Is it a bad sign if a guy says he doesn't know what he wants?

[Anonymous]

.. isn't ready for a relationship and it's not fair if I wait for him...

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[Browneye57]

Really bad. It means he's weak and indecisive, and you'll be bored out of your fucking mind. Go for a guy that knows what he wants, is going after it, and is actually going somewhere and being someone.

[Asker]

Why would I be bored?

[Browneye57]

Because weak indecisive men are boring AF. You'll see.

[Asker]

Lol ok

[NathanDavis]

it can be a sign of immaturity, which would be bad for sure... if you're looking for stability in a relationship, then... this one won't be it

[Asker]

I agree 👍

[Anonymous]

Ugh tell me about it, why do they keep saying this but expect us to stick around…

[Asker]

Exactly 🤬

[spartan55]

No one is forcing you to stick around. Take some ownership of your relationships.

[Asker]

We're just saying 'they EXPECT us to'

[spartan55]

Riiiight, and then you do stick around and bitch and moan that all guys are assholes. Rinse repeat.

[Asker]

Well you're proving to be an asshole so 🤷🏽‍♀️

[spartan55]

Why, because I'm right?

[Opinion Owner]

Well in my experience when I do leave they end up guilt tripping me and forcing themself back into my life, so it just gets annoying how some people are super indecisive about the person they supposedly care so much about

[spartan55]

They aren't being indecisive, they are saying what you want to hear so they can fuck you again.

[spartan55]

"forcing themselves back into my life" you make it sound like you have no choice. Victim mentality 100%

[spartan55]

If you'd listen to what I'm saying you might learn something. Or keep doing it your way...

[Opinion Owner]

@spartan55 well no, I cut them off. They usually come running back, texting and calling multiple times a day. I’m just sharing my experience and I’ve definitely learned from it, I’ve experienced both perspectives where I recently kept a guy around just bcs I wanted some good fuck but I realized how shitty I was being so I ended it but hey you live and you learn I guess

[spartan55]

At least you ended it in good conscience. It's much less likely that women use guys for sex, but it happens.

[spartan55]

He only wants to fuck. Whether it's good or bad is your choice

[Asker]

We hardly ever kiss and hug tho lol

[spartan55]

Lol that doesn't matter. 🤦

[Asker]

I mean it's been a year and we hardly ever physical. Surely a guy would give up by then