What does it mean when he does this?

[Anonymous]

So there’s this guy I met a long time ago on a dating site my friend made for me. He lives in the UK and I live in the USA. We dated for a couple of months before he ended it due to his mental health. We have been talking on and off ever since then, and he claimed he’s changed for the better like he’s gotten the help he needed and understands that his behavior before towards me was bad.

so last week, he mentioned that he would like to restart a relationship with me because he realized that in every relationship he’s been in all he could think about was me (I don't know how true that is). I was obviously flattered at the time and entertained the idea some just because I thought it was genuine. However, the next day he ended it saying that he was getting ahead of himself and basically canceled everything he said before stating that his mental health is not doing as good as he thought right now. He said he’d be off of social media as well for a couple of weeks to get his mental state together but now I see him posting stories online only after a week of last talking to him so he lied about that. I’m not sure how to feel about it besides betrayed for the lack of better words or disposable. What do you think?

He’s a weird guy, don’t talk to him again

You’re stupid

Other (explain)

[DataOrganizer27]

Give him some time. As someone with a lot of baggage and various issues, I can be wishy washy too. Usually front experience, people from really well to do families, when they're wishy washy, ate serious and you should just move on. But if his background is muddled with his own baggage already and he's got more to deal with (and he's worth it and you truly care for him) be patient.

For example, my ex and I have a baby and I'm trying to reforge a new relationship. But he grew up middle class (I'm lower class) and he has his own baggage he processes his way so I don't push certain things unless I know he needs the push.

You've gotta know hon, and if you're here asking questions, try and pay some more attention if you know about his past. If you don't, ask about it. It can give you a lot of potential insight. Always ask though, because insight can be wrong.

[Flower7]

It makes no sense to try and have a relationship with someone who’s on the other side of the world.

[Staximus]

Talking to somebody on the computer or phone is not dating. You have to actually see them in real life to go out on a date or to be dating. You weren't dating, you were just having conversations.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I think he doesn't know his own mind, and if he doesn't, how are YOU meant to?

[Asker]

Well I’m just confused because he said one thing and then contradicted himself. Whenever I tried to confirm what he said to him, he got frustrated a little and told me that he already explained himself. I don’t know, I guess I was hoping that it was real at least that night when we were discussing it. We will never know

[TommyMountainFigure]

Well I hope he hasn't put you off of guys from the UK completely, we aren't all nutjobs 'ere. :D

[boredguy007]

Maybe you should talk over dont get too serious too soon. If you really like the guy and think he is worth it only then get serious and further with the talks. Follow me if anything else. 😉