Is it wrong to let a guy/friend spoon you when you have a bf?

[bunnahies]

its just spooning and hugging once in a while. there's nothing more! no feelings toward them. would you be upset if you found out your girlfriend/boyfriend is doing that? do you trust her that nothing happened?

just wondering cause I do it and I tell him, he trusts me.but I get upset when he hangs out with girls or touch them in anyway :( cause he's a guy! I know not all guys cheat...but just the thought of him thinking about the girl and actually being close to her :( yea its possible that he's just like me and he has never thought about the person...but its a small possiblity :(

[Anonymous]

Lol this made me laugh. If you are even QUESTIONING IT, yeah it's wrong.

You know it.

We know it.

You are just seeking someone elses opinion when all that matters is yours. YES its wrong if you have a boyfriend. Cuddling/spooning is an intimate behavior, You don't just do it with any guy friend. Would you spoon with your brother? Would you spoon with just any guy? No. You wouldn't. I would assume the guy friend you spooned with, you actually have SOME kind of feeling towards him. And that guy friend obviously is getting MIXED SIGNALS from you. That kind of behavior is not cool.

If anything, that is emotional cheating. Maybe a little of physical cheating. You have a boyfriend. GO SPOON HIM. Pretty simple isn't it. It would be hard to believe that you two "just spooned and nothing else happened". Sorry, that's a hard pill to swallow. Keep it to yourself, and behave more like the loyal girlfriend your boyfriend trusts you to be.

Uncool. imagine if he and a lady friend would just cuddle one night or something, and "nothing happened" according to him... How would you feel? What would you be thinking?

Put yourself in another person shoes, then you will find the answer to your question.

Just uncool.

[bunnahies]

i feel like its wrong. but since my boyfriend never has anything to say about I have no clue if its wrong or not , that guy friend is also my best friend, and he has a girlfriend. SOOOOO my boyfriend doesn't seem to care and my friend doesn't seem to care either. they made it seem like its no big deal! so I was...confused?

and I do spoon my bf! but I don't spoon with that guy! he spoons me! :/ its only hard to believe if you don't trust that person... and obviously my boyfriend does trust me :(

[bunnahies]

ive rejected him enough times...so I really don't think I have any feelings for him. ANY.

and we are both in a committed relationship... he plans on marrying her and everything, he mentioned taking me in as THE NANNY that takes care of his parents and baby :o I'm like family!

[Opinion Owner]

Well that is one abnormal friendship you have there. If you can talk about spooning your friend to your boyfreind WITHOUT feeling guilty or bad or anything, that would mean there's nothing wrong (I guess). If you do feel bad or guilty, don't feel that your boyfriend would like this news, than YEAH, its wrong. Stop. Talk to your friend about this really inappropriate behavior.

[confusedguy20]

Spooning? Are you freaking kidding me...whats next,is a girl gonna ask "is it cheating if I only put another guys schlong in my mouth"?

[bunnahies]

speechless...im not that stupid!

[b_luvedbaby]

My boyfriend would break up with me in a heartbeat if I ever spooned with another guy, and I wouldn't blaim him. It's way to intimate.

[JustDance]

What she said.

[bunnahies]

shame on me :(

[b_luvedbaby]

It's fine, just stop before your next questions is "I cheated on my boyfriend. Will he ever forgive me?"

[JustDance]

Lots of friendships are different, intimacy wise and other... but when it gets to cuddling, while having your own S.O., that just crosses the line. Stop while you are ahead and learn something about loyalty.

If you are doing something so intimate with someone other than your boyfriend, and you know its wrong. I wouldn't take that kind of emotional abuse, id dump you and find a girl who respects me and the bond between boyfriend/girlfriend if that makes any sense to you.

[bunnahies]

then its emotional abuse when I see him checking out girls...but its guy thing! so I'm suppose to dump every guy? I can hug/cuddle with girls but I can't with guys? why?

[Anonymous]

I do think it's wrong, while it's not the same as making out with them, in some ways it's worse because it's so intimate and close

[bunnahies]

but I don't spoon them...ill be napping and they come from behind me :(and by hugging I mean a hello and goodbye hug :x or he cooked for me lol

[Lupianwolf]

Yeah, I think that's pretty close

A hug is okay but lying together with your bodies touching, I wouldn't like that

If your boyfriend did the same how would you take it?

[bunnahies]

but at least I tell him everything and told him what happened :o

if he did it...he would never tell me! he won't even tell me he went out :x so yea id be really upset.

[Lupianwolf]

You'd be upset so maybe don't do the same even if it doesn't make him upset

It's good you tell him but to me it still seems a bit personal

[CuriousEddie]

Umm... it is a very intimate, personal, and even romantic thing to me. You have no feelings whatsoever, and you let this person get that close to you?

He's obviously okay with it, based on what you say, though.

[briven]

spooning is a good practice before, during and after intercourse..

[sourpatchchik2]

Heck yes it's wrong.

[Anonymous]

it is wrong cause it`s intimate.