Not sure what to do, my husband keeps staring at me?

[Misskjxo]

So this may be bizzare, we've been married for two years and together for 7. We've been through so stuff this year, caught him cheating and we're working through it. However he keeps staring at me and it makes me very uncomfortable and I've voiced this multiple times and he still does it. I try and appreciate it but it freaks me out and then he gets annoyed and doesn't understand where I'm coming from.

[caring__1]

He's either attempting to read you or looking for reassurance from you. He's like the puppy who gives you a sad manipulative look while you eat your dinner. You can ask him what is behind the stare, but you've already informed him how it is uncomfortable for you, and he chooses to continue it. When we've stated we're uncomfortable with something, and people continue doing it, they obviously care only about themselves and not how their choices are impacting others. You can share this with him and see if his behavior changes.

[Sam_The_Savage]

He have you whenever he wants than why staring? Lol. Weird.

[Ninani]

So he's purposely doing something that he knows makes you uncomfortable and insists it's your fault for overreacting? Yeah, he's the problem here.

[spartan55]

So your husband can't look at you?

[Misskjxo]

Of course he can but it's like staring at me, not just a quick look at me and I've voiced its making me uncomfortable.

[spartan55]

Very weird that would bother you. Maybe divorce him since he will cheat again at some point?

[noohair]

And why did he cheat?

[Misskjxo]

Blamed me for not doing certain sedual favours and also said because she was a cam girl he didn't think it was cheating.
Unfortunately this is the second time.

[noohair]

If you are withholding sex, is in punishment or trying to control him? Either way it will destroy the marriage. My ex wife tried that on me. I did not cheat but the love faded away. Now divorced.

The cam thing is bullsh! t. But withholding sex is path to hell.

[Misskjxo]

I haven't been with holding, I'm just not in the mood every night which then would be faking which is not fair on him so. Its just not every day, unfortunately the cheating brought on some self confidence issues and on set depression which unfortunately has added to me not being in the mood.

[noohair]

Understood. If he cheats, you have a decision to make.

[noohair]

The second time he was caught?

[Misskjxo]

I caught them both times, one before we married and one not even 6 months ago, the second I moved out temporarily and threatened to leave his ass behind.

[noohair]

One chance too many? Make him get an STD test.

[Misskjxo]

Potentially one chance to many for sure. Unfortunately I'm very border line atm, he won't get a third chance that's for sure.

[noohair]

Three strikes rule.

[Misskjxo]

I don't think I could mentally take more than the two tbh.