I feel as if my boyfriend is pulling me down?

[Anonymous]

I'm 20, he's 27. We both work in hospitality/food service, he is a food expo (makes sure the food is plated correctly, has the corrects sides) and also is room service (we work at a hotel) I'm a hostess at one of the restaurants. I'm also a full-time college student majoring in business and a member of Phi Theta Kappa (an international honors committee). I'm proud to say I balance 40 hours a week of work along with being enrolled full time while making excellent grades. I'm a very ambitious and driven woman who wants nothing but the best, I literally excel everywhere I work (every single job I've ever had has made me a trainer/shift leader within 2-3 months of me working there) this is because I want to be the best in what I do. My boyfriend is a rich kid. A lazy lazy rich kid. Who knows mommy and daddy will bail him out whenever he needs them too. He likes to spend his money on weed, tattoos and video games. He doesn't have a car (I have a car though and have been making payments on it since I was 18) he is totally content with being mediocre. If I want him to take me out on a date (once a month if I'm lucky) it is spent with weeks of me begging and then he gets upset with the prices. He would rather just literally sit inside get stoned and play video games than go outside and do something. I love this guy a lot but he makes me feel like crap if I want to hang out with him, he cheated on me and gets mad that I'm insecure about it and ask him if he's talking to any girls on social media. He blew up on me last night because I asked him if he'd put a simple picture of us up on Facebook, not a big deal in my opinion since we've been together like 8 months now. He's always making me feel like a bad person for wanting to hang out with him i'm proud to show him off and I feel as if he's not proud to show me off. I feel like I have a lot of things going for me, so I don't understand why it's such a shameful thing to be with me/seen with me.

[AlekH]

The people around you will influence you. Your partner, being the closest person around you, has a great influence on you. So if you are not comfortable with the idea of mediocrity, laziness, untrustworthiness, he is not the one for you; because if you stay long enough with him, that's what you are going to be. He is hurting your self esteem in case you are not aware of it. Anyone who gets treat like dust for long enough time will think he or she deserves to be treated like dust. And the lower your self esteem is, the more likely you are going to end up in another abusive relationship because good guys will not date a girl with low self esteem. The longer you stay with him, the harder you are going to try to reverse the harm and get out of the vicious cycle. By your description, he shows absolutely no respect for you; he either doesn't love you, or he doesn't know how to treat a person he loves. Either way he is ruining your life. Get out of it now. Love is like drug sometimes; for rehab, you need to change your patterns and take him out of your routine. Or whatever works for you. Listen to me, ditch him now.

[parkway]

The tattoo should have told you from the start that he cannot go very far in life. Combine the ink with his weak attitude, you are the only one trying in this mess you have.

Drop him like a bad lunch. He is not pulling you down. You are pulling yourself down by digging in the trash with him. looking for farts.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to say this, but he's only bringing you down. I think it's clear to see that you deserve way better! If i were you, i'd let him go. Personally, i'd rather be treated like a queen or alone, than to feel alone in a relationship. It's going to hurt, but i think it'd be in your best interest to part your ways. You deserve someone who surprises your with dates, rather than begging to go out on one. Someone who is proud of the girl you are. You sound wonderful, but you're not being treated right. I'm sorry that you're in a bad relationship like this, because it's going to hurt either way, and i think that if you're as smart as you sound, you'll do the right thing for yourself, and love yourself first. Do good for YOU, because he isn't.

[Aistra]

Guys can you usually tell when you don't respect them... I think regardless of why he is acting less proud of you should be an indicator for you that your wasting your time on him. He will likely never share your ambitions or appreciate hard work. He is mostly into material things and your character and ambition is not something he admires or appreciates. This relationship is heading for a dead end and I think you realize this and so does he. He is blowing up on you because he is selfish and has the mentality of I can do better because he most likely doesn't see your true worth. If I was you regardless of emotions I would dump him because clearly you deserve and are worth better.

[lumos]

So he's lazy, does drugs, is almost 30, cheated on you, spends money on weed/tattoos/video games, is a cheapskate even though he's rich, isn't very affectionate, overreacts, doesn't act like your boyfriend in general...
and why exactly are you with him? And why exactly are you surprised that he's acting like this?

[aficionado]

Should you even be asking this question? He's obviously pulling you down. You need to break up with him, and FAST.

I can't understand how anyone can love a guy like him and think twice about breaking up. There are so many genuine, ambitious guys out there who are struggling to find girlfriends because they keep getting rejected or friendzoned.

[Metlahead]

Don't let him hold you down. Stick to working on yourself first. If you get yourself figured, then your future relationships will be way more successful, probably your career as well. There is nothing hotter than a confident, independent, intelligent woman who knows what she wants and won't settle for less.

[Dragonblood21]

* Lazy rich kid
* Cheap even though he has money
* Gets mad at you for wanting a picture of you on FB (Who does that?)
* Doesn't take you on dates
* Makes you feel like crap
* Cheated on you
* Gets MAD at you for now being insecure, wat? Lmao he caused it.

What again do you like about him?

[05Jueey]

Holy crap. Demand what you deserve girl