There are a few ways I've been able to tell that a girl was into me. Sometimes it's when a girl is kinda shy, awkward, or avoidant around me. For some, it's when her entire demeanor lights up when she's talking to me vs other people. But then on the other hand, I've had some pretty immature girls just be rude and pick on me. This was also a strong sign, and later confirmed that hey did like me. Depends on the girl, but yeah.. There you go.
The tricky thing for me though, is when a girl is especially nice to me. There have been quite a few girls of interest who were very nice, and I really thought they were into me, but turns out they just saw me as a friend. And then other times, some girls were nice to me, also gave good visual feedback like smiles and such, yet I dismissed them as just being nice, but turned out they were into me. The whole niceness thing always confuses me. Haha. Maybe some other guys here can also relate.
The easiest would probably be the ones whose demeanor lights up when they interact with me. It's blatantly obvious and most of the time I was right when guessing if they were into me. It was especially helpful when my friends would comment the same thing and be like, "Dude, she just lights up, and so happy when you show up."
ya girls are usually really good at presenting their body language and giving signs if they’re attracted to you. some girls are genuinely clueless or super awkward tho and those can be confusing lol
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lol I am outgoing and talkative, but if I see the guy I like, I become shy and awkward. It’s like if all my nervousness makes me become very dumb with the things I say and do. To the point that I tell myself “just shut up already, you going to ruin it more” 🤣🤣 that’s when my guy got confusing signs 😂
Oh this is easy… when I’m flirting with you, I’d be giving you serious eye contact, side glances, smile 😃 and eyebrow action 😂. I’d be biting my lips, twirling with my hair or anything I’m holding and keep you talking to me… idc what the topic is about. I’ll find ways to bump into you or reasons to just talk to you. Hell, I’ll even ask you out if you’re taking too damn long 😜. Of course if I was single or you are single too and feel the same way as me
I get noted as flirting and chasing even when there is no interest or intent to flirt so when I intentionally flirt, I think I definitely get noted for that. But I flirt to establish momentum, not to boost my mood or boost my confidence, cause I think romance should be approached in a serious way.
Oh god I’ve caught signs a few days later a few times… he’ll I remember a point in high school was talking to a girlfriend and I realized she was hitting on me and didn’t realize that shit till I was graduated for nearly 20 years LMAO!
Some men are oblivious. ^this idiot apparently!
Sometimes, especially these days, you have to be careful. You might THINK she wants you to make a move but when you do it’s easy from simple words or a hand on the wrong spot to get in a deep hole. As a man you MUST BE ABSOLUTELY SURE! I spent most of my high school in a relationship. The risk of embarrassment held me back but these days… it’s the risk of assault charges. I’ve had one false accusation already… I’m not dealing with another.
Speaking of risk you could just get an ew or ignored. Women don’t open the door to interaction like they used to. Datings a mess and both men and women are checking out in huge numbers.
So you could misread the situation and risk charges or a hit to your pride… I don’t see a reason to recognize flirting unless it’s explicitly clear.
There are quite a few signs girls tend to show to let you know if she's interested in you. The first one being the fact that she's talking to you for more than five minutes in the first place lmao. But in all seriousness, here's a list of things I could gather about girls who are interested or just outright flirting;
1) it depends entirely on her personality but if she's a shy girl, she'll do her utmost to make herself stand out to you, and that means getting in on the conversation and talking directly to you. She'll also constantly play with her hair while she does it, smile, and angle her body towards you2) she'll tease you. She'll start poking jokes at you or just try to get a reaction out of you to make you laugh and acknowledge her comment. I'd get teased a lot by girls from my class as a kid and it annoyed me sometimes but then later I found out that this was kinda the reason why3) if she doesn't know you or she wants to talk to you really bad or she's thinking of you, she'll stare at you from across the room in hopes of you looking back at her. It may come off as creepy, but it really means she just wants you to come over and sit with her so that she can start a conversation with you
Yes, but there was a time when I was very lousy at picking up those signs, and then needed to convince myself that it was real, because I lacked confidence. Plus, women are used to interacting with other women, and they speak to each other with subtlety and subtext. Men communicate directly and to the point - you could often say "bluntly", so we don't naturally have experience understanding those subtle signs from women.
We have to learn how to read those signs, which takes time and effort, which also means that some people have talent and pick it up easily, and other need to work for a long time to learn (and some of those won't ever do that work).
It used to go over my head because the idea of a woman flirting with little old me was not even realistic in my head. But now I have way more self confidence and can tell when it's happening I even play along or even call her out saying "are you flirting with me 😏" to which the answer usually is "yes" with a shy smile.
It takes a lot of work but is very worth it to develop social awareness skills
I’m terribly oblivious to a girl flirting with me. Sometimes I have to have a neutral female party say, “Yo are you blind? She totally wants you STUPID!” Then when I backtrack and recall her behavior it adds up…a little bit anyway. There was one time a girl flirted with me and made it very obvious. I was playing guitar with my band at a beach bar…. strumming and singing background during a popular song. Well an attractive young lady happened to be dancing alone. We made eye contact, exchanged smiles and….. she got right in front of me, lifted her sundress up to her chest and very blatantly showed me that she was in fact a real female who took great care in grooming her bikini area. I could only assume at that point that maybe this girl liked me? LOL
Many times yes I can. If I am not into a woman I might just not respond to it. If she gets more aggressive. I might try and remove myself from the situation and if she keeps on might have to say something.
I can't read someone's mind and everyone is different. So what might be one woman's way of flirting might not be another's.
But many times I can just feel it or sense it. It is hard to explain. I know the eye brows if they raise. If she smiles and she has crows feet when she does it as well as seemingly melts.
But some smiles are purely friendly as well... Some women are more talkative but some people are just talkative. Sometimes a woman might like you... but in a friendly way not romantically or sexually.
But I do know if you ask a woman out and she says yes that usually is a good sign or she is at least giving it a chance to see if she develops more attraction even if she isn't that into you
It’s usually obvious when she is, and even when I was young I was very good at picking up on it. Body language and the fact she initiated a convo are usually obvious enough signs, but bring very friendly and complimentary are also often indicators. IIts something you have a feel for.
Dear Person, For guys, like me/us, it is hard to tell when a women is flirting. Categorizing, most men will be too dense/simple-mind/blockhead to understand the intricate mind of women.
Naturally, the best method for a woman to flirt with a man to tell it straight afterward. Otherwise, it would be consider as being polite/friendly. My best advice in regards to flirting; be straight, be crude, be true.
Most of the time yes. Some girls keep it vague so it just ends up going right past me. I don't always see it. I try to put together all the components and see what it adds up to. Body language, verbiage, tone, attention. I've gotten better over the years but some stuff is still camouflaged when the girl doesn't present it clearly.
I could when I got a lot older like late 40s and matured emotionally, and often I'd still back away. before that, I couldn't. The outcropping of avoidant personality.. driving by some mixed up emotions.
it can get confused just because of a girl being nice doesn't mean she's flirting... I mis translated early in life as well.
lack of experience, fear, shame, influenced early life.
She makes a point (sometimes subtly) of finding ways to be near me and chat.
Small compliments, laughing at my jokes and/or a bit of flirtatiousness are sure signs. Any kind of touch, like briefly touching my forearm with her hand, is a sign.
If I'm in the market for a girlfriend, think she is particularly attractive, and pick up on signs that she likes me, I'll ask her out.
Yeah over time you learn to recognize it Can you. tell when a guy is flirting with you... same difference
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I really can’t. Generally I only get guys staring at me and checking me out but they seem afraid to approach, that’s when they avoid me. There was a guy I really liked and he kept doing that, I smiled and try greeting him but he would turn his back on me, sooo I cannot be sure.
Well if he is staring at you and checking you all the time I would say he like and/or thinks your hot, but must be extremely shy or has low self esteem because at the point you look back and smile and wave is the point of entry and I would smile and wave back at you or approach you. The puzzling thing is why is he now avoiding you possibly is afraid of you rejecting him , and how do you get pass this? The only thing I can think of has risks (sink or swim right) is a more direct approach and just tell, go out get drunk and throw yourself at/on him, write him a note, There are many ways you can do this if it works great run with it, if not than run away In the end its better to make a fool out of yourself and get the answer now than spending the rest of your life wondering "what if" Good luck
Really its not that extreme I've had girls come to my place in the middle of the night. Or flash their goodies at me, some girls kmow what they want and go get it and are very blunt about it
. At the time I wasn't looking for a serious relationship so I didn't care one way or the other I was just happy getting laid, and they eventually moved on to another guy and I've hardly seen them sence, guess you could say it was a meaningful short lived relationship with no strings fuck friends than we both moved on
The hints and compliments are what women have done to me that made it obvious. Also being touchy feely is super obvious. The hints were going out of her way to come talk to me from a different department at work sometimes for example. Or she's close to me looking into my eyes and keeps touching my shoulder or arms during conversations.
If they start chatting up and laughing and shit, you know you've got them on the hook. A year ago, I was in the supermarket line and this older cougar (probably early 40s) started talking to me about something on one of the magazines, she pointed at Kanye West and told me she thought he looked funny in that picture. I got her number out in the parking lot and was banging her head-board out that same weekend.
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No, it's very hard to figure given the way they're. There was a girl who once flirted with me but she said I am a friend, another time she said she loves me... etc.
Example, recently I meet a girl and while I am talking she pullled her shirt a bit in what seems like making her breast comfortable.. And part of me says that's a flirt, another part says no. If you can help me with this example I'm grateful.
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I think she was flirting. A woman would “accommodate” her goodies only if she doesn’t care and is comfortable with the guy. Those things are unconscious and and only if she feels good and comfortable she will act this way. Even when women are among male friends, it’s uncomfortable to do that and one is more self conscious.
I think a lot of times I can't, Like a lot of Guys I can't really tell the difference between Flirting and just being Polite but it's hard especially these days because a lot of Girls flirt, But that doesn't necessarily mean they are interested in me.
No, not really. I think there is a whole "plausible deniability" thing at work. If I'm interested too, I try to up the ante while we're talking to see what happens.
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