If my boyfriend feels "pressure" to get on one knee that means I'm not the one for him right?

[Anonymous]

He asked me when I want to be engaged I said in two years he said that's a lot of pressure

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Yet he wants kids... doesn't add up

[t-8900]

You want kids soon right? You're on a time frame and he needs to understand that. It's not just fun and games
He could impact your goals and life negatively. He waits to long and you might lose out on becoming a mom and it WOULD be his fault to a large degree but also your's from r choosing to stay with him. What if it doesn't work after 3-4 years? Now the who thing restarts all over again WHEN you find the next guy. How is that right or fair to yourself? Is he worth the gamble? And of he waits too long before marriage will he stay or leave for someone younger? These are very important things to consider and the longer you wait the higher the gamble of that, of poorer recovery from pregnancy, of down syndrome or mental complications for the child, of still Borns, etc. I'm not trying to scare you and it's true that medical has come a long way into prolonging the time frame for a bit but you are imho playing with fire if you REALLY want kids.

[InferiorElegy]

No it means he's not yet ready, I've never even been able to get a date and I could tell you you're overthinking things. You have your time frame that you want things to happen within, fine but no guy is going to be accommodating that and be the right guy.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think so. Because he ask when you want to be engaged. It shows that he wants to be engaged.


Perhaps he feels that 2 years is too fast for him.


I think there may also be other concerns. Financial? Family commitment?

[jshm2]

Not really. He either can't afford it, or there are many things to get underway before he can settle.

[Pyrofox]

I mean if you are serious about it just beat him to it LOL.

[OddBeMe]

Any guy would be under pressure. That itself doesn’t mean anything.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he has high blood pressure and he is worried about having a stroke if he bends down or squats. Maybe he has low blood pressure and he is worried about light headedness or passing out if he squats.

[BarryLiverstone]

How long have you been dating and are you both in love?

[LegendaryIcon]

yeah. it means you're likely only with him, to get married

[LegendaryIcon]

you don't have to be married to have kids

i'm "talking" to a girl with kids... going though a divorce. he was awful to her

[Anonymous]

it would be financial concerns for him not being able to afford to buy you an engagement ring and paying it off

[Avicenna]

No, it means he is not mentally ready.

[cloud9vortex1234]

Can you explain what doesn't add up?

[spartan55]

What doesn't add up?

[Asker]

Not sure if he's saying I'm not the one

[spartan55]

You are presuming to know how he feels, which is never good. All he is saying that he is feeling pressure. Pretty much ANY guy would feel that way. Is there a reason you have such a rigid time line?

[Asker]

Kids... and I dont want bastard children. I want to do it the right way. Or am I living in a fantasy