What’s wrong with my guy? We’ve been together about a year and he wants to do less with me. Only wants oral sex from me. No intro to his friends/fam?

[Anonymous]

Never wants to be seen in public with me. Doesn’t intro me as girlfriend. Tells me he loves me and doesn’t want anyone else and doesn’t want intercourse with me. He is friends with girls that have fans only pages. He posts in their comments and they follow him. In some car clubs with him so actually see him. He sees me everyday but only for 30-120min. Single dad. Personal trainer 3 hours per day. Always needing money and wanting me to pay, bought him a car etc. rents apartment from grandma. His parents never in picture. Has older pictures with girl he claims he never was with but everyone says he was with. She recently moved away. I’m older than him but I look younger and better shape. I have no family for him to meet. He treats me like he doesn’t really know me in public especially around people he knows. When I ask why he gets mad and says he doesn’t want to go see me and deal with this. Would rather stay home. Says he rarely sees his friends and how selfish of me to want to come with him when he does. He goes outside to talk on the phone where I can’t hear. He never wants a picture with me. Like on day trip, take a picture of me. he says but won’t take one of me or with me. Overthinking? He’s got money/pride issues? Doesn’t think I fit in because I’m older, make more money, not Hispanic but white? I’m in incredible shape with a body that wins contests in a barely there bikini. No kids, never married, no debt. I treat him like a king. massage his back and feet every day, have dinner ready, any snacks and drinks he requests for him and his kid. Even asked me for 600$ to get his kid Christmas present, go cart I’ve never seen. Doesn’t want to spend the night or have me over at his place ever. Even if kid with other family. I feel like I’m being played. I have no idea where he works, he quit the last place and went somewhere else. I saw on IG on someone I knows account and he screamed at me for following his friends. I told him I’m hurt. Just says he’ll give car back.

[Anonymous]

My guess would be that he is some sort of career criminal. I would immediately cut him out of your life. Don't associate with him. Tell him that you don't want any further contact with him. Consult a lawyer on how to get a restraining order against him if need be. Also, check with the local police to see if he has any outstanding warrants. If you can do background checks in the country where you live, do a background check and see what kind of criminal history he has.

[Iron_Man]

Why dont you sit down and talk to him talking is key

[Asker]

I’ve tried in a non blaming way and he just gets angry. Says I’m being high school ish. And he’s never had to prove he loves someone so much. Says if he wanted those other girls he could be with them. Says if I want sex I can go out with a couple of his guy friends that he’s says like me. I don't know, I even said if he’d rather be with the girl that moved I’d pay for him to go see her. He just got mad and said he was never with her even though he has pictures with her all over his social media. Just weird, he only wants oral sex, do nothing to me. I don’t know any girls who would put up with that. It’s not like I’m even asking for him to return the favor. I even told him I’d do anything he wanted, have another girl whatever. He wants nothing else.

[Iron_Man]

I would highly recommend get the hell out of there

[Asker]

I think you’re right. It’s not like he’s abusive or anything. No verbal abuse just getting more distant. We used to be able to at least go out to eat but now nothing. He swears he’s fine, I have the problem. He’s right

[Iron_Man]

I hope things get better for you

[Asker]

Thank you. It’s painful. I really loved and cared for him and his daughter. Looking back, I kind of think she just likes me to but her stuff on Amazon and from the mall. I was flattered she seemed to want to spend time with me but I think she takes after her father. Or he could have gotten mad at her because he told me he was taking her home because she had school in the am and the next day she asked why I didn’t want to go with them to the car meet. I said what car meet. She said he said he asked you and you didn’t want to go. Then she said oh. Damn I’m pathetic

[Iron_Man]

You’re gonna have to think long and hard about this whole entire situation

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Why are you still with him? :)

[Asker]

I do love him. He seems to want to see me every day which is a good sign. One of the posts on his Facebook by his ex actually had her family asking her that same question on the post comments.

[Avicenna]

Sounds like a complete waste of your time

[Asker]

To me too. I don’t have any family to say no, not good. I just don’t want to overlook any issues. Maybe he had bad breakup or hard to commit due to growing up without parents

[Wise4myage]

He's obviously using you, so stop tolerating it.

[IncognitoBandito]

He seems duplicitous