2 so i (f17) really like this guy (m18) but inside i feel i will never be good enough for him because i'm overweight. im 155cm and 90kgs. deep down inside i believe that he truly doesn't wanna date a big girl like obvously he's gonna feel like he's gonna have to settle. and sex? forget it.
one of my friends had gained a significant amount of weight while in a relationship and her boyfriend would cheat on her with multiple women including her own friends, justifying by saying if she loses weight he will stop and truly love her.
i need some brutal honestly none of that love urself bs. do i honestly have a chance or is it false hope? i dont know if he likes me or not, we have been talking for 5 or 6 months but i feel he's pulling away, as most guys do. I feel like i have a decently good face, but i look very far from the previous girls he has liked and im worried that my weight is preventing me from so much.
I have been both overweight and skinny. Yes there are people who will get attracted to you if you are overweight, however, the bodyshaming I experienced back then was pretty damn cruel. I experienced bodyshaming in another way too when I was only 42 kg (now I weigh 50kg). Basically if you are a woman, you will experience bodyshaming no matter what. What matters is the weight you feel the most comfortable in. If you don't feel comfortable with your weight, you can always change it. Cardio worked for me and limiting my food portions. I never cut off junk food and sugar, but for example instead of eating a whole bar of chocolate, I ate half. Instead of ordering onion rings and fries and a sandwich I ordered only fries or a sandwich etc.
As for the guy he might be pulling away for reasons that might have nothing to do with the way you look. There might be another girl in his life, or he got back with his ex, or he just doesn't feel it anymore, or he only wanted to pass his time. Also keep in mind that when we are insecure about ourselves, we tend to be more needy towwrds someone we want to keep and that can draw them away.
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Yes you are fat we can’t deny it but omg you can fix this issue in 6 months girl. I know you are 17 but mature enough to understand. Please do Something about your health asap and the new you after 6 months is going to thank you. You are going to look beautiful BEAUTIFUL Do cardio 5x a week. Eat extremely healthy and look into intermittent fasting right now in YouTube!! Check out dr. berg fasting in YouTube watch his recent videos You are going to lose up to 30kg no joke so soon! Please be disciplined do it start now.
As for the guy really you are 17 who gives a shit about him ! You are going to find so many good guys until you get older. And explore so much. 💕🥺What’s important now as you can tell is to get healthy asap make that guy feel sad he didn’t ask you for a a date when you lose your weights.
Only 6 months of suffering but it will bring years of happiness internally and externally.
💕💕 you can do it Don’t forget to check dr berg fasting video
Isn't it strange how we are Our Own Worst Enemy we know what we have to do to make it right but we for some reason just don't do it did you know that if you were to walk at a very fast paced for 30 minutes a day for 30 days do you know how much your body would tone up I look into your eyes and if I look deep enough I can see the happiness I can see the pain that you're going through right now but the pain that you're going through right now you're willing to take that on instead of walking 30 minutes a day for 30 days and I don't understand that but that's what you want because otherwise you would change it I guess you really don't consider yourself heavy enough to change yet but sooner or later you're going to have to because of Health take 30 minutes out of your day each and every day for 30 days walk at a very fast pace it has to be a fast-paced don't eat no sugars or drink any soda Waters just drink water in 30 days 30 minutes a day you will look absolutely beautiful you look great now but you can look even better make the right choice just do it it's 30 minutes a day come on
Brutal honesty it is - You do have a decently good face - maybe more smiling because in that second Pic you looked like you were done - But I'd advise you the same thing I'd advise myself or anyone - If I was you I'd lose weight - And trust me it's a much much easier process than you might think - Just get obsessed with it - If it makes you feel any certain way my girl best friend back in Lebanon literally is 5 feet tall - She didn't get no attention when she was even a bit less fat than you are - She lost a lot of it and even I found myself attracted to her and she has like 2k followers on Instagram now (I'm just saying to put it into perspective, most of them are dudes she doesn't even know, in little tiny lebanon) - I hope you go through with this it'll be worth it - Just keep thinking about how you'll feel once you'll be able to reach that point where you look in the mirror and actually think to yourself that you're attractive - If you don't know how to start either go to a dietitian or google and gather the info yourself and all you have to do is apply what the plan says..
Girl, look, you are a BEAUTIFUL QUEEN, okay? But you really need to lose weight. I'm not bodyshaming you, but being obese is not healthy at all. You are only 17 rn, if you lose it now, it will be much easier for you to take care of your health as you grow older. Do intermittent fasting or follow the paleo diet.. exercise every single day. Go to the gym too. Be disciplined. Do this for yourself, not for some random guy. by the way check out blogilates channel.. her videos are pretty good for weightloss There are going to be sooo many other guys in the future. Who cares what he thinks? Your goal should be to live a happy and a healthy life.
let him decide that. i mean don't see why he "shouldn't" want you. maybe you're too fat for his taste. that's a real possibility, cause he is free to have that preference. but why not give him a chance and find out if he likes you anyway? the worst that can happen to you is rejection. you'll survive that right? :D at least you can be proud that you tried then.
also you being fat to the point where you don't like yourself is a problem that you have the power to fix if you actually want that.
i mean i personally like you simply for calling things by it's name and not being delusional about things. yes you are a bit fat in my opinion, not to the point where i wouldn't give you a chance but still a bit much for my taste. but you're not unattractive. being fat can be fixed, if you so choose.
try to lose weight, eat healthier and exercise, dont reduce your food intake cause that's stupid just make better choices, but if you do it, it shouldn't be because of a guy, only for yourself. then you'll get more guys and not just this one, if he doesn't appreciate you now, he never will
i always feel so angry inside that if i lose weight then people will find me more attractive, but then again its my fault im fat lmfao. wish it werent this way
if you lose weight or not, there's always going to be someone that will make yu feel ugly. im an attractive thin girl and the guy i loved treated me like trash and he was average looking lol. so beauty starts from within and learn to accept yourself. im still working on that myself. i use chloe ting workouts, u should check her out she's on utube
we have been in lockdown and also in our big grade 12 exam period. i dont know if he's reciprocating the same feelings. when exams finish something may happen?
i *personally* dont have a preference for a body type, unless they are morbidly over/underweight. like if a guy was my size i can find it attractive. but i am not most people
mm well who knows. He may not like you. I mean I think your attractive in your own little way, so who knows. Honestly he may just leave and if you want, I can listen to ya vent about if you want.
yeah, we talk every night and we have very similar goals and mindsets. something about this guy compared to previous ones is that he motivates me to be a better person.
