If guy confirms place of the date same day that we’re supposed to meet is it bad?

[Anonymous]

Does it show that he sees me as a low priority?

[spartan55]

Where are you getting that idea? How would you be low priority?

[Asker]

We set the day and time to meet on Monday. we haven’t chatted after Monday. Also the place of the day is not set yet….

[spartan55]

What do you mean 'place of the day'?

[spartan55]

"if guy confirms place of the date same day"... so what are you talking about?

[Asker]

I mean if hw hypothetically reaches out to me tomorrow to confirm the date and it’s place would it be disrespectful?

[Asker]

If he*

[spartan55]

You are not making any sense.

[spartan55]

How are you figuring any of this is disrespectful?

[Asker]

He did not reach out to me since Monday to set the place for our supposed date.

[Asker]

He actually asked me out long time ago when his leg was still broken. Now that he can walk I had to remind him about the coffee date and ask if we’re still on. He said yes and we continued to set the day and time.

[spartan55]

Okay... I really don't understand what you are thinking here. Why does he need to reach out since Monday?

[Asker]

So 5-6 days of silence is ok?

[spartan55]

When is the date?

[Asker]

It was supposed to be today. It’s 2am where I live. He just texted me saying that he’s been sick and asked if it’s okay to meet couple days later. He asked me when I’m free…

[spartan55]

Okay, so how is this all him making you a low priority?

[Asker]

I don't know if he’s really sick….

[spartan55]

If you don't think he is being honest then forget it...

[Asker]

He could be saying the truth. I will give him one more chance….

[spartan55]

He wouldn't have asked about rescheduling if he wasn't interested.

[Asker]

I replied to him “ I wish you speedy recovery. I kinda guessed that we aren’t meeting today since I hadn’t heard from you and we hadn’t even picked the place yet”

How does my message sound ?

[spartan55]

Passive aggressive, and off putting to be honest.

[Asker]

I don’t trust him at all this point

[Asker]

His behavior is also off putting

[spartan55]

Why don't you trust him? What is he doing to annoy you?

[Asker]

He followed couple girls on Instagram. I don't know if he’s talking to other girls.

[spartan55]

Really? And you aren't doing the same? Don't make the mistake of overvaluing stupid Instagram. It's a false reality.
So you haven't even met him yet, but you expect him to not be talking to other girls? Really?

[Asker]

Yes. Me and him have been talking for a while now…..

[Asker]

I haven’t been talking to others

[spartan55]

You aren't dating, you haven't met, and you think following someone on social media means he is being a player. Yeah okay.

[spartan55]

You might want to chill out a little...

[alex2901]

It may be he didn't think you would be down to meet up... and just needed to get verification you are indeed still wanting to meet up.

[Asker]

It was supposed to be today. It’s 2am where I live. He just texted me saying that he’s been sick and asked if it’s okay to meet couple days later. He asked me when I’m free…

[Asker]

Lol he just canceled our first date

[alex2901]

Hmm well im going to assume he was sick or He was nervous and called it off and made an excuse.

The end of the day he still wants to meet up so the likelihood of him actually being sick is good and not him being nervous. I would find a date and time that works good for you and ask him if it works for him.

[Asker]

Lol he was like ” is it okay to postpone the date for couple of days”
What if I said no it’s not xD

[spartan55]

@asker
He didn't cancel, he rescheduled. It doesn't seem like you really want to go tbh.

[alex2901]

Ooo so yeah doesn't seem like he was too enthusiastic to go by the response ”is it okay to postpone the date for couple of days”... he may have used sick as an excuse to not want to go... mind you I say may because I don't know you or him... everyone is different. Me if I didn't want to go out with someone I would tell them I'm sorry I can't.

[Asker]

But he asked me when I’m free. He said that he will be sick at least for couple of days. That’s why he said he can meet after couple of days.

[alex2901]

Thats the Part thats conflicting because if he didn't want to meet up he would say I'll let you know when I'm available instead of putting the ball in ur court on date and time

[Asker]

I feel like he wants me to decide when we are going to meet

[Asker]

He did pick the place and he picked a place which is closer to me

[boldlyblu]

No, you want confirmation from anyone on dates and times.

[Asker]

It was supposed to be today. He texted me 2 am saying that he’s been sick and asked if it’s okay to meet couple days later. He asked me when I’m free…

[Asker]

I feel bad tbh. We hadn’t talked for 5 days and now he says he just got sick.

[boldlyblu]

Sometimes you have to take things at face value.
1. you never met him you don't know who he is.
2. You have no solid evidence that he's lying.

[Asker]

So I should give him a chance?

[boldlyblu]

Take the information you have and weigh it out

[Asker]

I replied to him “ I wish you speedy recovery. I kinda guessed that we aren’t meeting today since I hadn’t heard from you and we haven’t even picked the place yet”

How does my message sound :D?

[Asker]

I didn’t offer him days when I’m free lol.

[1step]

May be he is free that time

[Asker]

We set the day and time to meet on Monday. we haven’t chatted after Monday. Also the place of the day is not set yet…. Guess we aren’t meeting?

[1step]

May be he is scared it all depends on what he did in the last part of the date was he excited nervous or anything extreme else he didn't care enough

[Asker]

We haven’t met before

[In_Trance]

No..

[Asker]

Really?

[In_Trance]

Really

[Asker]

We set the day and time to meet on Monday. we haven’t chatted after Monday. Also the place of the date is not set yet….

[In_Trance]

So set it

[Asker]

I feel like not because I’m obviously low priority to him.

[In_Trance]

Maybe he feels the same way because you haven't bothered.
You're not interested

[Asker]

He actually askee me long time ago when his leg was still vroken. Now that he can walk I had to remind him about the coffee date and ask if we’re still on. He said yes and we continued to set the day and time.

[In_Trance]

Ok... and

[Asker]

I feel like I’m putting more effort than him if I send him message again about the date

[In_Trance]

If that's a problem, why bother? Cancel it

[Asker]

Do you agree that he’s not putting effort?

[In_Trance]

No I don't

[Asker]

So he’s putting effort in your opinion? How?

[In_Trance]

He suggested it. He had/has a broken leg. give it time. Or not.
If you want it, go get it. Not everything is gonna come to you. you're the only one and only thing stopping this from happening. If you think there should be and will be equal parts effort all time, you're going to be disappointed