What does it mean if a single guy turns down an invitation to go over to a woman’s home? (Page 2)
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There is no one answer to this question. It could be that he does not like you in that way. Aka your in the friend zone. It could be that he wants to get to know you more because he has more on his mind then just sex. Like long-term goals and objectives like having a family. It could be that he is not in the mood. Or that he has a relationship with a other women that he do not want to mess up.
Sounds like he probably didn’t expect you to take the initiative with setting up plans now he’s nervous and backing out. How long have you known him? He could be nervous about not being able to please you if you guys have talked about sex.
About 5 months
Yeah, that’s not very long. Sounds like he might be nervous.
because he's all talk no action. a complete bullshit artist
Why would a guy do this though?
because he's spineless has no balls no guts. maybe he does like you just doesn't have the backbone to follow through. got cold feet
So many reasons, maybe he just doesn't feel safe being alone with a female at her house, there are so many negatives to being a single guy around females these days. Big reason not to is false rape accusations. If I was ever falsely accused, I would leave a note saying that it doesn't matter if they prove my innocence, my life is now ruined and there's no coming back from something like that and then I'd kill myself. Too much to go wrong for a guy.
Well you either doesn't like you which I doubt that is or he told you some sexual things that he cannot back up maybe or maybe he's just scared LOL
Being playful. Dog caught the bus scenario… got nervous. Expected to be turned down?
Only he knows
Because he's bored that you actually said yes and called him 'anytime'.
He got nothing to hunt now so nothing new and thrilling for him.
I’m waiting for marriage. I wouldn’t turn down the invitation, though. Benefit of the doubt. I’ll need evidence it was for that reason, and could always just leave.
A lot of us would love to just have sex but we also have terms and conditions. Like being in a committed and loving relationship. I love sex but I love being loved w whole lot more.
Sounds like "all talk no action." Maybe he's afraid he can't live up to his words.
I don't date anyone and I have been single for 15 years... no relations either... so why am I answering this?
Sometimes I get on a roll answering questions that I don't know when to stop... lol. I'm sorry
My first guess is that he doesn't trust the woman with a condom full of his seed anymore than he trusts himself to refuse sex if offered and he is smart enough to know that if that woman wanted, she could destroy his life with some of his seed. He is protecting himself.
Well it can be as simple as he have no interest in having sex or get involved with you. Single guys have a right to have standards you don't meet.
Not in the mood that night? Not sexually attracted to her at all? Tired? Busy doing something else? Etc?
There are just so many rumors that guys are very interested in sex and that it's a big priority to them.
It is, that doesn't counteracts any of the above though
Doesn’t like her that way. I’m sorry girl. If it’s you.
Two most likely possibilities are he doesn't find the woman attractive or he's clueless about the giant green light and has something else going on that he'd probably bail on if he could see said giant green light.
One reason is he might think it is too soon and he isn't ready for it.
We were having a conversation about my new apartment and he started telling me all the things we would do together if he was to come over and visit, both sexual and non-sexual. So I told him he could come over anytime and tried to set something up as far as when it would be. But he responded by saying he wouldn't be able to come over because of being too busy. And it never happened.
@Flower7 Yeah that is real weird. Maybe he likes talking about it and he might get turned on by it, but when push comes to shove, he backs down. Just my guess.
I've seen you post about a guy who says that he is real busy with work. Same guy?
Yep, the same one.
He might just be an introvert or shy, or maybe he wasn't sure about her situation or sure what she was asking.
Wait for few days he will definitely initiate that topic again
He just needs some time to process things and will reply you sooner with his answer u want to hear.
This was 2 months ago.
What is his age?
And is he mathematician or has some interest in mathematics by any chance?
He's 36. And yes, I have heard him say that he likes math.
What made you ask about math?
Crazy things we mathematicians do and think, we used to purely think and do our actions based on LOGIC and probabilities
In ur case it's simple but I may be wrong but there is trust issues and he is thinking too much about outcomes like u can file a false rape case or record his video and then blackmail him
His thoughts are around that things but I may be wrong, but this is most I can tell u with limited information I have about him or your behaviour towards him bcz if u r too good towards him then ease a bit and sometimes show ur negative sides also bcz this will increase his trust towards you
And again wait he will come to you but make sure he is comfortable with the above scenarios so that he doesn't suspect you
You can choose other option like involving the 3rd party such that they know about ur relationship and that 3rd party should be more closer to him than u
As a guy, only 2 reasons this could ever happen: he thinks your place is gonna be gross OR he doesn't want to have sex with you