just to please
themselves
so yeah rapists have no idea how much they hurt women which sometimes result in their death.
I am so sorry for what you had to face, hope you're okay

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Usually yeah, and just don't care. For some thats the point.

MrOracle · Answer

First, the vast majority of men don't rape. Of the few who do, I would say that most of them just don't CARE. Part of what makes them rapists is that they are selfish, self-centered, and feel entitled to do whatever they want. I would guess that many of those guys have rarely/never been told "no" - so they were taught to be entitled, usually by their parents.

It's horrible that some guys do that - it gives us all a bad name - but, yeah, it's mostly entitlement and being self-centered. Obviously, some of those men are out-and-out criminals, with rape being just one of many crimes that they routinely commit.

Tunasub · Answer

The personal, emotional, physical and mental trauma rape puts people through is tough enough on a person, but then to hear that some men say that "yeah I want a woman to rape me" is disturbing and those that say that just show the ignorance and lack of maturity they have.

Please don't group all men in the catagory of being callous to rape victims or being the monsters that commit the ultimate human violation. People that rape don't care about how much they hurt, they only care about feeding the need to feel superior or or have the need to show the victim how much of a man/woman they are when fact they couldn't be any farther from being a man/woman.

No one should have to go through feeling less than a human being and be violated in this manner.

My wish is for you to get closure not to forget, but to use it to push forward and find the happiness that you deserve someday.

jasco · Answer

Most rapist don't care about the victims at all. They just wanna get off. Also all guys don;t want to be rape. No one wants to be raped. Just cause people say it doesn;t make it true. Men and women for the most part don't like being in a position that doesn't give them some sort of control. So no men don't want to be rape, no one wants to be rape. But rapist don't care because they get off on it is all they want to do and all they care to do. Now maybe some years after they might care but more than likely they won't

VDrago14 · Answer

Men who do that to women don't care at all. They don't think of the consequences, and if anything will spin it so that it was the woman's fault for coming onto them anyways even if they weren't.

The son of a bitch who raped my wife justified it because my wife was wearing shorts, that was his excuse. She was wearing shorts and he felt she was coming onto him.

As I said, they don't given a shit

bolverk · Answer

They neither know nor care about what damage they have done, that is irrespective of their sex.
A man being raped is as traumatic a thing as it is for women, it is just that society refuses to accept it and belittles any man who claims to have been raped.

GoldenAxer · Answer

"Aware" sounds tricky. A psychopath could be perfectly aware that they're hurting someone but just don't care. But I do think it takes a severe lack of empathy to force someone to have sex against their will.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Most women I ask their deepest darkest fantasy, they say something like ABDUCTION or RAPE PLAY.  That could be dangerous for predators who think this is what women REALLY secretly desire.

IAMNathanael · Answer

I think either they're unaware or just don't care. All a rapist wants is to satiate themselves.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm always nervous around women. They often have pedophilic behavior around children.

Touching kids, sleeping with students. Encouraging kids to do sexual behavior or dressing them up. in adult behavior beciass they think its cute

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I was actually taking you seriously until you said condominium.

loveslongnails · Answer

They are totally unaware of the consequences of their actions EXCEPT to recognize the fear and chaos they create in the immediate future - and they get off on that.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I think that a part of them actually do... that thought scares me

Anonymous · Answer

Girl, I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to you. Did you have a shoulder to cry on?

chriscdi · Answer

Why not ask this question to your boyfriend, clearly this question is meant for a rapist

Waldoe · Answer

men that Rape, don't care about anyone or anything except their own desires

Twalli · Answer

Most rapists aren't serial, but they usually don't se the harm they've caused.

princeofromance · Answer

They don't care. It is about their pleasure, not their victim's pain.

888theGreat · Answer

they don't care if they did they wouldn't be raping people. They want to ejaculate in someone.

Pterodon · Answer

They don’t care and that never enters their minds. It’s about punishment and control

Turtleneck22 · Answer

Pretty sure they don’t think that way. Much like pedos they are sick and can’t think rationally

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