Guys, why do you prefer dating apps to approaching women?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I've never used them myself, but I have used them on friends' phones to see how they work and to read through profiles and things.

The reason some guys like them and use them is because it's a very low-risk situation. Having to approach women face-to-face and get rejected - because for most men, that's the norm - is very hard for most men to do. It can be soul-crushing. You don't have to deal with that as much online, as it's kept at a distance.

There's also the illusion that you have far more choices on an app than you do in real life - but, again, that's an illusion, because most of the people you see online aren't local to you (because in real life, no one limits their searches to what's actually local), which means you can't really date them. This is why guys on Tinder tend to swipe right on 90% of women based solely on their profile picture alone: they're casting a HUGE net, hoping to catch one desirable fish in that net, while completely expecting to "throw most fish back into the sea."

The only people who really benefit from dating apps are the Top 10% guys - who get to fuck a bunch of decent-to-hot girls with very little effort - and a bunch of above-average-to-hot-girls who are willing to trade casual sex for a night or weekend of high-end lifestyle, or who are willing to give casual sex to spend a night or a week with a hot guy that she hopes to turn into a relationship - even though that's never happened in the history of the world.

"Normal" people largely just waste their time completely by using dating apps.

MrWolf · Accepted Answer

As some other guy said we don't yet you use what you have available atm.

Basically times have changed and now to approach a girl it's not common and it's viewed as something wrong. For the most part. There are of course exceptions. Yet as most of the general population is always online it's a rather easy thing to connect trough those apps.

Chivalry is dead and long gone in this times.
Now a man is mesured by his wealth, social media status and other stuff most of us generally don't care about.

A bar is a straight No. So is libraries because I'm a guy who reads and writes books and everytime I hear the same thing it's a rare chance to meet a person who reads like?

And pandemic of course yay thanks for that too there goes social status. Then you have work, other things you are busy with. Hobbies and much more.

By the end of the day you either don't feel like going out or end up wasting time to chase the wrong rabbit.

Still I'd perfer face to face meet and greet then dating apps. But those times are long gone.

So yay for stupid dating apps.

JamesMI616 · Answer

I think that men prefer dating apps because it seems easier on the surface. The truth is that it's about the effort you put in. I'm much more comfortable and confident IRL, but if I put enough time in online I get similar results. I don't think a bar is a good place for much more than a one night stand because that's where people traditionally look for that type of thing. However, just being confident, outgoing and open to the idea of something organic can be the best way to something real. I don't catcall anyone on the street or mistake customer service for signals. In fact I wouldn't disturb someone at work in the first place. She would have to make a move first. With all that said, I think that guys are trying to avoid rejection. It's inevitable but online it's discrete and easier to forget. You don't have to be in the same space as the person who wasn't interested and the app always has another profile to move onto.

riidges · Answer

Girls get creeped out by random guys approaching them and instantly reply with "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm married" to get the guy go away. But on dating apps, they're there for that particular reason.

I would much rather meet someone in person, though.

jasco · Answer

Women in groups are scary, women alone are scared of you and unless your attractive, your more likely to be labled a creep or cops called on you. Its kinda hard now to meet and talk to women. Dating apps for guys makes things easier and safer along with less liking to end up in jail

Mustardy_awake · Answer

The only girls I see on a regular basis are the girls at work. It’s too high risk for me to ask out my coworkers. I don’t have any other social activity where I meet girls on a regular basis. I can’t just ask out random girls on the street. Online dating is almost my only remaining option. I find it more straightforward than starting a hobby just for the sake of asking out girls.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Convenience. Why bother approaching you and risk a needlessly unpleasant interaction when I can swipe right on your profile and figure out how you feel without the same interaction?

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Dating apps? Gawd no thanks. I'm old fashioned and have no problems speaking to women I've never met.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Personal safety. A 16 year old boy was shot to death in my country for trying to approach and talk to a girl around his own age (of course I don't use dating apps but I prefer them to bullets rupturing my internal organs).

JSmuve · Answer

Well ask yourself this: how many women want random guys stopping and approaching them throughout the day to get their number vs just letting them go about their day undisturbed?

Anonymous · Answer

Swiping on someone then not getting a notification in a few days... hurts a lot less than asking someone out and being told no, they are not that into you.

awkward_author · Answer

I prefer it because I'm a bit introverted. It's just easier for me. I'm also incredibly busy at the moment.

es20490446e · Answer

I prefer approaching women. When you are hot it works better.

Anonymous · Answer

No in your face rejection, no fake phone numbers, no games, plenty of sex only offers, etc

Shiningtempest · Answer

@sarasmithishere I prefer dating apps because I can easily find out which women are incompatible without the hassle of approaching in person.

Anonymous · Answer

Scared, the last girl i tried to ask out laughed at me. I can't put myself through that pain again, online is better

Zygum · Answer

Most dating apps are fake and scam, Pease tell me :the real and free dating app

Avicenna · Answer

I don’t. IRL is much better and a lot of fun.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

This question was already asked like 2 days ago.

TheFlak38 · Answer

women call that rape today

BaldAvenger · Answer

Less embarassment than face to face rejection.

driven159 · Answer

I like the personal touch not the impersonal apps

barn_stormer · Answer

dating apps are full of uggos. i hate them.

Better_off_here · Answer

i have tried both but not with much success :(

Anonymous · Answer

Less likely to get pepper sprayed or tazed.

jahaims · Answer

I don't

BarryLiverstone · Answer

We don’t.

Anonymous · Answer

ha lol no

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