Why do “nice guys” think they’re entitled to you because they’re nice?

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Like no one is entitled to anything. If you’re nice to me that doesn’t mean I’m gunna throw my panties down for you. Nice should be simply doing a kind thing because you want to help someone or show compassion. If you’re doing said things only because you want in her tights and not because of good will then that’s not nice that’s just serving self interest.

TonyV · Accepted Answer

We get it, nice guys are just a joke to women, women just have fun and use them then throw them aside.
I'm pretty sure most guys start out as the niave "nice guy" try to all the thinks women say they want, communication, honesty, to share their feelings, bla bla bla. They have to learn the hard way that shit don't matter, all women respect is confidence, charm and their twisted idea of "assertiveness".
Don't worry the nice guys will go through heartbreak and change, some will give up, some will learn all the toxic traits women really are attracted to and turn into fuckboys that say whatever it takes to fuck a girl then leave her.
It's just wild to always hear women shit talking guys doing their best to be nice, don't even give them an A for effort, just petty.

It's like women are afraid of affection for some reason, nothing makes a girl loose interest faster than I guy who's clear about wanting them, instead chicks like the vague, distant guys who send mixed signals cause somehow nothing gets a girl thinking about better than wonder "why hasn't he texted me? Why's he hard to get? How do I get him?

The dating game is just toxic bullshit and I'm glad I'm not in it anymore.

SkipPerk · Accepted Answer

I have never heard this. The usual complaint is that women claim they want to be in a relationship with one man and one woman.

then these same women line up to be used for sex by the same handful of guys, then complain about it, as if someone coerced them into such decisions.

if you like your current situation, then keep doing it. Please though, do not complain that sleazy men who enjoy sleeping with lots of women do not magically want to stop behaving like they always have, and instead commit to some old, mediocre-looking woman, like a nice guy.

some women like nice guys. They marry and have families. Other women like casual sex with promiscuous men. What is unbearable, is when old and/or mediocre women complain that high status men enjoy large numbers of women, or choose to marry young, attractive women.

And the ugliest people are financially-successful women who incessantly complain about how male colleagues chose to marry wonderful women who will make good mothers and do not need ivf, instead of pointlessly marrying barren, elderly women who can only offer money, the one thing such men do not need.

SnakeBoop · Accepted Answer

I love how many comments you've got off men already trying to "defend" it

Razp_Sorbet · Accepted Answer

Being nice is the bare minimum for just being a human

Lionman95 · Answer

I don´t know if "nice guys" really´are just in dating for the sex part. The biggest problem they have is the feeling of lacking acknowledgement. I don´t think they just want sex but rather want to be seen for the effort they make.
Humans are social creatures that get grumpy if they aren´t taken seriously or no one takes notice of them.
If more people would acknowledge the help others do to them more openly and take less for granted. I think there would be much of a talk emphasized on "nice guys/people".

Anonymous · Answer

Will you stop, geez beating a dead horse. Your hatred of men is apparent in your post questions. The decent guys don't expect anything except to be looked at as decent guys worthy of being dated. Nobody owes anyone anything. Most decent men can't understand why a woman would rather date a go nowhere loser who abuses them over a less exciting but hard working guy who treats women right.

Caunsos · Answer

They fail to understand women are people. Failing to take the time to understand them as a person and add any personal touch their "niceness". Also fail to understand being nice mean give up something that rightfully your. Time, attention, right of way, money. And if your give something away with a expectation of getting something in return your not being nice, your doing business.

HighValue · Answer

If their only redeeming quality is being nice, of course that won't get them a mate. Just like once a woman passes 30 she is very unlikely to ever get a good mate too. Just face reality.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Well then you haven’t met a nice guy. That’s an asshole trying to do nice things for an end goal. Nice guys will actually do things just because. And usually will be taken advantage because a lot of woman don’t really truly appreciate a nice guy.

Anonymous · Answer

If we say it enough times maybe it will stick. The overwhelming majority of men do not feel entitled to women and the handful that do are just being toxic. It's as simple as that.

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

They don't. Most women they are happy just to spend time with them. The reason it happens to you is because they are hoping you you will get offended and go away.

Godsvengeance · Answer

Because they are full of shit. If anyone is being nice as a way to get something, then they aren't nice, they are opportunistic and likely faking it. Real nice people are nice without any expectations in return

Luopio27 · Answer

I think you have met too many guys who do not have the intelect to get with a woman like you. If you can, you could teach them the basics of flirting. The language of atraction. Being someones wing gir does not make you their fuck buddy.

AviatorTom · Answer

A truly "nice guy" is a gentleman, someone who wants more in a relationship than sex... but sex IS desired, make no mistake about that.

Dennisjf12 · Answer

Some guys are full of themselves & think they are God's gift to women & that's why so many guys send girls pictures of their dicks (cocks) like that's All women want is a big cock.

Anonymous · Answer

It's really not their fault! Most of such nice guys are raised by a single parent ( mostly single mom ).

But you always have the right ignore them.

I really feel bad for such beta blue pilled guys. Once they'd experience red pill I don't think they even want to date they would either turn MGTOW or they will play this more maturely.

But for now ignore such guys they're very much brainwashed about stuff regarding women that are not true.

exitseven · Answer

I just try to be myself and if people like me that is great. If not, well, you can't please everyone.

TsAubreyKate · Answer

By that logic we are supposed to treat women like crap to fuck them thank you for perpetuating fuckboy culture

Guanfei · Answer

Because women think they're entitled to be treated nicely just because they're women. And they won't hesitate to lead on and use nice guys to get what they want.

IsoUser · Answer

To be perfectly honest Supposed " Nice Guys " are Entitled to Nothing except a nice night out and dinner with a beautiful Girl. An absolutely not should the girl have to pay anything!

bowenw · Answer

In my book nice guys have proper manners. It doesn't entitle them to anything.

msc545 · Answer

Must be awful to have no men even occasionally wanting to have sex with you...

loveslongnails · Answer

How many guys have you met who actually think like this?

Andres77 · Answer

They don't. If they think they're entitled... they're douchebags

Pohjolan · Answer

Its not as much that men expect women to date nice guys but wonder why they prefer assholes and even convicted murderers.

StickStickity13 · Answer

This is such an old question, probably asked thousands of times on the internet

Tstrbrainer · Answer

True, but you should not lead on such guys either.  If a guy expect a blowjob for helping you, don't let him help you in the first place

Anonymous · Answer

Yes we know. You women prefer shitheads, not gentlemen. We've known that for a while now. The more you're mistreated, the better you like it. Not exactly breaking news.

Anonymous · Answer

How do you know that they are nice to you because they want your body? Do they come right out and say it or is that an assumption you make?

Blaine999 · Answer

Exactly it. They're not actually nice guys, they're just frauds

dolemite89 · Answer

amen being nice doesn’t get you anywhere with women

Xtendable · Answer

Doing the right thing should be the standard, I agree

Anonymous · Answer

Why do women thing they are entitled to a mans money just because she has a vagina?

Iron_Man · Answer

Not all guys think that way

grega239 · Answer

Why would someone not serve their own interests?

SignedAutographs · Answer

We want your respect. While girls want love

Anonymous · Answer

Because they’re mentally ill.

rabbitzzz · Answer

You are right MILF.

Reijen · Answer

Yes, yes.

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