What do I do if me and a guy who used to annoy and push my buttons are avoiding each other?

[Anonymous]

I noticed us make eye contact a few times and i think he even stared at me once last week. So i thought maybe he would try to talk to me again soon but today he avoids me again. Tbh im secretly so attracted to his eyes like they made me dream of being with him YOU KNOW? And also just knowing he's at work when im there or passing by him makes me so excited like I don't know... he's exciting to me whether its positive or negative. So yeah even though we avoid each other completely, my subconscious and body react to him with excitement anyway. Its sad.

[Anonymous]

You said maybe you should move on ASAP.. but we both know you can't do that because you're hooked. I'm guessing your laundry bill is a little higher now too. There isn't much you can do because us guys are logical so when we decide to avoid, we can do it for a long time. However, your mascara, perfume, how you walk, and proximity is likely to attract his attention.

[Asker]

My laundry bill has what to do with this?

[Adronicus]

I'll tell you a secret, I'm ornery as he'll & love to tease women a bit. There's NEVER been a woman I teased & didn't like. He's probably uncomfortable because it's too risky dating coworkers.

[Asker]

Oh honey... Im a sweet honey factory. I can't deal with combative man. I don't know if he is like that but yeah. He has the wrong girl if so :(. But yes i can see how it would feel awkward to date a coworker.

[Asker]

So for that i dont blame him
It kinda sucks cause work is where you spend most time and you're around these people so much its easy to start liking one. Or seven.

[Adronicus]

Understandable, been through it enough times myself when I was single.

[Asker]

The liking coworkers?

[Adronicus]

Yeah, it's tough but if things go south it's a nightmare.

[Asker]

Lol.

[DonkeyDan]

You know guys annoy and pick on girls that they like don't you?

[Asker]

I have heard of that and im still grasping that. But either way i basically hate being treated that way

[ShadowMonarch]

Could you elaborate what happened between you guys?

[Asker]

So basically he was being annoyng and pushing my buttons. Some guys are like that but i do not like that behavior. It made me mad and i began ignoring him. Then he gave up and started avoiding me back.

[ShadowMonarch]

It can be hard but having a conversation with a nice cup of tea could be the solution...
Communicate with him.. if he still resists than you should move on... no need to be desperate...

[Asker]

I was hoping he would make a move towards me. Maybe i need to move on ASAP.

[ShadowMonarch]

Yeah... you should, if that's what it is

[Asker]

Yep. I guessi wish i never had emotions towards men I am not even with. It happens so easily. Guys aren't like that right? They can move on easily or they dont get easily attached?

[ShadowMonarch]

Oh no they don't... if a woman plays the cards right... they won't be able to

[Asker]

Wait what?

[ShadowMonarch]

You misunderstood me...
I meant if a woman does not become hasty and doesn't give in to the man's words (play hard to get) men would be in a lot of trouble

[Asker]

Why so? What trouble? I am curious...

[ShadowMonarch]

The thing is, psychologically
Men are more aggressive and therefore react to actions
Whereas women are more about emotions therefore they react to things that affect their emotions

[Asker]

How would men be in trouble if women are not acting in haste?

[ShadowMonarch]

They would have trouble moving on

[Asker]

Oh? What do you mean by acting in haste? What are these women doing?

[ShadowMonarch]

They give in to men pretty soon...

[Asker]

Oh like when he flirts and she accepts it?

[ShadowMonarch]

Yeah... most women do that..

[Asker]

How does a girl accept flirting? I can't tell how guys see it.

[ShadowMonarch]

At that moment or time it happens naturally,,,, like how water flows

[Asker]

Im confused but ok

[ShadowMonarch]

Don't worry...

[Jamie05rhs]

He probably realized that he was annoying you, so he did he proper thing and backed off.

[Asker]

If he was nice i would talk to him cause i like him

[Jamie05rhs]

What did he do to piss you off, exactly?

[Asker]

He was like jokingly threatening to beat me up, embarassing me in front of others by piking on me and making a scene and saing i can't ignore people and saying he's gonna bother me all the time now... Oh my gosh. Just no. No. You dont do that to me. Never ever.

[Jamie05rhs]

Holy sh*t! That's not good at all. You need to run far away from that boy. I don't care if he is hot.

[Asker]

Wow... Just for joking sbout beating me up?

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah. That's not cool, sis. Huge red flag.

[Asker]

Okay 👍 ... I guess there's no men pursuing me so i got a little desperate even thinking aout this guy 🤣

[Jamie05rhs]

It's okay; I understand.
You've just gotta be careful out there! 💜

[Asker]

True... thanks ! i guess its like amber heard... Some people could be like thst and then you start dating them and think theyre wonderful and it comes out that they are chaos and then you're stuck for who knows how long trying to escape the damage

[Jamie05rhs]

Exactly.
(And you're welcome!)

[In_Trance]

you do nothing. get on with your life

[Gaurav2]

Why don't you approach him if you like him than?

[Esperanto]

make a move