Guys, Why do guys ignore you one day & then talk to you the next?

[Anonymous]

Do guys deliberately act hot and cold when they like a girl?

[RemoErdosain]

I think it's important to create such space early at the beginning, otherwise the girl can become really clingy and you don't want such a thing. Same goes to women with men, though. If you want your space, create it early on

[Asker]

I mean in situation where guy and girl are not together yet. Do guys act hot and cold as a tactic to get her attention?

[RemoErdosain]

Especially when they're not together yet, it's necessary to create that space. If you message every day during this phase, and then it gets slower afterwards, they'll think you're not that much into them. To answer your question directly, though, a lot of people do it just to play games, unfortunately, and, like you say, get someone's attention

[Asker]

Guy has started to ignore my Snapchat stories. He used to watch them enthusiastically. What do u think? We’ve talked before through Snapchat and he seemed receptive and friendly. What do u think?

[RemoErdosain]

Maybe he found someone else, or got bored it wasn't getting anywhere, I don't know. I don't think he's doing it on purpose if he used to watch enthusiastically, so I guess it's something else

[Asker]

So u think if I was more aggressive with him I could eventually get him?

[Asker]

Do u think*

[RemoErdosain]

No, I think if he lost interest, he's lost it, and that's it, but you're welcome to try and reach out again. A lot of times we end up ghosting someone on the Internet just because we're having a bunch of chats and can't really keep up with all of them, so without realizing it, you forget it and it's gone. If that is the case, then it's possible that reaching out again will get him back

[Asker]

He hasn’t ignored my messages.

[RemoErdosain]

Oh, yeah, I meant more like not keeping the conversation going by starting it, I shouldn't have used the word "ghosting". Anyway, if he has replied to you always, I think there is still a chance

[Asker]

He has so far replied to me when I’ve messaged and quickly too.
So I don't know if he’s playing mind games with me.

[RemoErdosain]

If he replies quickly and all, I don't see the problem. He seems less enthusiastic in his replies? He used to start the conversations and now he doesn't?

[Asker]

Yeah

[RemoErdosain]

Well, the fact he stopped and seems less enthusiastic in the replies shows a bit less interest, to be fair, but it doesn't mean it can't be regained. Is it just an online thing, or you actually met with this guy or plan on meeting him soon?

[Asker]

It’s just a online thing.

[RemoErdosain]

Yeah, the thing with online is that it's so hard to maintain that spark. You might want to do more with him than just share snaps and chat. Have you tried phone calls? Doing more stuff together? I don't know

[Anonymous]

They are playing mind games. That should be a red flag. So what's the truth and what's a manipulative lie. And what are their real and true motives. Or is it all just a lie and manipulation. A dangerous game that could leave you hurt. Are they really worth the effort and the risks you got to wonder and ask yourself. It's also immature to act like that and clearly they have some growing up to do isn't it.

[spartan55]

Girls can't seem to understand that there are other things going on with guys that GASP, have nothing to do with them. This does not mean they are more or less interested, or whatever. It means they are guys.