Rebound or overthinking?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve got this friend, known him since high school we always talk here and there. He usually comes to me when he needs advice about girls and Vice versa. It’s usually like that. We’ve got a lot in common always have. He hints at things here and there I don’t take it to heart. He was in a relationship and came to me for advice. I gave it to him but soon blocked him on all social media because the advice he was asking I felt impacted more then it should. So I was straight forward and told him. That out of respect we shouldn’t message anymore. So she ended up cheating on him. They broke up. He had one his friends message me telling me to text him he tried on other social media to get ahold of me. So I did. He’s hinting at us being more. He’s even got baby fever. I’m not trying to rebound. This all sounds like one. Maybe I’m just overthinking. But no way can someone just move on that fast can they? I know he wanted to try in the past but I always wasn’t in the right mind set. Now he’s being a bit more straight forward.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t entertain it. Who knows what his motive is, like whether it’s him trying to rebound or just seeking advice because you’ve been that person for him in the past. But the situation with you two isn’t exactly a friendship when you feel like he’s hinting to wanting more. In fact, that is where I’d feel kind of insulted because if he did have feelings then why didn’t he pick you? Why were you only good enough to be a shoulder to lean on but not date? On top of these things, the feelings that prompted you to end the friendship in the first place would likely present themselves again should you reopen that door. I know sometimes we want to give people the benefit of the doubt and hope that they’d change, but 9/10 they are set in their ways and you’ll eventually kick yourself at some point for letting him back in and going through that stuff another time. I just don’t see any benefit.

[Own-classic]

Did you have feelings for him and does he know? And I feel maybe he probably likes you and didn't want to ruin the relationship you guys have. You guys sound like what I went through. Your perspective on mine would help as well if you can check it out. emotional connection like that can have many meaning. Hidden feelings and him finding each and everyway to reach you probably means he does like you, or needed you since you both rely on each other for advice.

[theocray19]

The fact that he brought kids so early seems more like a rebound than being honest. While he can be making up for time lost it doesn't seem to be the case. He should try to court you if he is serious w his intentions.

Too many red flags

[20yearsolder]

I don't know how long he's been with the other girl that you broke up with but if it was a serious relationship then he shouldn't be dating anybody for 6 months to a year.

[Asker]

They we’re together for 6 months

[20yearsolder]

It's still a rebound, she should take some time off. 6 months from now If you're still available and you're interested then he should pursue you or vice versa