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Generally mem are more able to separate emotions from fact than women are and don't usually feel the need to cry at the same things a women do. That doesn't mean that men are emotionless, although some are, but we tend to analyse situations differently and more objectively. That's not to say that there aren't women that are the same and can also look at things more objectively and less emotionally. Also society says that men are supposed to be the string protectors and be able to hold it together in situations where we need to be strong so we can resolve the situation with a clear head on not act on emotions in the heat of the moment.21
He probably doesn't get really emotional. I don't usually cry unless I'm very sad or upset (I actually cried a bit when I found out I've been blocked by someone I liked) and I don't cry over movies. I have even teared up a bit around onions but now I've been eating more of them so I'm getting used to them again20
I didn’t cry very much when I was a kid, but people who don’t cry might be working too hard to hide their pain. As an adult I cry a lot, I actually find my tears are a sign my pain is moderate because I don’t cry when my pain is severe, only when it’s slightly unpleasant.20
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It happens. My dad didn't cry when his mother or grandmother died. Plot twist: he had a medical condition that blocked his tear ducts from producing tears. Crazy huh? As he said "it doesn't mean my heart wasn't crying the same as everyone else in that room"34
Its not weird but it is unfortunate. Make sure you are allowing him the space to open up to you and get emotional. Make him feel comfortable and safe enough to do so... being vulnerable is really hard. Everybody cries, everybody feels things... and everybody hurts. It might take some work but you should let him know that its okay to share his emotions. It won't make him any less of a man.13
For a lot of guys, that comes naturally. Some of us couldn't cry even if we wanted to. I think partially due to society. We are taught right from birth from everyone (even women sometimes, we'll often get comments such as the ever so famous "suck it up"), that it's not "manly" to cry and only women cry. We are taught it's "weakness", which is ridiculous, but the reality sadly.15
It’s not about control.
Men just cry less
Women cry more
I cry, when I don’t, it’s not because I’m controlling it.
Crying is similar to laughing.
Not all men are this way. I would be concerned about his control of emotion. If he is bottling up, he might burst one day. He may see crying be a form of weakness. Does he ever talk to you about his feeling? Not just for you.32
Usually it is something personal that resonates with a man to make him shed tears. Most of the time we bottle it up and separate tears from the situation because we are supposed to persevere through difficult things and come out stronger on the other side.10
I don't understand those who do cry during a movie.
You know it's not really happening, it's a story and what you see are actors.
Even when you watch something super dramatic it could make you misty eyed but breaking down in tears is something you should have control over10
Unfortunately, such bringing up methods, maybe you would like to call it toxic masculinity or however - got them to it.
For more clarification, you may check my replies to other comments further in the thread. :/20
Each guy is different. Some men are very emotional, and some are just ice cold. I was never really emotional till two yeas ago when I lost my father. Now I am more than ever.22
Its hard for me to cry in my thirties but in my early 20’s i cried all the time with my ex girlfriend probably because my puberty is a late bloomer. Last time i cried was related to my fathers death but other than that I just have occasional tears of joy when I see something so beautiful it makes my eyes water10
When I've cried... I usually just like to be alone and do it in private. If someone is right there watching me it kind of stops me from crying.
I don't want to be watched. If I'm alone I can let loose.
I rarely tear up in front of others.20
Society has psychologically trained guys to control their emotions and not cry often but I don’t like crying period especially in front of people and I feel like I would be the same way if I was a girl12
If you have been dating for a long time then I would find that very odd, but if it's a new relationship it might be understandable, at least until he feels more open and comfortable.31
We do it alone. When my ex had a miscarriage I still went to work my breaks where spent in a supply closet crying. Than when I got divorced she told me not to let our son see me cry because it would make him feel bad. Alone is how I did it.12
Because we don't have to try... We don't have anything to hold back.. were jus not that emotional... We only get sad if something really really really sad happens... But there's no way in hell we are gonna cry over a movie... Only a sensitive wuss would get upset about a movie12
It is the difference in how boys and girls are raised. Girls are generally more cared for. I don't mean that in a malicious way either. It is also culturally shameful for a man to cry in front of others.20
Told to deal with it and be a man from very young age. It can be a bad thin and a good think. Alway need in a relationship on parent to remain calm and collected. There will be times the he won't be able to hold it back anymore and thats when the woman needs to be strong and take his place as the calm and collect one.10
Men... are harassed and belittled while growing up... if they show weakness... we have to learn to be "Tough" even if we aren't11
I did not cry in front of my wife until the day mt father died which was 6 or 7 years after we met. Maybe I have cried in front of her twice after that.10
Men often feel nothing. We can exist void of emotion. This is a good thing, it allows us to be rational.
Also stoicism is a feature not a bug.20
Simple the reason is men are men and we have to be like that. Yes once in a while we may cry or may have a moment of weakness because we are humans too but that should only be once in a while.
If a man in emotional like a woman, cries often or shows his vulnerability like how a woman does then a woman will surely lose interest in that man, a woman will begin to think that the man is weak I mean mentally weak, cannot handle things and women see that as pathetic and always needs someone to assure him which will eventually put any woman off, it is like a turn off for women or at least to most women. With time a woman will surely lose all respect for such a man.
If a man cries often then the woman will think the man needs babysitting.
Yes, crying and showing emotions, feelings are good things and it shows that a person has a heart and is human but these are only attractive on women or to put it precisely it is more attractive on a woman as compared to a man. If a woman shows her vulnerability, her feelings and cries then to a man it means that she is sweet, kind, caring, sensitive and a person of soft heart and this in turn makes man feel more like a man and this brings out the protective side of a man and he will do his best to assure the woman that she is loved and cared for.
However, it is not the same thing if a man does the same. As I explained above if a man does the same then to a woman it will be totally unattractive, unappealing to them. These are CORE thinking of two opposite genders.
I don't know why exactly it is like this but this is how it is and to me it makes full sense.