How do I get over being played when you kind of knew but didn’t want to?

[Thevocalist]

I met a guy with a baby on the way and he was telling me things like how I was the right girl wrong time and he moved too fast with his baby mama and he wanted to be single. Everything was fun and pure in the beginning I never really wanted to ask him for anything because he had a baby on the way but I enjoyed his company. We were not official, my instincts always told me he was never really gonna be mine even if he said it just by the way we met but I didn’t know how to cut it off he played it so well. I ended up getting pregnant and didn’t keep it because I told him I didn’t want a baby right now and the abortion affected me more than I thought it would. I started getting emotional because of it and he was getting distant so I reacted and told him I’m gonna find someone else because he was acting up mind you he kept telling me he didn’t want me to leave. Texts faded and faded it’s like he wanted to cut things off but at the same time didn’t but I don’t read minds. He ended up blocking me bacause I said “fuck you” through text because he didn’t care about how I felt then he ended up blowing my phone up on instagram. I ignored it for two months and then replied saying I miss you he replied fast and told me to text him through a different number. Eventually I did and his baby mama replied and that’s how I got my information that he never really left and some more bs. Tips on getting over it emotionally. I have urges on getting my lick back but currently he is blocked on everything.

[IMuser]

Get yourself a punching bag since you definitely need it.

Make a pledge to not have sex before marriage. This can help you because not every guy would commit to you and the one who does, will probably be ready to accept the responsibility in case something unexpected happens (you getting pregnant for example).

I am assuming you had (or have sex) as a pleasurable experience rather than something "serious" stuff. If that is true, you need to replace it with something. It is difficult, especially for girls because they can have it whenever they want but this will help you

Makes sense?

[Thevocalist]

Thank you

[greycadillacs]

Preoccupy yourself with hobbies and doing the things that you love doing. Get to love your own company again, and do what makes you happy. As far as he goes, it’s clear he doesn’t care that deeply for your feelings, and going back to him will only bring more drama.


For how many men there are in the world, I promise you will find one who treats you far better. You can’t control another person’s actions, there’s always going to be jerks and assholes, but you can control your response to them.

[ShadowMonarch]

First of all, I'm sorry to hear that,,
Talk about it with someone close..
Don't bottle it up

[Thevocalist]

It helps a little and I can’t afford a therapist so I came to you guys

[ShadowMonarch]

Talk with a close person,, like a friend, sister or any elder whom you have deep connections with...
Your situation was so bad...
I mean a woman's most happy moment when she hears about her baby.. but you had to go all through that... I'll say YOU DID GOOD... don't lose hope yet..
There are tons of guys out there... you'll find the right one one day who will treat you like a queen..

Past is gone and unfortunately we can't do something about it,
Present is the main stage which will determine your future,

So live your life to the full!!

[Guy13]

Just move on..

[Guy13]

You’re 21…Are you ready for babies and husband? 23 IS kind of late to start baby producing…

[Thevocalist]

I actually think 23 is too early to start a family.

[Guy13]

Nahhh. I have friends with 8 and the youngest one is…just turned 10 and oldest is 22. They ought to be good 45. She’s 35 and he’s 39…. 50 year old grandkids, weddings, and traveling👍. They planned well and they possess that Bible thumping, country, conservative die before divorce mentality

[Guy13]

Youngest may have just turned 8-I can’t remember as there too many for “Uncle…” to keep up with…Uncle (respect term) to keep up with.

[Thevocalist]

I’ll have one when I’m ready I even told him I wasn’t but a lot of people say god don’t make mistakes so maybe it’s what I needed. But I like to think I made the right move because I’m not there financially. I don’t want my child to go through the same struggles my mom went through growing up.

[In_Trance]

Live and learn