Should I send sth hot to the boy that asked me to do so?

[Anonymous]

There's a boy with whom I have been talked over the phone for almost a month and we shared our life with each other. One day he didn't reply mid conversation. I was really disappointed and decided to test him. I sent a picture of my body after workout in the moments (not directly to him) and he immediately replied. Apparently he was turned on and asked me to send him something hot. Although I have sth that I know he would like but I still said no because I felt insecure. I was really disppointed but at the same time I kind of like him. What should I do? I want him to like me but not just for my body and appearance.

[SueShe]

As a girl, you just don't share nudes. End of story.

Girls know very well that those nudes will eventually find their way into the depth of the internet on some of those sites where guys manipulate themselves and drool over those pictures.

Today's boyfriend or crush it tomorrow's ex. And what will happen to those pictures once you are finished with the relation? Will you destroy them? Of course not! You are likely to show them to your buddies in order to brag about your success and how you managed to get nudes from random girls.

Girls have made too many bad experiences with those nudes they have found on revenge porn sites that they are very cautious.

You can give her as many promises as you want that this is not going to be the case, it will happen sooner or later, Guaranteed!

[Asker]

true! girls should really be more cautious!

[doe9de]

If you don't feel comfortable sending nudes to this guy don't. If your ok with it then go for it. If he likes you then he likes you and if you decide to send him nudes or not shouldn't change that. If you do send to him he will probably love you all the more because your sharing your private life with him. If you don't send him nudes he should respect it, If he doesn't unfortunately he probably just wants you for sex.

[Ironic_Method]

Eh, I'd send something. Your body should be good enough to attract him, but it's everything else that makes him stay.

The other part is... do you like HIM well enough?

[Asker]

I do like him but I was also very disppointed at his previous behavior (disappearing when the conversation does not interest him). We are not in a relationship yet. Also sending boys hot pictures to attract them makes me feel easy and unrespectful. I will send him pictures if I feel it's necessary and secure. I don't like being asked for pictures.

[In_Trance]

you haven't met after a month?

[Asker]

good question. the truth is we are in different countries haha. I'm a Chinese girl and he's an American boy

[In_Trance]

then you're wasting your time.

[Asker]

you're right

[Avicenna]

I wouldn’t do that