Single Guys, who are NOT femininsts, how would you feel if a girl messages you on social media and after introductory conversation asks if you?

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Single guys, who are NOT femininsts, how would you feel if a girl messages you on social media and after introductory conversation asks if you want to date her? Very direct and straight to the point.

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NoUsernameSelected · Accepted Answer

So I haven't read her being a feminist, right? Because I wouldn't want that.

But I have nothing against a girl approaching me. In fact, I think it is the old way. Women should initiate contact, they did before, like dropping a handkerchief on a gentleman's way so he would bring it back to her and see it as invitation to get to know her. Today it would be something like keeping unnecessarily long eye-contact and similar.
I don't think it's a good idea that randomly approach women has been the new norm, it can come off as creepy. I only did it because it was the new norm. But now I'm much more looking for hints and so on - made the whole experience better and easier to swallow than constant rejection on apps.

So yes, approach me. I'm also not as dense anymore compared to a few years ago. I approach women rarely if I haven't seen a hint of interest. So approaching isn't even necessary if you make sure I see your hints.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I'd be concerned, because women in general NEVER do that. So I'd think it was a troll, catfish, prank, or whatever. But if we had a video chat and her intentions seemed genuine, then yes, I'd be open to it (again, cause women never do this). Even if it was someone who I didn't find physically attractive, I'd always be willing to give them a chance. Maybe we'd be friends (not to say I'd "Friendzone" her). This is because, unlike many women, I actually have EMPATHY for those willing to ask someone out. So while I don't expect something like this to happen, I'm very much open to it.

Also, I agree with you about not letting the soyboys answer. They have no spine, so their answers would not matter and be pretty irrelevant, anyway. I blocked most of the because they're such annoying little pricks, but I know some of them are "Still Alive" on here.

HawkPerception · Answer

It depends on how attracted I am to her. I don't just say yes because a woman asks me out. I admit that it really increases my interest in a girl if she makes the first move. But I have to be physically attracted to agree to date her. Getting to know her personality can come during the time that we date.

Intothevoid666 · Answer

I don't know if I’d be considered a feminist or not by ur definition but I’d be willing to give it a shot but the odds that the guy actually likes u back is much slimmer I think than if the guy has approached u but then again I don't know. Could def work

Turtlewax1994 · Answer

Lol I’d be shocked, But if I’m in the right mind state and mutual interest then I’d go for it Help please with my question?

Avcfhcic · Answer

This is like my dreams 😂
I'm such a shy guy, I have faced rejection many times and never been asked out.
I hate the whole games played and if a girl I thought was pretty and the chat was good, asked me out, I'd have to be careful to not sound so thrilled 😂
Anyone can ask anyone out and shouldn't feel ashamed of it

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

I actually like a woman who knows what she would like or is into. So if she's into me I'd appreciate it honestly and I'd go forward it doesn't take any power from me and it doesn't give her more so any. My ego will be intact and insecurities will be out the door.

VRCXZ · Answer

I have dealt with these scams too much in the past to fathom that it would actually be a real woman and not some scambot. I almost fell for it once. I am not letting that happen again.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I would need a little more to go on than a little bit of introductions. Are we even compatible? Do we have any similar interests? Do we live close? If we did a lot of talking and there was chemistry sure.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Flattered, and possibly pleased- but I'm not quite sure if I'm what you're looking for here; my objections to Feminism are with its bitter and brutal realities, not so much its stated goals.

maximumpower · Answer

consider the phrasing - it's a bit different than asking for a date.
if you ask if he wants to, that requires him to commit and allows you to keep your options open.
if you're going to ask him for a date, then come out and do it.
don't mince words.

20yearsolder · Answer

I'm not a single guy but if I was, I would absolutely love it. I would be flattered

Single Guys, who are NOT femininsts, how would you feel if a girl messages you on social media and after introductory conversation asks if you?

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