Why is it mainly men in their 50’s who hit on me/mid 40’s?

[Anonymous]

Because I know I don’t look old or “mature”.

[MrOracle]

From what I can see in the pic, you look fantastic for mid-40s. Having said that, you still aren't in your 20s, or 30s. I have no idea what your history is (and I don't necessarily need to know), but a lot of 40-something men want children and it's within their ability to get a woman who is in her late 20s or early 30s who can still provide them. That's especially true if you are mostly focusing on men at the higher-end of the range.

Men in their 50s have fewer options, and can't get women in their late 20s or early 30s very easily, so they're more willing to accept a woman in her 40s and accept that they aren't going to have children. They're also more willing to accept a woman who may already have children, especially if they're grown and out of the house (or nearly so).

Average Social Market Value, by age and sex.

The harsh reality is that women have their best options for relationships in their 20s - their Social Market Value is sky high, and if they take advantage of that while they have it, they can set up their lives very well. Later on in life, their options are far more limited. And, yes, age impacts men as well, but we peak much later than women and we stay higher for longer - despite starting FAR below and having to build our value ourselves. Women's value is automatic - as soon as she hits puberty and becomes fertile, her value skyrockets without her having to do much of anything but staying slim - but the cost of that is that as her fertility window begins to close in her late 20s, her SMV begins to fall back to earth, right at the time that men's value (on average) is FINALLY starting to rise, with the cross-over point happening right around 30 years of age. Note: the area under the line on each graph is identical - it's the same amount of points, just distributed differently over time.

Make no mistake: you're able to do better than most women your age because you've maintained yourself very well, so you have options that most women you age do not - but they're never going to be the options you had when you were younger. That's just how it is. It's no different than young men - men in their teens and 20s are largely considered to be worthless by most women when it comes to serious relationships, because they have little to offer in terms of status and resources, and young women can pick and choose and hold incredibly high standards - and they typically care nothing about the feelings of the men the pass over, and there's nothing that most men can do to change that. Well, the pendulum swings the other way when you're older.

[MrOracle]

So, you went from mid-40s to 30? I'm confused. But it doesn't matter. The graph is helpful to know where the average woman (or man) is at a given age. Your fitness is going to put you above average to some extent, but it's not a complete exemption from the rule.

There's no getting around the fact that men place a HUGE premium on youth and fertility - which is why women's SMV spikes so high in her late teens and 20s - but the corollary is that as your fertility window begins to close, that value goes away, and you have to get by on what's left - and you are competing against younger girls who still have that high value.

Of course, not all men can get those younger women, but if you are dating top tier men, THEY certainly can, and they usually will - at least until they get old enough that they can't anymore.

I get that this isn't news that you want to hear, but this isn't anything new or anything that I invented - this has ALWAYS been true, and it used to be taught from mothers and grandmothers to daughters and granddaughters. Feminism changed that, and taught women that "hot girl summer" lasts forever - but Feminism set out to destroy male-female relationships intentionally, and had no problem with lying to women. I'm just telling you what your grandmother (and probably your mother) already knew.

[Whatever2929292]

I can't read their minds they are attracted to you. Every man is different. So if you really aren't into the kinds of men who hit on you (or maybe you are I don't know) then maybe you should also try and ask people out as well otherwise your only options are going to be the ones that approach you.

If you go out with them on a first date and they seem like good people then great and if they seem really creepy or they are only trying to have sex then dump them. If a man asks for sex (or for men a woman) on the first date dump him

[proNutro]

At least you’re getting men.
Being 21 you’d think I’d be out there dating and so on. NOPE. I don’t sleep around or anything so that’s a huge chunk of guys out of the equation.
Then there’s guys who have dated such crazy women that they don’t want to date again out of fear the next will be the same. Then there’s the whole sexual harassment stuff. Man the list goes on and on.


Being mid 40s and dating someone in their 50s isn’t bad

[Zeldaismyqueen]

Try something more youthful, google aritizia’s Melina leather pants. Jeans and a shirt is kinda boring and old persony

[Agagagagaga]

Wearing jeans and a t-shirt is what old people do? Ohhh-kay lol. I’m really just baffled at the stupidity of your statement.

[Zeldaismyqueen]

@Agagagagaga you are 40 years old, of course you’re baffled

[Agagagagaga]

Yes, that someone would be so stupid as to suggest that jeans and a t-shirt is what old people wear.

What do guys wear when they go out on a date with you? Assuming people find you attractive, which would be hard to imagine.

You may as well have said wearing t-shirts is sooo last century. 😂

Do you know how fucking retarded you sound? Probably not, because you make stupid ass statements about t-shirts and jeans as if they belong in the world of ruffled collars and cod pieces. You’re spectacularly stupid and I’m going to enjoy reading what other nuggets of advice you dole out for people. I’m guessing shoes are old fashioned also? Wearing a coat? What is this, the Middle Ages?

Fucktwit.

[Zeldaismyqueen]

@Agagagagaga let me try again. You are a 40 year old man, spending time on a website designed for teenager girls to ask teenage boys questions, insulting people half your age. Isn’t that a bit… creepy? Shouldn’t an old man have better things to do with his time?

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

Its the phone. They love that phone. I know I do. Will you go out with me?

Also it possibly could be how you carry yourself. A calm mature demeanor certainly attracts my attention.
But mostly its the phone.

[Asker]

Why the phone?

[MCheetah]

You look old/mature. That's not a "bad" thing, but don't kid yourself. You look 38-40. The hands are a strong indicator of that, too.

Also, I know who you are. You go to the gym a lot, you said. But you still look your age. And that's not a negative.

[Th3ft]

I don’t know. Just from what I can see I would probably hit in you. But some times it is an intimidation issue that causes these questions. Like do you have a resting bitch face? Are you engaging and fun to talk to and be around? Some times all the difference between interacting with a woman is just being around a woman is if she makes eye contact and smiles.

[laraWM]

You look beautiful. Don't worry, guys tend to hit on younger women anyway.
I am hit on bu guys much older than me quite often

[Honesttguy]

Because took years for guys to get confidence so finnally at 50 they reached maturity, rest? Well they still learning so wait 20 more years for them to catch up

[RealMarek]

It is because those men in their mid-50s have a chance with a lot of women in their 40s and don’t find women their age attractive. I’ve known very good looking women in their 40s who have trouble finding men their age who want to date them.

[VikingWarLord]

The younger generation of dudes have been puussified and emasculated due to feminism.

Then you add on top of that the sexual harassment accusations, etc.. and younger dudes are walking away from women period.

[proNutro]

Literally spot on.
I’m 21 and literally cannot date because guys instantly are just like “nah” because of other batshit crazy women😬

[VikingWarLord]

@proNutro MGTOW <<<

[proNutro]

Don’t get me wrong there’s so many shit women out there but it’s the same for men I’m afraid. It’s incredibly sad seeing men almost totally turn away from women especially for one like myself who is a romantic and wants nothing but love and all those fireworks.

[kinggeorge007]

Because it's the normal way things work? 5 years of age difference is considered to be optimal and is the natural instinct of not given any hard and attractive reasons.

[Asker]

No, I’m 30... men in their 40’s and 50’s hit on me

[kinggeorge007]

Ah, your title was a little confusing. So if that's the case, those men are just attracted to younger women. That's not the majority. You seem to have a nice and fit body to me. I'm 35. I'm certainly attracted to you. So it's not that only men in their 40s or 50s are attracted to you.

[DarkWinterNights]

Are you 30-35 or mid 40’s? And who do you want hitting on you? Guys tend to be the most attracted to younger women, whereas younger men have a much lower dating success rate than older men.

[anylolone]

Sorry, you hit the wall.

Also, what are you complaining about? I'm mostly hit on by brats! I hit the wall too, WTF? I don't look perpetually 18 anymore!
Well, at least I get to teach pedo bait to not be pedo bait.

[Reaper1985]

most guys are likely to date younger women they find attractive. plus you seem to have a healthy figure.

[ChrisMaster69]

They will like what they see.

it’s really one of those things to ask them.

[spartan55]

Your profile says you are 30-35 so I am very confused.

[abc3643]

She is 30.
It's men in their 40s and 50s who show interest.

[Jamie05rhs]

It's probably your style of dress.
(Which isn't bad, by the way. But it does kind of have a mature/vintage vibe to it.)

[Asker]

I live in Los Angeles, and this is what girls wear

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, I didn't say there was anything wrong with it. Haha

[Staximus]

Because you are in your 30's, and people in their 30's and 40's don't look that much different. Welcome to adult life, you're in your 30's, not in high school anymore

[AviatorTom]

Probably because you look hot and they are attracted to you.

[Avicenna]

They hit on you because they find you attractive. It's not rocket science.

[KrakenAttackin]

Those are men who are relatively within your age group. What do you expect?

[Asker]

I messed up the grammar... I’m 30

[citygirlxox]

I mean mabey cuz u look younger and men love younger women?

[bamesjond0069]

Because men your age are with girls in their 20s. So what men does that leave for you to date?

[Asker]

No, I’m 30. This is a grammatical error

[bamesjond0069]

So 30 yr old men are with 20s so your normal pool of men is 40 and up.

[Asker]

Well, when I was 21, the only men who talked to me were in their 50’s

[bamesjond0069]

Do you live in a nursing home?

[JohnK123]

Well I mean if ur 45 and the guy is 50 it’s only a five year difference and that’s not very uncommon

[Asker]

No, I’m 30... grammar was wrong

[JohnK123]

Oh nvm then lmao where ya from

[Asker]

Los Angeles

[JohnK123]

Oh no way I’m like 30 mins from LA

[Asker]

But yeah.. only men 50 and up talk to me

[JohnK123]

Do u try talking to guys your age or younger?

[IsoUser]

To be perfectly honest girls in there 40's are very career driven and self assured, Now You Know

[Asker]

I’m not in my 40’s... that was a typo. I’m 30.

[Intothevoid666]

Because men like younger women? It’s not a joke when we say 18-25 yr old women are the most attractive to men of all ages.

[GreatnessBack]

Probably... their type...
I dunno.

People just have a look that attracts others.

[altaboy]

You're looking pretty g--oh wait! I'm over 40! Sorry, I'll move along.

[RuthlessAggression]

Isn't it common for an older man to date a younger woman though?

[Iron_Man]

I don’t see a problem with that at all most guys even go younger

[OddBeMe]

They just hsve more confidence. Unfounded confidence.

[007kingifrit]

that's the normal dating spread at your age, 40 year olds date 30 yea rolds

[dustybiker]

You asked this with the same image months ago..

[Marianna546]

Troll

[dustybiker]

@Marianna546 lol

[Marianna546]

Hahhaha

[Anonymous]

Even " old" or mature men appreciate and want a fresh beauty 😍. 😂

[jshm2]

They want to "ragdoll" you, as a fetish. Probably.

[boobliker]

because you look so good to us and not too young

[Asker]

I’m actually 30. It’s a typo in my title

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

What age group do you want men to hit on you from?

[maximumpower]

b/c they know you love trolling for complements.

[Joker_]

men in their 40s also hit me

[howdidireachhere]

IMAO😭😭

[In_Trance]

I'm mean you can't really blame them

[Luckycharms12]

No idea look nice tho

[Anonymous]

Anonymous 30-35 who is mid 40's 🤣🤣🤣

[Jackson619]

You must be very attractive

[unknown17550697]

I'd hit on you too

[JohnK123]

Dang haha

[insteadfew]

Are you lesbian?

[alexneonalex]

Guys hit on you bc you’re sexy probably lol

[jimmy2]

Dang almost that age

[Asker]

I’m 30. Grammar is wrong

[Bigjake1019]

I’d hit on you sexy