I think I have been friendzoned, any advice?

[anoymousunistudent]

So to be brutally honest, I’ve had my eye on this guy for a few months, I really thought we got on and got eachother, I thought he actually, someone, thought me of something special for once. I know we haven’t know him long but still I messaged him asking to hang out but sent quite a long message saying how I hope he has a good summer and that we should hang out one time and I like his art, he told me why he was off and said he hopes I have a nice summer aswell but totally avoided the thing about hanging out and just said “Think Im gonna hibernate for the next twelve weeks” How can I deal with this, I can’t stop crying, It sounds daft but it meant a lot to me and I feel heartbroken… what can I do? I don’t want to say too much else as I have to see him in September

why am I single? Why does nobody ever like me, what did I do?

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Also: Don’t know if this has relevance or is worth mentioning, this guy has depression and anxiety. I really don’t know how to reply to what he said so I left him on read for now…

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he’s not interested.

Saying something like “I think we should hang out sometime” is waaay too vague and noncommittal.

As a guy if you want to go out with a woman you state it clearly and specifically. “Are you free next Saturday? I was thinking we could grab some dinner, do you like Italian food?” You’re making your intentions known and you have a specific plan you’ve proposed.

You basically did what people all over the world do. Say “we should hang out” while not making any plans to actually hang out. I get it, you didn’t want to be rejected and you were keeping things vague in the hopes that he’d jump at the chance and take the initiative. Nope. For all he knows you were just saying that. Lots of people “say” they should hang out, but they never do. Things come up, life happens, and then they forget about you. Then too much time has passed to hit them up without it being weird. And then they become just one more person you kinda sorta knew.

[anoymousunistudent]

But I feel like if I make plans I look desperate?