Do guys realize when a girl is flirting/hitting on them ”discreetly”?

[Anonymous]

[TheorionMage]

In general with this #metoo movement, emphatically 'NO!'

As a male, "we" want incontrovertible assurance that YOUR inclinations aren't misinterpreted!

Your movement's spotlight has LOST YOU the personal ego 'safety' of masking a rejection.
As males, we've ALWAYS welcomed overt lechery.
Go ahead and 'goose' us!
Slide your hand into our trouser pocket in search of rolls of quarters...
DO a sly 'package check...
nibble or whisper something 'naughty' in our ears!
NO fuggin ambiguity! NO 'green light/red light' crap---

We're generally psychologically large dumb animals that have been
societally-conditioned to be 'gun shy' instead of innately assertive any more.

YOU don't get to have it BOTH ways!

[Honesttguy]

I noticed bunch of girls pulling their mobes on me at work place, but cus i dont mix work and relationships, it was becoming annoying for me, cus of extra work, but nevertheless still flattering to my ego cus of how much they wanted me.
But outside of work its fine, i enjoy it.

[goldengirl2]

Sometimes they might but may start acting a certain way when they notice you flirting

[Asker]

Omg thats true

[KawaiiBlackBear]

Sadly yes I notice from both genders... :C Reading people emotions suck.

[bananamber]

No. I'm horrible when it comes to figuring out if a girl is being friendly or flirting. I'd prefer to assume they're being friendly than to (again) make the mistake of asking out a happily married woman who I thought was flirting with me. Of course inversely this strategy has caused me to miss out on a more than one relationship when I figured it out far too late. On behalf of all men, please make you intentions clear to us.

Of course this brings to mind the Family Guy joke with Brian and the aircraft marshaller with the runway lights to the girl in his bed.

[DownIndaDumpz2]

no idea,
once a girl rubbed my thigh in a taxi way home from college... i jus assumed i was hallucinating and it didn't really happen.

another time a girl moved into my block of flats and every time she walked past me she would smile, and then onetime i was sitting on a couch in the corridor, she smiled again, sat by me, and tried to make a convo,

then a few days later i saw her again she said i was looking good and invited me to go round her house if i want'

i jus assumed she was being friendly

i refuse to believe any girl could fancey me

[SamIam96]

I have realized it after the fact/after it's too late.

I understand being subtle is a defense mechanism. If your advance is rejected, it gives you an out: you can claim that you weren't hitting. And somehow that saves you from being embarrassed. I wish you'd take the risk. If you're interested, put yourself out there. You have little to loose and a lot to gain.

[mstbooblover]

To be honest I'd love girls to flirt far more explicitely ! Sure a guy with a little sense of observation will notice a discreetly flirting girl, but that flirting might as well just be a game played by that girl to tease, which may lead to some misunderstanding. My reaction is to keep a wise distance until the girl clearly shows her interest.

[ChiTown33]

No. Unless you flat out tell me you're flirting I'm completely oblivious. I remember this one woman. It wasn't till she sat down on my lap, straddled one of my legs, and started grinding against it that I realized, "oh, you know what. I think she's coming on to me".
OK I my be oblivious. But the truth is most women are very subtle when they flirt. So subtle in fact that nobody realizes they were ever even flirting.

[Juxtapose]

The thing is even when we notice these hints we know they can be taken in a different way so to play it safe we ignore them.

I mean you women complain all the time that your nice gestures are misinterpreted as romantic interest so I leave you gals the fuck alone. I'm too old for mind games.

[Twalli]

From what I've seen flirting begins as nice gestures. The problem is noticing when it changes

[Adam1978]

We might but in today's society it's simply not good enough. If you can't be honest of what you really want and put in real effort. Instead of things that anyone friendly could do you don't deserve to get a chance.

[summiter]

I think it depends on the guy. Some do not know how to read body language or get a hint and need something a bit more direct. Guys who are newer to relationships/dating/sex also may be a bit more confused. What have you noticed?

[MartinGoulet]

I can only talk for myself, but generaly I would be oblivious of "discreet" flirting from a girl. Why, because I work mostly with women (colleague & clients alike) so some ethics are requiered. Also, I have a great respect for women, more than a lot of men.

[jdrt787]

Even if we did, we often overanalyze which winds up convincing ourselves we didn't actually see what we saw or that she' probably is like that with everybody.

It always amazes me how well I'm able to read people... as long as I'm emotionally detached from the situation. But as soon as feelings become involved, I revert to a box of rocks.

[Twalli]

It's easy to see things from the outside. I can tell when people are flirting as long as I am not associated with it.

[CasuallySamsonite]

No, I am dense as a box of rocks... please hit me with a blatant hammer of affection if interested. Literally, if you just shoot your shot, make the first move on your crush, no matter what it is like the greatest complement of our lives.

[Anonymous]

No. Even when things seem like obvious flirting and she twerks on your lap you still get called a creep for misreading signals. I don't trust people who beat around the bush and play games now. It's either we want each other or we don't. I recommend ignoring the psychotic flirts and just move onto smart people who have real answers

[DonkeyDan]

Sometimes yeah but it depends how discreetly, some women can be so subtle you would never even notice.

[JBlade]

Some do, some don’t. I personally don’t realize because I don’t like flirting and don’t participate in that type of exchange.

[JSmuve]

Some do. Some don't.

The problem women have is that their flirting is another girl's "I was just being friendly" or their flirting is so discreet that no one could pick up on it.

[bulletbob555]

Probably not. Ever heard a man and woman argue him saying we were just talking? Well he thought they were just talking. A woman would know about the subtle flirting where it may go right over the mans head

[Lynx122]

Depends, with age you figure shit out more but when i was younger I didn't have the slightest clue.

[jamesgoldman]

No, I only realized when I was kissed and on the other occasion when I woke up on her dad's couch with my dick in her mouth

[Twalli]

My girlfriend making out with me before I asked her out was a pretty good signal to me. We kissed earlier, but then her mom stopped us from meeting (and my girlfriend didn't tell me), so I was getting mixed signals. Now he mom loves me, but before then she didn't even know I existed because she'd never seen me.

[Lionman95]

I don´t to be honest. If it´s obvious chances are high that I don´t get it.

[Jackblue]

Some men assume that women are doing so if they just say hello. Other men afraid of the shame of misinterpreting and so assume no woman is flirting with him ever.