Male friend getting way too touchy?

[Anonymous]

A guy in my friend group has been way too touchy with me for the past several weeks. He always puts his hand on my shoulder, and occasionally it makes it down to my breasts or messes with my bra strap. He also keeps hugging me from behind and I feel his thing poking into my butt. I'll push him away, but he just does something similar like he forgot that I pushed him away last time. How do I get him to take me seriously?

[DaveJord]

With guys like this you don't worry about him taking you seriously, you just stay way from him... I mean you really need to be direct with him and tell him in front of your group of friends that you don't like it and you really don't ever want him to touch you again. If he or they are your real friends they will respect that or you need to find a new group of friends or you need to talk to your girlfriends and have them help you call him out on it when he does it.

But you should not be letting him sit there with his hand on your shoulder with jerking way immediately, or letting get to the point that he has been touching long enough let his hand slip down to your breast... these types of guys are predatory with that type of behavior so you can not let it even get started. You have to get way from him immediately when try's to touch you and avoid him to the best of your abilities at all other times.

[ChrisMaster69]

Best way is to do it when you are all in a group together.

make a scene of it and tell him to fucking stop.

it’s amazing how a guy will really not want his and your friends knowing what he’s doing.

at a guess, if there are other girls in your social group, then there is a good chance he’s doing the same with them.

Be very in his face and make sure he knows 100% you don’t like it and to stop of leave the group.

[Asker]

Appreciate the advice. I'm pretty sure he only acts this way around me, which is probably why the rest of the group doesn't seem to realize that he can be weird. But that's a good point, it could eventually effect others too

[DaveJord]

The rest of the group does realize but might assume your okay with it... because it sounds like you let ot go for a period time... with hands on your shoulder or touching you in general. Its not until he tries to move to a breast or up our leg that you move away.. So others might be assuming your okay with it, or like it in general. Because you never say something and he stops once move. he's just conditioning you to accept him touching you and to some degree he's been successful already. But really if you let it go that far before saying something or talking to your friends about it... then you might find out that they are uncomfortable about it to... but you never said anything so they don't know what to do.

When I was like 15 I was at a football game with a group of friends. Well this little pervert shits down on the bleachers behind one of the girls. He massages her shoulders plays with her hair... by half time he had his hands under her shirt. I mean she looked really uncomfortable, but didn't say anything, or make any attempt to stop him. So I was like WTF, I never thought of her as a slut like that. But there she was getting felt up at a football game infront of everyone. Well she ended up dropping out of school and I never saw her again. She was so embrassaseded and traumatized that her parents put her into a private school.

I felt terrible because I could of stopped it. I could of crushed that little weasel. But I was 15 year old, I didn't know better, and she sat there and just let it happen to her. All it would of took was one word from her, just any sign and I would gone into action. But she didn't say a word.

You need to get vocal about this and fast, quit just letting it happen. You better start talking to your friends like now, or you will be a victim because you acting like a victim and predators seek thier victims out, because they will take the abuse. So don't be a victim.

[SecretsofKB]

You need to tell him straight up that he needs to stop because you don't like it.

And if he doesn't stop, you stop being friends with him

[mandyfire98]

Tell him if he touches you again you'll pepper spray him.

[Mikeybear]

@mandyfire98 Agreed.

[Jakes310]

Next time he messes with you, lift your knee up. Hard. When he finally gets off the floor maybe he'll have some more respect for you

[BLP11520]

Slap him, and tell him to stop. Otherwise he won't. You can't just touch a woman.

[whereismyjohnny]

Tell him you don’t like it?

[Asker]

Maybe I need to sit down with him and talk it out, but when I tell him he acts like it's a 1 time thing and kinda a joke

[whereismyjohnny]

Tell him that you are serious and you won’t tolerate it anymore.

He should respect you and your boundaries.

[Trekv22]

Jesus Christ. If you don't like it, just say no, stop it. I don't want to be touched like that! This whole passive thing of welllllll, let's talk it out... God, so dumb.

[EdwinLivingston_]

If you don't like it, tell him straight

[spartan55]

Don't tolerate being groped... Duh

[mVCyberduVm]

Be honest and tell him to back off a bit

[Anonymous]

Time to dump him as a friend.

[Anonymous]

offer to blow him see what he says

[Asker]

I am not rewarding this behavior

[Opinion Owner]

sounds like he is sexually attracted to you

[Asker]

Its not mutual

[Opinion Owner]

in that case just tell him NOT to touch you. By you not saying anything he may think you actually like it

[In_Trance]

break his fingers