He admitted why he didn’t want to sleep with me and it hurts.. what does it mean?

[Anonymous]

Guy said he didn’t want to sleep with me because he didn’t want me to get attached and then end up hurt because it didn’t lead to a relationship.

[Changiis07]

So once we have sex with a man, as women we get attached. He is preventing you from getting attached and then getting hurt because he doesn't see it going anywhere. Meaning if you were the one for him he would be trying to get to know you. If anything it's best that he said this now before you get too attached. Honestly it feels like he isn't going to commit to a relationship with you. Are you guys friends? Do you spend time together? Do you see effort in his part to want to get to know you as more than a friend. This is something you should be looking out for when even thinking about dating or going on a date with a guy. Think about what you want in someone and set boundaries. Don't be afraid to ask a man what he is looking for. Does he want to be a friends with benefits, is he looking for marriage. The more you ask these type of questions when getting to know someone the more you'll be able to get rid of the guys who are not for you

[Asker]

He wanted friends with benefits but I ended up not wanting that. I had only talked for a few months and I thought we were cordial friends but I said something mean and I asked why he still replied to my text..

He said “ I feel bad for you “ “you seem angry, lonely and insecure “ .. so ig that was the reason he was allowing me to text him

He totally just told me the truth about myself and said that he felt bad because “I didn’t feel like I was good enough “ but I didn’t know I was fully projecting those feelings.. he was just waiting for me to drift away from him and leave him alone ig

But I after we agreed on not being friends with benefits I apologized for wasting his time and I said I would move on. He’s the one who said talking to me wasn’t a waste of time and he really liked talking to me

But he did say he can’t give me what I want and if I found someone who does then he really wants that for me. He hopes I’m happy

[Changiis07]

So yes it sounds like he was just there for you as a friend and nothing more. Did you start growing feelings for him? Is that why it hurts that he said that

[Asker]

But what would even make him say “I feel bad for you “ “ I feel like you’re insecure, lonely etc... he even said I conjure up things to play victim to...

I did say something mean to him before he said all this

Yes I am hurt that he doesn’t want a relationship.

[Changiis07]

So maybe it was the mean thing you told him. Maybe that’s why he said that could have been his way of hurting you like you did to him. But honestly if he doesn’t want a relationship then move on. It’s not worth sticking around if you like him and he doesn’t. There’s so many fish in the sea

[Asker]

It’s a complicated feeling you wouldn’t understand until you were in my shoes. I was talking to him and I did tell him that I was lonely. He told me that he really liked talking to me and we talked. He was busy with work but he still took time to chat in the morning and before bed or all day. We talked everyday almost

But what if what he said was true. I am lonely, insecure and angry. He doesn’t know that I suffer depression at times

Even though he wasn’t trying to sleep with me he was still trying to ig subtly be there. No he didn’t initiate or ask me questions but we still had cool talks

He said he felt bad that I didn’t feel good enough and that wasn’t the case

He said I was beautiful as I am and to stop being so down on myself

[Asker]

This is not heavy infatuation this felt emotional before anything and I needed a guy to tell in a brutal way “the truth “

So yes, even him saying he didn’t want a relationship.. I knew that I just thought maybe he was falling for me or maybe something would change..

I almost felt like I needed him in a way. I needed that

[Changiis07]

He probably sensed all this from you and that you are depressed and was being there for you. I'm sure being heard felt good but if he doesn't want anything there will be others. I think it's best to work on yourself first so that you know how to be happy with yourself and not rely on others to make you happy. It takes time but you have to sorround yourself with people that want to be around you and find things you enjoy that make you happy. You don't have to be dreppresed

[Asker]

He’ll never want me? This is painful 😣

[Changiis07]

Who knows maybe he will, time will tell

[LazerBean]

He doesn't want a relationship with you and so he isn't going to have sex with you. Pretty straight forward.

[ohshee]

He's basically trying to manipulate you into having sex with him and then walking away he's trying to make it sound like he's being a good guy by telling you this but it's not because of the way he's is saying it he's basically telling you he just wants to fuck and then walk away because he's not interested

[djmzes]

Simple

[Anonymous]

Proof that women are never happy. If you lie to them and tell them what they want to hear. Then you used them. But tell them the truth like this and they're still mad. 🙄

[ImNoOne111]

Its very suspicious, you sure you aren't getting played?

[DWornock]

He was just being nice and didn't want to tell you that you are too fat or too ugly.

[Luckycharms12]

He being hurt before doesn't want to be agaín

[Asker]

He’s over his ex but I definitely just think he doesn’t want me

He’s been honest with me

[In_Trance]

wdym what does it mean? Wtf
Move on

[Asker]

Could you answer my other question I invited you to

[In_Trance]

For real?

[Asker]

If you don’t mind