Do guys try for girls they believe are in their league? or do they aim higher?

[Anonymous]

In their league

They aim higher

[Anonymous]

They always aim higher from personal experience. I see all these old men on the site, in their 50s and thinking they deserve 18-20 y. olds. I knew one, who commented on a 17 y. old's pics that she's average. I mean chances are you aren't Brad Pitt at that age 😂 only girls with deep psychological daddy issues would date someone that old

[HighlyVolatile]

I just talked to people around me at social events and if I was really clicking with a girl, I'd ask her out. I wasn't thinking about leagues. I thought more in terms of compatibility than leagues.

[HighlyVolatile]

If I try to think in terms of leagues although it's not the way I normally think, I've dated women who were wealthier than me, others poorer than me, women more popular than me including a model one time, women less popular, more educated, less educated... there's quite a mix there. What they all had in common is that we really clicked when we talked to each other.

[Asker]

I mean looks wise

[HighlyVolatile]

Looks-wise as well. I dated girls who were very plain-looking and skinny with no breasts and no butt and barely noticed by other people with few friends (I even fell for one like this) but I also dated a swimsuit model once who I couldn't even leave at a restaurant for 5 minutes in the bathroom without customers approaching her and hitting on her.

[HighlyVolatile]

I never put heavy stock into the flashiest looks in the first place. I didn't pick out the swimsuit model based on her looks. It was because we talked in a VIP lounge in a nightclub and I was practically the only guy who wasn't hitting on her while guys were forming a virtual line to do so. Then she sat next to me and asked me where I was from and we talked for the longest time and really clicked so we started dating.

The way I see it is that these flashy and youthful looks fade anyway with age. I tend to value a woman who is healthy and takes care of herself because I want her to live a long life and enjoy adventures together, but it's not so important to me that she looks like a model.

[Asker]

This goes against what I was told too, apparently really good looking women never get hit on it’s always average people that do

[HighlyVolatile]

It might depend a bit on how approachable they look. In that case of that ex who was like a man-magnet, she had the modelesque looks but also a very bubbly personality always smiling and looking extremely friendly. She was mostly a happy-go-lucky type mostly interested in partying when she wasn't doing her photoshoots.

[MTC29]

Most guys don't buy into the idea of "leagues" which is one reason there are surprisingly large numbers of ordinary looking guys with very good-looking women.

[Gingerguy33]

I don’t even think about leagues when going after a women

[LiamS345]

We aim higher. So that when we miss we still land in our league

[TyLeeAndPink]

Seems legit

[ChiTown33]

Neither. I aim for women I'm attracted to. It just so happens they're usually out of my league. Lol

[Iron_Man]

I don’t believe in that

[Anonymous]

A confident man wouldn't care.