This guy asked me out and I said I’ll let him know. Yesterday I texted him that I’m free n we could hang but he made an excuse n today again?

[Anonymous]

what’s going on? When he was interested in the first place why is he playing distant now?

[Cynicaldreamer]

He lost interest. Apparently you took too long, so he moved on-

I know, I know, that sounds stupid right? Especially if it's only been a day between replies. He either assumed you weren't serious, or you weren't a priority to him, so he moved on. Now he could just be flaky, and honestly I wouldn't waste any more time on him- if he really was interested in you, he'd put in the time and effort to try and see you. The fact he keeps making excuses says he's just playing with you.

Now if you're really serious about this guy though and want to go out with him, keep reading. If not, stop here.

I read that you were actually busy and couldn't go out with him- fair enough. Did you tell him that? Let him know that you're sorry you couldn't go out with him earlier, but you already had something going on. And you hope you can hang out with him another time.

Next time give him a solid day and time that works best for you. That way he won't think you're just playing around.

[Asker]

I was genuinely busy for four days and asked him out yesterday saying I’m free. He has made an excuse twice. I don’t know if he’s fixing his ego at this point or just lost interest.

[Cynicaldreamer]

More than likely, no longer interested :|
Trust me, don't stress over such foolishness. If he's immature enough not to realize that some people DO have lives outside of waiting on dates, he's not the one for you.

[Anonymous]

For all the people saying he lost interest? In what time frame? Unless you took like a month to respond. It doesn’t make sense. He doesn’t know what he wants, if he was ready and wanting to take you out he will figure it out and plan it even if it’s for a future set date that works for both of you !

[Asker]

I told him I’d let him know whenever I’d get free and was genuinely busy for about 4 days. Told him I was free on the 4th day and if he wanted to hang, he came up with an excuse twice. Guess he’s just fixing his ego at this point. What do you think?

[Opinion Owner]

he is weird ! most people don’t have all the free time in the world. he should act with a little more maturity especially if he truly wanted to see you

[serious]

When you said you will let him know he must have thought you are rejecting him politely and are not interested and hence he backed out.

[Asker]

No I was genuinely caught up some things but I did text him and ask him to hang out? How’s that a rejection? Is he not rejecting me now?

[Asker]

Or did he just loose interest? Honestly it’s so hard to understand boys.

[serious]

"No I was genuinely caught up some things but I did text him and ask him to hang out? How’s that a rejection? Is he not rejecting me now?"

I mean he thought you rejected him from your reply. Yes you did text him later and asked him to hang out but by then he might have lost interest.

Yes maybe you are right. If you want to take that as a rejection I can understand.

[serious]

"Or did he just loose interest? Honestly it’s so hard to understand boys."

Yes maybe he lost interest. True.

No, it is not hard to understand men. If you say it is hard to understand men then men can say the same about women.

[In_Trance]

Not interested