Why is it that some guys refrain from reciprocating while trying to pursue or even when you are already in a relationship with a girl, and by this I mean that some guy just let the girl plan all the dates, carry the conversation, send all the good morning/goodnight and thinking of you texts, be In charge of the entertainment in the relationship overall... why do y'all do this? Like this guy basically.
Guys, Why do some of y'all not reciprocate?
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come see me again with this in 1 year😂😂😂, right now I'm burned out, I'm exhausted I need break from heavy lifting, and I need to go rethink my life honestly. Being the one who does all the work to keep a relationship going is depressing and exhausting and I'm done with all that I need a rest!
I'm just gonna be honest and tell you I'm a virgin, may be this is why i am always doing the heavy lifting in relationships, may be men get tired of waiting and then make me do all the work as a punishment..
Well maybe you should just date from church and get married quickish? Nobody appreciates having their time wasted. I think that might be your underlying difficulty.
You have a point, I never thought sex was a big factor in relationships, I though dating and waiting to have sex wouldn't be an issues if needs like, respect, good conversations, support, dates, affection (aka hugs), thoughtful gifts and attention were met but now I'm seeing that i was probably wrong, sex is important to others and i need to accept that fact.
I see sex as a great thing!, i have nothing against it at all but personally I want to adhere to my religion regarding sex you know yeah, like i feel selfish so for once I want to put my God first and listen to him, most people who have followed the God that i serve in terms of sex are really happy about their decision heck i even have people i don't know who motivate me to adhere fully to my Gods word when they hear about my religion!. I respect you regarding your beliefs and I sure do hope you find a girl who will reciprocate and be exactly what you are seeking.
I'm married actually, I'm also polyamorous and looking for another woman to grow our family. I'd certainly take a second wife if it were allowed, but apparently that's still taboo even though nothing else is anymore.
As for God's word, I'm fairly certain it's been so garbled by the telephone game that you're pretty much left doing the best you can.
Anyone who claims absolute certainty in their interpretation is guilty of pride and vainglory.
Personally though, I left the catholic church because of the hoarding of wealth, hypocrisy and lack of people who actually practice what they preach.
I suppose that makes me some kind of protestant, though I don't really have a group anymore. Oh well.
This past year I got into a heated argument with an atheist who said me and people who are believers in God like me are ruining the world by believing in God, he also told me that I do not know the truth regarding if whether not choosing to believe in God is wrong or right. You too here are telling me that I'm guilty of pride and vainglory etc. and I do not understand why you do this,
why can't we stop judging each other as people and just agree to disagree, we all have completely different life experiences so we can never see things the same way, to me God is real and everything the bible says is the truth. I try hard not judge anybody regarding the choices they choose to make with their life and I never insult them either but I never get the same treatment in return, but its okay.
you can't possibly tell the state of my emotions from the text, do you not know that texts result in communication barriers, you may have read my text in a melt down like tone and perceived it that way but that doesn't necessarily make it true, I was not having a melt down.
I am a Christian, so i read the Christian bible, there are like 8 different versions of it and I read three versions and they all basically say the exact same thing when you read them. All bible Christian bible versions say the exact same thing in either modern English/Historic English.
Okay, so which parts do you take or leave? Do you think it's a series of parables or a literal historical document?
I'm glad you have faith, but it's not something that is beyond discussion or something you should use to elevate yourself above others.
I'm not judging you, I'm just hoping to make you think.
Being a person of faith doesn't require you to be a zealot or to abandon individuality or critical thinking. It's that kind of behaviour that had Jesus flipping tables if I recall.
The Christian bible teaches humility, gentleness and Love and compassion for all people, so I do not see myself better than anyone because its true i'm not better than anybody and being a christian does not make me better than anyone, i'm like everyone else i make mistakes, i'm not perfect therefore i do not put myself on a pedestal because i do not belong there.
i take everything the bible says, its all highly valuable and helpful information for me, Jesus flipped tables out of anger, Jesus was born in human form so that means he experienced all the sensations a regular human endures, including anger, we are allowed to experience and express anger appropriately as Christians because it is a natural emotion but letting your anger drive you to commit sins like murder for example, that's not acceptable. and Jesús did not harm anyone by flipping tables, he did because seeing that the people turned the church which is the "house of God" in a spiritual sense, into a market place angered him and with good reason, can you imagine going to your house and seeing people selling things on your property, would you not be angry?, that angered Jesus and yes Jesus is God.
me being a Christian is the healthiest thing i have ever done for myself personally, also everyone Cristian or not has a personality, being a Christin does not hinder you from having a personality at all!, I know many highly intelligent critical thinkers who are Christian and i have had the pleasure of meeting them so Christianity does not hinder your critical thinking skills nor zealousness.
Different than mine I mean. My experience with the Catholics in my city has been awful. Selfish classist bullies and fairweather friends the lot of them.
From what I understood you are referring to men who have allowed the woman to have the power in the relationship and take charge and the man only plays the support role.
I don't see anything wrong in that. There is nothing wrong if the woman plans all the dates, sends him " thinking of you texts, morning texts etc" and getting him gifts. What is important is the man should appreciate and show her even more love and respect. Hence if a man reciprocates positively it is all good.
A man typically doesn't mean taking charge of a relationship only, a man can show he is a real man in many other ways as well. Just because the woman has the power in the relationship it doesn't automatically make him less of a man.
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I don't want the power, I want him to be in charge and I will reciprocate with genuine love and appreciation, I want him to be the great leader and I'll happily follow his lead, I want him to take charge of the starring wheel while I comfort him while he drives!
I just wanna be bought flowers and get asked on a date and wake up to a good Moring beautiful heck i'll even take a Good morning ugly at this point... he doesn't have to text me or all me every day noooo just when he can i'll appreciate that, its not nice to do a lot for your partner while he just swings on a hammock, playing a mini guitar... being alone is better than this, its better to just treat yourself well and focus on yourself and your own business
why do i always attract men who let me chase after them, take care of them while they basically swing on a hammock with shades on playing a mini guitar, while i on the other hand work hard trying to keep things interesting, start convos, etc. honestly i really can't take any of this..
I completely understand. I think some men willing give that power to the woman to lead. I know that this typically does not appeal to a woman and they want men to take lead.
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