Why do "nice guys" whine so much?

Question

Is that a common trait of being nice? If so then no wonder girls don't want nice guys.

Benedek38 · Accepted Answer

Nice guys are not actually nice!
They only want sex!
They are totally pathetic!
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Do I get my cookie now for being nice?

People like you, asker, make me sick. You are the biggest hypocrites of all. You expect the little pat on the head for trashing men that women don't like. You're the kind of guy who kicks the unconscious man on the floor a minute after the fight ended. You should be ashamed.

And to women:
There are shitty people. Call them so. Some. of them suck at dating, some don't. Don't hijack a positive word just because you had bad experiences, and are now disappointed in men. I'd say not all men are like that, but that was also made into a joke.
Seriously, fuck y'all. A man can't do anything these days without being labeled something negative.

ThePundertaker · Accepted Answer

There are too many self entitled people in this century

hopechest · Accepted Answer

The guys who are always whining aren't nice guys. They might say they are nice but they are the furthest thing from nice in reality. They believe acting nice (it's difficult for them) should automatically grant them access to sleep with a woman.

ChronicThinker · Accepted Answer

Why does any self-entitled person whine? They’re self-entitled.

ManFrom1982 · Answer

They haven't learned how to have an independent confidence and to accept rejection by women as a part of life yet. I say this because I was one, and I was resentful and bitter about women not appreciating me or good men in general enough, in my opinion.

At some point I realized that my attitude actually the biggest part of the problem and that my approach was counter productive. I wasn't going to feel respected and masculine (and thereby attractive) by talking a woman into seeing me as nice and good and whatever I was going for. That was only going to happen if she found me attractive WITHOUT all of that convincing talk, if she found me attractive on her own. I also realized that even if I could somehow convince the whole world of women to change their approach... That would change them to something other than what I was already attracted to, which want going to do me any good. It seems simple but it was like a mental block. After that it was a lot easier. Just accepting women as they are, on the terms they set by what they respond to, made it a lot easier to figure out what skills I needed to learn and what accomplishments I needed to pursue to be more attractive to them, and having the confidence to not be scared of any of them shooting me down was the hardest skill to learn. Learning that I needed to change myself instead of the world was the biggest key to getting there though.

Ouroboros8Fate · Answer

Perhaps they get annoyed with getting a label slapped onto them for shit they aren't guilty of. Like when a girl gets with a bunch of shitty guys and cries about how every man she ever dates is a douchebag or only wants her for sex and uses her. Why do girls bitch and complain about the men they chose to be with? And when a decent guy who is actually sincere attempts to try and talk to a girl he's interested, he has to work 10 times harder to get past the fucking safe space barriers she's set up because of her past traumatic experiences. Thus why we have SJW's and Feminazi's who are self-entitled and feel that it's okay to harass someone based on their prejudgement.

A lot of women complain about "ALL GUYS ARE PIGS AND ONLY THINK WITH THEIR DICKS." Because they had a few bad dudes that they chose to be with? And when that "nice guy" comes over to talk to her he's already labeled as a fake guy who is "just like every other man". Since there are so many scumbag men who manipulate a lot of women's gullibleness and pretends to be a good guy only to get what he wants and break her down.

I don't appreciate when people assume shit about me without actually getting to know me. Or blame me for some shit I didn't do.
I treat people with respect and hope for the same. But there are people out there who enjoy flexing their opinions about situations and others without actually having any hard evidence to prove their case.

JacksonH · Answer

Some guys feel like that if they're nice to girls, they'll get some action. It's because of those underlying motives why girls don't go for the whole "nice guy" facade.

So to answer the question, no. Whining is not a characteristic of being nice because it shows that they expected something in return.

Now, there are actual nice guys who do nice things for girls and expect nothing in return nor have personal motives. They just do nice deeds because they have chivalry and respect.

It's when they do something and expect something or hint at some sort of reward and not receiving anything back is when they whine and blame everyone else, particularly girls, for their problem.

Anonymous · Answer

It's a product of the times. There was a world of complain about every little thing that bothers women and society pays a lot of attention to women. So men develop an attitude about being super nice and doing everything right because if they aren't complaining about you then perhaps you're worlds above other men. But when being nice, avoiding all the bad shit women complain about (justified or not), trying to do all they shit they ask for and still not being as attractive as you expected, well I'm sure that's frustrating and they express that frustration in ways they've been conditioned too. i. e not at all, if you're a guy you're not allowed to get angry at anything ever except things that hurt women.

englisc · Answer

I think that most people don't get it. Some of them are idiots, but to blanket them all and say that they're all fake nice guys is false. Many of them are just confused because they're told a lot of things that don't really work when it comes to getting women.

RationalMale · Answer

I love blog posts and "questions" like these. XD Tell all the nice guys they're just whiny entitled assholes, and they must have tiny dicks if they're nice to women hahaha. Then you look at girls who are a little bit older, or maybe just dated harder and burned out faster and got to this stage from getting what they wanted--

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JesseTheMan · Answer

Because girls are stupid and ignore nice guys and go for assholes who will abuse them and then leave them when they're done using them. And then the girls pretend like it's not their fault for picking the bad boy inatead of a nice normal guy woth a good job and good morals.

MrKinktastic · Answer

Most I've seen were overweight, had shit jobs and, understandably, no confidence. The incel types turn bitter and blame everyone else, mostly women and the men they go for.

Tldr to get laid build a life someone else might want to join.

xTom98 · Answer

Because they can't get laid and blame others.  Self proclaimed "nice guys" are actually the bitchiest and whiniest persons I've ever seen. They dont accept that they are doing something wrong 🤦

StrawberryMan · Answer

Because of the injustice. Women walk all over nice guys, or just reject them, but stay with the bad men who mistreat them. The result is a society of single mothers, fatherless children, and broken families. Women choosing bad men over nice guys is destroying society, and every time a nice guy complains he is labelled a cry baby or some other childish name. It's just the world that we live in. But in the end God will give payback, so there is still hope.

djmzes · Answer

Simple

Philyouup · Answer

there are "Nice guys" and then there are "NICE GUYS" Nice guys are just everyday Non dick people that just get a long. NICE GUYS call themselves NICE GUYS and bitch about woman that all ways pick assholes and ask where all the nice guys are. and the NICE GUYS say right here...

Miss_missy77 · Answer

It's literally so cringe for me when I've seen this. Lol. They're usually younger reallly spoiled guys who do this

exhaustedfromlife · Answer

Well, this post really brought out all of the so called nice guys because I see some are bothered by it but anywho they whine because they can't get their way just like every self entitled person does.

aialex · Answer

Thank you for understanding why we don't want nice guys *hugs*

Jake2190 · Answer

Those nice guys are eunuchs. Ballless. They don't solve a problem, they bitch about it. Need to be enslaved and casually penetrated.

Astoriana · Answer

They’re not actually nice people, just entitled assholes.

boggboss · Answer

Because they think if I don't act like a player surly girls will like me not seeing they also require some level of social skills

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone wines mainly spoilt people or ones who habe entitlement.  English people moan and whine aboit everything lol.

alice55 · Answer

They're not nice at all, they're hypocrite assholes.

adolescentswede · Answer

I am quite sure we aren't thinking of the same guys, but in my experience nice guys have been a mix of stoic and curious

Edanurus · Answer

Generally they don't but people only notice the loudest most obnoxious of the group. I do get called a nice guy and I don't like the connotation it brings though.

heyyyyy69 · Answer

Same reason "nice girls" whine. Their all shaped like balled up homework but feel like they deserve the best looking best personal having person

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Because they can't understand that the nicer they try to be... The more women run from them... And they can't figure it out

Swaggirl1 · Answer

They never get laid blame society girls and are just big bitches.

Lance1965 · Answer

Everybody whines. It is just the nice guys are more selective over who they whine to. The bad guys whine to everyone.

Noiva · Answer

There's a difference between a genuine nice guy and a nice guy who expects to get laid just by being nice.

dontgofalling · Answer

Look, there are 3 kinds of nice guys, 1, the whinny bitches, 2, the badass nice, but nice, 3, the polite nice but manly polite, and sometimes they can be both polite and a badass and nice

Anonymous · Answer

Niceguys aren't actually nice guys, because they're only nice to all hot girls. They're basically like fuckboys but without the balls to make their intentions clear.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

I'm not the nicest person in the world because I'm the smartest. Being nice is something stupid people do to hedge their bets.

JellyDonutguy96 · Answer

how am I being unrealistic by saying I want her to be pretty should I say I want an ugly one then, is that realistic for everyone?

WeirdoWerdo · Answer

They feel entitled just because they aren't cunts AND They never get laid and blame girls. Actual nice guys wouldn't do these but they have the same name so...

PlasticMan · Answer

They whine because they think they're nice when they're actually assholes, usually.

BOUNTYGUY9 · Answer

l am very nice and l dont whine thats why girls like me

Seppelson · Answer

I have never seen a good guy whining all the time. And I bet girls prefer a criying good guy than a bad guy than never talks about anything

Anonymous · Answer

A person who complains is disqualified from being a "nice guy".

elizabeta · Answer

Nice guys are nice guys  Nothing wrong with that  Just some guys abuse the word

marilynmansonssextoy · Answer

"Nice guys" aren't the same as guys who are nice xx ~ Mrs Manson

MlleCake · Answer

They aren't actually nice.

Nahliability · Answer

Can I vote for all of the options?

ZELLxoxo · Answer

They are annoying, like a fly.

Celq532 · Answer

Because they aren't "nice" in the first place.

LegateLanius · Answer

Not nice. Just another pretense.

DamnMan · Answer

It’s because they are cunts.

PrettyRegular · Answer

It's a good choice to be a good guy.

HereIbe · Answer

They are little bitches.

cancan73 · Answer

I don't whine, but I am a massive cunt 😊

cynical_ · Answer

cause they never feel like it’s their fault

Penelope_ · Answer

All of the above

Anonymous · Answer

They never get laid and blame society

TheUglyMan · Answer

Why can't us nice guys have an opinion?

Anonymous · Answer

Cause it is the main reason

MarketData · Answer

Bitches gonna bitch.

GayHowellMeme · Answer

They never get laid

AlbanianYoungLady · Answer

Can't have sex

TriggerCurtis · Answer

ALL OF THE ABOVE

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