Do guys realize when a girl is flirting/hitting on them ”discreetly”?

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TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

In general with this #metoo movement, emphatically 'NO!'

As a male, "we" want incontrovertible assurance that YOUR inclinations aren't misinterpreted!

Your movement's spotlight has LOST YOU the personal ego 'safety' of masking a rejection.
As males, we've ALWAYS welcomed overt lechery.
Go ahead and 'goose' us!
Slide your hand into our trouser pocket in search of rolls of quarters...
DO a sly 'package check...
nibble or whisper something 'naughty' in our ears!
NO fuggin ambiguity! NO 'green light/red light' crap---

We're generally psychologically large dumb animals that have been
societally-conditioned to be 'gun shy' instead of innately assertive any more.

YOU don't get to have it BOTH ways!

Honesttguy · Accepted Answer

I noticed bunch of girls pulling their mobes on me at work place, but cus i dont mix work and relationships, it was becoming annoying for me, cus of extra work, but nevertheless still flattering to my ego cus of how much they wanted me.
But outside of work its fine, i enjoy it.

goldengirl2 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes they might but may start acting a certain way when they notice you flirting

KawaiiBlackBear · Accepted Answer

Sadly yes I notice from both genders... :C Reading people emotions suck.

bananamber · Answer

No. I'm horrible when it comes to figuring out if a girl is being friendly or flirting. I'd prefer to assume they're being friendly than to (again) make the mistake of asking out a happily married woman who I thought was flirting with me. Of course inversely this strategy has caused me to miss out on a more than one relationship when I figured it out far too late. On behalf of all men, please make you intentions clear to us.

Of course this brings to mind the Family Guy joke with Brian and the aircraft marshaller with the runway lights to the girl in his bed.

DownIndaDumpz2 · Answer

no idea,
once a girl rubbed my thigh in a taxi way home from college... i jus assumed i was hallucinating and it didn't really happen.

another time a girl moved into my block of flats and every time she walked past me she would smile, and then onetime i was sitting on a couch in the corridor, she smiled again, sat by me, and tried to make a convo,

then a few days later i saw her again she said i was looking good and invited me to go round her house if i want'

i jus assumed she was being friendly

i refuse to believe any girl could fancey me

SamIam96 · Answer

I have realized it after the fact/after it's too late.

I understand being subtle is a defense mechanism. If your advance is rejected, it gives you an out: you can claim that you weren't hitting. And somehow that saves you from being embarrassed. I wish you'd take the risk. If you're interested, put yourself out there. You have little to loose and a lot to gain.

mstbooblover · Answer

To be honest I'd love girls to flirt far more explicitely ! Sure a guy with a little sense of observation will notice a discreetly flirting girl, but that flirting might as well just be a game played by that girl to tease, which may lead to some misunderstanding. My reaction is to keep a wise distance until the girl clearly shows her interest.

ChiTown33 · Answer

No. Unless you flat out tell me you're flirting I'm completely oblivious. I remember this one woman. It wasn't till she sat down on my lap, straddled one of my legs, and started grinding against it that I realized, "oh, you know what. I think she's coming on to me".
OK I my be oblivious. But the truth is most women are very subtle when they flirt. So subtle in fact that nobody realizes they were ever even flirting.

Juxtapose · Answer

The thing is even when we notice these hints we know they can be taken in a different way so to play it safe we ignore them.

I mean you women complain all the time that your nice gestures are misinterpreted as romantic interest so I leave you gals the fuck alone. I'm too old for mind games.

Adam1978 · Answer

We might but in today's society it's simply not good enough. If you can't be honest of what you really want and put in real effort. Instead of things that anyone friendly could do you don't deserve to get a chance.

summiter · Answer

I think it depends on the guy. Some do not know how to read body language or get a hint and need something a bit more direct. Guys who are newer to relationships/dating/sex also may be a bit more confused. What have you noticed?

MartinGoulet · Answer

I can only talk for myself, but generaly I would be oblivious of "discreet" flirting from a girl. Why, because I work mostly with women (colleague & clients alike) so some ethics are requiered. Also, I have a great respect for women, more than a lot of men.

jdrt787 · Answer

Even if we did, we often overanalyze which winds up convincing ourselves we didn't actually see what we saw or that she' probably is like that with everybody.

It always amazes me how well I'm able to read people... as long as I'm emotionally detached from the situation. But as soon as feelings become involved, I revert to a box of rocks.

CasuallySamsonite · Answer

No, I am dense as a box of rocks... please hit me with a blatant hammer of affection if interested. Literally, if you just shoot your shot, make the first move on your crush, no matter what it is like the greatest complement of our lives.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Even when things seem like obvious flirting and she twerks on your lap you still get called a creep for misreading signals. I don't trust people who beat around the bush and play games now. It's either we want each other or we don't. I recommend ignoring the psychotic flirts and just move onto smart people who have real answers

DonkeyDan · Answer

Sometimes yeah but it depends how discreetly, some women can be so subtle you would never even notice.

JBlade · Answer

Some do, some don’t. I personally don’t realize because I don’t like flirting and don’t participate in that type of exchange.

JSmuve · Answer

Some do. Some don't. The problem women have is that their flirting is another girl's "I was just being friendly" or their flirting is so discreet that no one could pick up on it.

bulletbob555 · Answer

Probably not. Ever heard a man and woman argue him saying we were just talking? Well he thought they were just talking. A woman would know about the subtle flirting where it may go right over the mans head

Lynx122 · Answer

Depends, with age you figure shit out more but when i was younger I didn't have the slightest clue.

Lionman95 · Answer

I don´t to be honest. If it´s obvious chances are high that I don´t get it.

Jackblue · Answer

Some men assume that women are doing so if they just say hello. Other men afraid of the shame of misinterpreting and so assume no woman is flirting with him ever.

iamjustaman · Answer

No. I require direct communication. I also give direct communication. Life is to short for games

humanearth · Answer

For me, its a no. Unless you come right out and tell me. I never get Hints

skytatoe · Answer

Depends on how discreet it is. But yeah usually I'm very good at picking up when people like me or don't.

AdithyaR · Answer

Most of the time I don't and even if I do notice, my self esteem issues will convince me that she's just joking or being friendly

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

No because you crazy bitches read too many magazines and they're idiotic "fact based" advice. Just be direct and no fucking mind games.

jamesgoldman · Answer

No, I only realized when I was kissed and on the other occasion when I woke up on her dad's couch with my dick in her mouth

Zolly99999 · Answer

Most of the time I don't.. lol because not very attractive I figure no one would bother... They almost have to slap me in the face when they are flirting with me lol

fred_durst · Answer

i dont think so , unless it is really obvious many guys made mistake on this , when girls being really nice to them , they would think assume that she like him , even she is not

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Of course not. There's a reason so many men say that we want women to be more direct

Johnynitro · Answer

Depends a lot on the guy, myself i would never get a sign because i have low self esteem, if the guy is a confident person i'm sure he would realize easily most of the time

GingerTossah · Answer

I can guess. But it's impossible to know for sure cos she could also jus be being friendly

AndrésC64 · Answer

No. Don't act like a child. Say what you want. We aren't mind readers.

OddBeMe · Answer

No. You have to make really big overtures or we miss them.

jasco · Answer

most of the time, I don't. I do in third person but not first person

Anonymous · Answer

Probably not because women are often too subtle about it.

iFarted · Answer

Some do, some don't we're all individuals and perceive things differently.

Pohjolan · Answer

Either I have never noticed it or no one has ever discreetly flirted with me.

Twalli · Answer

Not necessarily, especially if she gives subtle signs

grega239 · Answer

That doesn't happen to me. And if it does, im not seeing it

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

That’s like trying to differentiate an French person and an Italian person

SHREYASH007 · Answer

Sometimes they will but still difficult to understand.

ishrak2EZ · Answer

Girls usually don’t ask out guys directly. Often it ends up in misunderstandings.

berwise13 · Answer

I'm kinda slow so I might miss discreet unless they are persistent.

Anonymous · Answer

No clue, I can't even tell when she is being overt.

MrCommodore · Answer

Honestly no, not always.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Yes its pretty obvious even if it is discreetly.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Nope. Be direct like an adult.

YesIWouldLikeFries · Answer

I do. But I don't care. Not interested.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

"Discreetly", no. I'm horrible at reading women.

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

I am especially dense about this

In_Trance · Answer

Never. Guys are dumb. Be bold

Fuentes · Answer

Notice but it can still be perceived as friendly

007kingifrit · Answer

no we are 100% oblivious

Nik_92 · Answer

Yes they're

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes I do

TrillXHippy · Answer

I don’t

Waldoe · Answer

maybe... maybe not

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

EnergizerBunny434 · Answer

No i can't

Anonymous · Answer

Hell no.

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