My boyfriend is fighting with me because I put up these pictures, I honestly have no clue what’s wrong with them but he’s making a fuss of it. I did take it down but what’s actually wrong with them?
You're 90% naked and they are sexy and show off your body.
You two have different value systems.
You are in the post sexual revolution mindset, the extreme feminism mindset of show it off, no one owns me, I can do whatever I want, as long as I don't actually physically cheat on a guy I'm free to do anything I want. I let let 1,000,000 men gawk at my half naked body and all is good. No one touched me. I can do anything I want.
He is in the more traditional mindset of I'm her guy... she's my girl, I've given my heart to her and she's giving her heart to me, I don't share her. I don't want her taking off 90% to 95% of her clothes and putting that out there and letting guys get to stare at her... copy her pictures and keep them for their own eye candy pleasure... she shows off her sexy body to me but is modest with the rest of the guys in the world. It hurts me to have her showing all her intimate assets to other men. She isn't single, she is taken. Act like it.
You two differ.
Whether you are compatible long term... I don't know.
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Nothing wrong with the pics per se. The problem comes with posting them. Saying that, you wouldn't have a clue until your 18 year old daughter posted her skimpy bikini pics.
The only reasons you're posting them are to get attention. Nothing like knowing you're being ogled by millions of boys, men and levers, more than likely being fantasized about in some sexual situation, and most certainly being masturbated to bu some. And you wonder why your B/F is upset?
You're 18. An adult. Someone that's supposed to have common sense, as in not to be naive. You know what you're doing and what others are doing, and how the supposedly most important man in your life feels about it, yet you post anyway, and then act all innocent, claiming what's wrong with these pictures.
That's where I'll stop. I'll leave it you you to figure out what's wrong and what you should do about it. You don't need me telling you what you know is right. Remember, the pics aren't bad, just the posting of them.
He's a moron and that's way too controlling. He should be thanking the stars in heaven that he even gets to be with you. You look great and you have a right to be proud of that. There is nothing whatsoever wrong with those pictures. He should be admiring your gorgeousness (not sure if that's a word, but I'm using it, anyway) and be glad that you obviously take pride in your appearance. Maybe you should leave the pictures up and get rid of the boyfriend.
The first pic is fine. The second is showing off the ass more than the sunset. But it looks like a private beach yet he's probably wondering who took these pics of you. He sounds jealous but you sound like you need more than just hit attention to post this online
First of all... that isn't you. It's some Instagram model bimbo.
Second... Posed bikini pictures are trashy and attention seeking. Go ahead and wear bikinis at the beach if you want, but girls that post themselves all over the internet are attention seeking. Just like girls that pose in front of mirrors at the gym with their arses sticking out.
I thought you girls go to the gym to work out? I thought you wear bikinis for sun-tanning at the beach? Instead, you're taking up most of the time posing for everyone to see. It's quite pathetic.
Well, he probably doesn't like the fact that other guys get to see so much of your body for free. 🤣 It's a natural "mate guarding" response in human men. Especially men that have more conservative views for their girls should act when around other members of the human species. Or in men that know that other men will legit jerk off to any pictures of a girls skin.
And if he knows about it, like DWornock mentioned, I imagine that the thought of female's hypergamous nature scares him even more when you do things like that.
But ofc it's your body so you can do as you please. But don't be surprised if he dumps you for a more conservative type girl (in relation to how she allows her body to be seen).
He believes and it may be true that you posted the photos to attract attention from hotter guys because you are hoping for an upgrade. Typically that is what most young women do. They quickly find a boyfriend and immediately look for an upgrade and, when they are certain, they pounce. More often than not, it is not something the consciously do, it is a subconscious behavior that is part of their DNA.
That doesn't make it wrong since it is in your self interest. However, since he doesn't want to lose you, it is not in the best interest of your boyfriend. Therefore, he objects.
I will never understand some people's infatuation with posting pics just to show off their tits and ass online for random people to see. Is the thirst for attention really that strong in some people even though they have a significant other?
Yes, girls love showing off their bodies these days. They thirst for comments in order to feel better about themselves to the point of just flashing skin for anybody and anyone. It's a bit of narcissism, a dose of attention seeking behavior, and a lack of dignity. I know some guys do it too but it's an overwhelming amount of women on instagram doing that.
I don't know dudes are weird sometimes, he's being over controlling I think. Yeah I see ur but but it's not anything explicit or sexual. He's afraid of loosing you to another guy or is uncomfortable with the idea of other guys seeing your skin I guess. He's kinda wrong.
A) are they pictures of you? 1) if yes, then he probably is afraid his friends might like them too much, or afraid what his family might think. 2) if yes, nice butt!
B) if not... 1) he might like them too much (embarrassed by his feelings) 2) why do you have some pictures of a stranger posted somewhere in your home? 3) nice butt!
Why don't you get that the fact you are posting is to get attention, something you shouldn't feel the need for in a relationship. So you signal that he isn't good enough and that is disrespectful. You should be his during a relationship and not be posting pictures that can be sexual on the internet.
The fact that so many don't get this is why you can't keep the respect from men.
Because he knows you are fishing for other guys with these pictures. You can act like all the attention whores you see online.. or you can be better. Your choice.
They show off your body far too liberally and he probably don’t want other guys who you know to drool all over you and give you more attention than he does because he knows you’ll go wherever the attention is strongest. And he’s worried about losing you and doesn’t want to go down the red pill road if he can help it.
because it's not the right behavior for someone who wants to stay in a committed relationship. Go yell at your parents for failing you. Your doomed to have many failed relationships in your future and almost certainly on the path to being a single parent who will raise children with no morals. This path will also almost surely ensure that you nor any of your children will ever accumulate and meaningful wealth
I can't see anything wrong with them. They are tasteful for bikini pics, and it's not like you're doing the typical annoying Insta or OnlyFans selfie in them.
I’m going to be blunt…If you were unattractive he wouldn’t give a damn but as usual, pride kicks in when you do have an attractive girlfriend and the thought of other men coveting you bothers him. That’s all it is.
I really have no idea. They seem to be really great photos. Adequate exposure, no over exposing or anything. Nothing proactively seductive. Great photography too.
Maybe your boyfriend is being over possessive. Watch out.
You don't have a sun parasol in the first one, should put out a better message about the dangers of skin cancer and importance of covering up in midday sun
these photos are super nice and a figure to die for!! He is probably just feeling a bit insecure and over protective knowing people (boys) will be drooling over them!
Nothing whatsoever. He's insecure and believes these pictures will give him competition from a better guy. Your confidence alone should be sexy to him. And honestly he should feel proud and good/smug that he has someone as gorgeous as you.
